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Life as a Perfectionist

Updated on November 13, 2014

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Definition of Perfectionism

Being a perfectionist means striving to be the best. To do everything in a meticulous manner, analyzing each project thoroughly right down to microscopic details before even starting the project, is a sickness of the perfectionist. .

A perfectionist will set high standards for themselves. She or he will experience great pain or guilt for not achieving those standards. Many times the goal is unachievable, because there is no such thing as perfect. At least in the perfectionist's viewpoint!

Some may consider it as a neurotic behavior trait of this person.

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Normal versus Neurotic Perfectionist - Are You Either of These?

According to professionals who have studied perfectionism, there are at least two types. The neurotic perfectionist and normal perfectionist. Both strive to be the best but one is healthier.

A normal perfectionist gets a real sense of pleasure for their achievements. She or he will beam at being applauded at by others for the wonderful work done on the project, no matter what it is. This person has a more balanced life.

As a neurotic perfectionist, there will never be real satisfaction for his or her work. Even when appraised by others. This perfectionist will think, it could have been better. They will see the flaws that most people will never see.

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Traits of a Perfectionist - Mainly the Neurotic Type

  1. Often are overachievers.
  2. Are critical of themselves.
  3. Spot tiny mistakes and imperfections.
  4. Perfectionists are more judgmental and hard on themselves.
  5. Push toward their goals by a fear of not reaching them.
  6. Anything less than a perfectly met goal is failure.
  7. Expectations are set too high and often goals are set out of reach.
  8. Perfectionists see the goal and nothing else.
  9. Tend to dwell on negative emotions when their high expectations go unmet.
  10. Many perfectionists are self-critical and suffer from low self-esteem.

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I Am a Perfectionist - Bet You Didn't Know That

As long as I can remember everything needed to be perfect. I only thought there was one kind of perfectionist and never considered myself as neurotic. Hell, I'm not crazy! Okay, maybe a little!

I have a hard time with compliments and sometimes I take criticism a little bit personal (but only sometimes...).

Everything is flawed and imperfect. I am a detailed individual and look for the smallest of details. Neurotically taking apart things a normal person would not. I mean a non-perfectionist. I AM NORMAL!!! I am! Really, I am!

Being a perfectionist does not mean everything is in its place. Too much time is place on any given project. Often not knowing when enough is enough (as in some of my very long lenses). Keeping it simple is not in my vocabulary.

While time ticks away on one project, other projects suffer. Often perfectionists like me will neglect our health and not take time out for ourselves.

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Truth About Being a Perfectionist - Clearing Up Some Misconceptions

  1. We are not snobs. Many of us are introverted.
  2. Perfectionists don't think they are better than you. We just don't want you to see our flaws.
  3. We do have a sense of humor, you just don't get it!
  4. Tend to work harder and rework things until it is near perfect.

Is It Annoying To Be Around A Perfectionist?

Sometimes We Can Not Stand Being Around Ourselves

I am far from being conceded. But I do know things that I am good at. When I allow someone to do something that I know I am better at, I have to sit back and accept it for what it is.

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Naturally Born as a Perfectionist - Or Not

Neither of my parents were perfectionist. Despite that they did have a couple of traits with things that needed to be perfect. My mom did have this obsession to be perfect in her looks, with her hair and makeup being just so and her clothes perfect. And my dad was a perfectionist when it came to the outside bushes. He would keep trimming and trimming until they were symmetrical. Since he had a hard time getting them perfect, these large bushes always ended up as small bushes.

As long as I can remember, I have had this trait of perfectionism. The same goes for my daughter. Both of us have worked at shedding this problem and taking things as they are. Not always the easiest thing to do.

Do you believe this is a trait we are born with?

Yes, I believe you are born that way.

Yes, I believe you are born that way.

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    • anonymous 4 years ago

      iim a perfectionsist :D

    • spritequeen lm 6 years ago

      I think in some aspects, it's created by environment, but for the most part, it's a trait we're probably born with.

    • Carol 6 years ago from Arkansas

      Yes, pretty much. Although being surrounded by perfectionists from early childhood probably can push a person in that direction.

    • David Stone 6 years ago from New York City

      Born with the inclination, but it's a breakable habit.

    No, it is something that develops later in life.

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      • ratetea 4 years ago

        No, I think people may have some innate tendencies towards perfectionism, but I think it is also cultural and learned, and I think people can overcome it as well.

      • anonymous 5 years ago

        IMO, it develops over time!

      • boutiqueshops 6 years ago

        I'm quite the perfectionist myself & really hard on myself about alot of things. But looking back on my life, I think it's a learned behavior we develop in response to circumstances or people around us as we grow up. Maybe certain events or disappointments add to that. Don't know.

      • lizziehumphreys1 6 years ago

        i dont think anyone's born naturally a certain way, it's the influences from outside from them being little that shape how they think and behave.

      • Missmerfaery444 6 years ago

        I think, while we may be born more susceptible to being either one way or the other, outside influence will determine whether we are or not.

      • happynutritionist 6 years ago

        I think it may be learned by how your parents raise you.

      • Barbara Radisavljevic 6 years ago from Templeton, CA

        No. it might be brought about by wanting to please someone in your life whom you believe expects you to be perfect (when that isn't really what they do expect.)

      • ChaunyWrites 6 years ago

        Not sure weather it's a trait some are born with, but this lens was interesting, thank you for sharing. I had to pick an answer to comment though.

      • awakeningwellness 6 years ago

        I think it is a learned trait that often starts as an attempt to please someone or get attention.

      • Karnel 6 years ago from Lower Mainland of BC

        I think it comes over time, I never used to be a perfectionist when I was younger, but as time goes by I seem to be more harder on myself, everything needs to be just right

      Do you live with a perfectionist?

