Life After Your Life Partner Dies
Accept help to get back to life again after loss
Your life partner has died, and you don't know which way to walk. You put one foot in front of the other, but you can't seem to get anywhere.
I was like that for a long time, then...
The best advice I got was to accept help. I am a giver, not a receiver, but I had to learn to do just that:
You have the resources to help you - get back on the bus
Try them, you will be surprised.
- your friends
- your family
- online resources
- the library
- your doctor
- your church
Plant a garden, or just one plant - Watching something grow will remind you to be alive
We can do anything we want, as long as we stick to it long enough.
- Helen Keller
Take yourself to the beauty parlour
(even if you're male)
Go and have a facial, or a massage.
Try a new hairstyle.
Get your nails done. (Yes, sir, you too!)
The pampering will make you feel special again.
Life is changed
Learn to live again...— Unknown
Watch and be inspired - on YouTube
An amusing story
I went to the doctor's a few weeks after Paul was killed.
She asked me if I had any problems, and I told her a few things.
She said, "Anything else worrying you?"
I said, "No. It's silly."
"I'm worried I'll never have sex again."
"I know you and Paul had a very vigorous sex life. Here's a book that will help."
I tool the book and began to read.
An eighty year-old woman had exactly the same problem! I laughed out loud and decided I was normal. Got my perspective back.
A truly helpful book - get your copy at Amazon
I read and re-read this book when my last husband was killed. It is poignant and amusing and I found great solace in the pages.
When people told me
I'd never make it,
I listened to the one person
who said I could: me— Shannon Sharpe
Some blogs that could help - from others who have learned to live again
- Getting On With Life After a Partner Dies - NYTimes.com
Every year millions of Americans are thrust into the role of widow and widower, forced to learn how to cope on their own.
- Carrie Brillstein: Life After My Husband's Death: How Art Renewed My Soul
Eighteen months ago my husband Bernie Brillstein died...After several months of mourning and feeling a bit lost I wondered how do I get my life back on track?
- Getting On With Life After A Partner Dies : The Love Project Inc.
Inspiration for a better life. Blogs and videos to help build and support self-Empowerment.
Butterflies are a symbol of new life - adopt one as your talisman
The story of a love is not important. What is important is that one is capable of love. It is perhaps the only glimpse we are permitted of eternity.— Helen Hayes
Deconstructing, and Reimagining your life
make an altered book
Use the techniques in the book below to reinvent yourself.
Make an altered book to show where you've come from, and where you are headed.
You can add to it whenever you want to change direction.
Alter a book like your life is altered - Buy your copy on Amazon
Make a beautiful piece of art to work through your grief that your life is altered forever.
Rejoice in the opportunity to reimagine your life as you alter an old book.
Over every high mountain there is a path, though it may not be visible from the valley - Unknown
Walk in the natural world - and find yourself again
Start wearing colourful clothes
even if you don't feel like it
You will be looking brighter and people will respond to that.
If you look drab, you'll feel drab.
Browse through the family photos
and make a scrapbook about your partner's life
This can be for you or for someone important to your partner
Let your sparks fly - get back to life - now!
Have no fear of moving into the unknown. Simply step out fearlessly, knowing that I am with you.
A truly beautiful website for you - Enjoy!
- Coping with the death of a spouse or partner
The death of a spouse or partner brings incomprehensible grief. Adjusting to your new identity will take time, and the journey may seem unbearably sad. Find support in others as you work through the stages of grief and learn to live with the changes
This is the best book! - Get yourself or a friend a copy on Amazon
I didn't read this one early in my grieving, but it opened up the door to getting back to life.
I know you will love it.
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