      Do you feel like you live with someone who has to lower their standards to be with you? Because they are so damn perfect!

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      Is Perfectionism More of a Gender Thing? - Do You Live With a Person Who Has This Trait?

      Do you feel like you live with someone who has to lower their standards to be with you? Because they are so damn perfect!

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          RGebbiePhoto 6 years ago

          This is a lens I can relate with a little too well...

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          David Stone 6 years ago from New York City

          Good fun, Sandy.

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          Karnel 6 years ago from Lower Mainland of BC

          Sandy what a great lens

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          awakeningwellness 6 years ago

          Love the t-shirts!

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          tandemonimom lm 6 years ago

          Great job!

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          Mary Beth Granger 6 years ago from O'Fallon, Missouri, USA

          Nice Zazzle products...well done.

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          aishu19 6 years ago

          Interesting take on perfection :) it isnt a bad thing always, until it starts consuming you I guess...

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          Heather Burns 6 years ago from Wexford, Ireland

          well done perfect lens!

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          Ann Hinds 6 years ago from So Cal

          I am not a perfectionist but my husband is. It has taken 30 years for us to meet in the middle. Great lens.

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          ChaunyWrites 6 years ago

          I'm not a perfectionist either, but sometimes I have acted in some of those manners, but wouldn't say that I'm completely a perfectionist. But wow, I do know some people that seem to be like this. Yet I wouldn't want to start viewing my friends in any particular light, I think it would make me react to them differently. But again, this was very very interesting, wow, very very good lens.

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          ChaosAndCritters 6 years ago

          I love it! I am a non-neurotic perfectionist and consider myself to have a very balanced life... and yet I know there are people out there who think that I should lower my standards... um, excuse me? I'm a nurse! If I get lazy or complacent it could kill someone. I know nurses who are more "yeah, whatever" kind of people.... they scare me!

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          Sandy Mertens 6 years ago from Frozen Tundra

          @ChaosAndCritters: I for one am very happy that you are a perfectionist in your work.

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          Julia M S Pearce 6 years ago from Melbourne, Australia

          I have a few perfectionist traits but I don't think I am one.A wonderful lens,very interesting.

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          Barbara Radisavljevic 6 years ago from Templeton, CA

          I know an only child who was a perfectionist. She truly was intelligent and did excel at almost anything she attempted. But this turned out not to be healthy and the first year she left her very supportive parents and private school to go to Stanford and an entirely different cultural situation, she became bipolar and almost died on account of it. Fortunately she didn't, and she got some help and is now married and living pretty normally. She probably won't be our next president -- her original goal, but she has a successful career in an interesting field.

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          Rhonda Albom 6 years ago from New Zealand

          I don't have time to be a perfectionist. :)

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          audrey07 6 years ago

          I think always striving to be perfect must be really stressful. I have learned to lower my standards somewhat over the years, although I'm hardly a perfectionist to start with.

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          oztoo lm 6 years ago

          Well I'm certainly not a perfectionist. I do like things to be the best they can be but I'm not about to get stressed and worry about it. Nicely done and I love the t-shirts.

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          LouisaDembul 6 years ago

          I am married to a perfectionist, and it's not easy! Think I should get him one of these t-shirts!

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          AlisonMeacham 6 years ago

          I have trained myself out of a lot of my perfectionist childhood ways! I am a lot happier since learning how to simply let things go.

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          happynutritionist 6 years ago

          People who live "messy" and imperfect lives are often in reality perfectionists...they can't live up to their own expectations and give up:-) Great lens.

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          GiftsBonanza 6 years ago

          @happynutritionist: I can be like that at times - I often give up things as I can't do them as well as I want to. I think as I get older, I get more relaxed about things :)

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          Missmerfaery444 6 years ago

          Very fascinating lens on perfectionism! I am a normal perfectionist in some areas (mostly work) as I do like everything do be just right before I let anyone else see it, but I enjoy and am fine with compliments. I think that comes from being raised to accept compliments graciously by my mum!

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          Carol 6 years ago from Arkansas

          Interesting lens. I am a perfectionist, living with a very laid back husband. Over the past 30+ years he has rubbed off a little on me and I am much less obsessive about things.:-)

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          SandraKS 6 years ago

          I am a perfectionist too but when it comes to work. Sometimes seing people not doing their job at it's perfection annoys me. Nice lens!

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          Obscure_Treasures 6 years ago

          To be a perfectionist is good but too much of the same needs to checked as that can be irritating to others!

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          spritequeen lm 6 years ago

          Great page! I am, admittedly, quite the perfectionist! Neurotic about it? Probably not. But, I DO have several of the 'normal perfectionist' qualities!

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          lizziehumphreys1 6 years ago

          good lens! :) very interesting. you might consider adding a "both the same" option to the poll, as i don't think there are more men or women, probably both the same!

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          simplyoasis 6 years ago

          Great lens Sandy, love it!! On a scale of 1-10 I'd say I'm about a 5 for perfectionist!

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          boutiqueshops 6 years ago

          I can totally relate to this page! I agonize over details because I want everything to be perfect, even understanding that there is no such thing! Well done, Sandy!

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          anonymous 5 years ago

          Interesting to note the two types of perfectionists! Nice observations.

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          DreyaB 2 years ago from France

          I call myself a 'recovering perfectionist'! I know that I am one now, acknowledge it and have broken myself of some of my habits. Nowadays though my job involves me being a perfect as possible as I'm a proofreader! It's a curse and a blessing at the same time... I blame my Dad for the traits - that's all I can say! :0)

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          Sandy Mertens 2 years ago from Frozen Tundra

          DreyaB I guess I would have to blame my dad as well. Surely did not get this from my mom.

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