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Our Love Story - A Tribute To My Husband

Updated on March 11, 2016
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My Husband, The Love Of My Life

This page is dedicated to my husband, who showed me the true meaning of love, and continues to do so to this very day. I cannot imagine how my life would be now if he hadn't been with me to show me the way.

I am truly blessed!

A great sense of humor, a winning smile, and the ability to give without expecting anything in return. A proud American, serving in Vietnam. A loving father to his son from his 1st marriage. The best friend a wife could ever have!

It didn't start out that way. It was a long journey. But we are proof that love can prevail.

All photos on this site are my own, and subject to copyright

In The Beginning....

Our first meeting was not indicative of how our lives would turn out. I attended a party, where I met my future husband. He was there with friends, and they were quite obnoxious! I asked who he was, only to learn he was the brother of the host. I kept my distance for quite some time.

Months later, his brother (the party host), died suddenly. I found myself at the wake sitting next to my future husband, and he showed me a totally different side that night. He was quite endearing, even in his grief. I spent the next few hours just sitting there, holding his hand.

He lived in small country town, about 4 hours from me. A couple of weeks later, he sent me a bus ticket, asking me to come stay for the weekend. Three weeks later, he asked me to marry him, and I said "No". But he was persistent, and 5 months later, we were married!

Husband & Wife

On May 14, 1983 in the chapel at my church, we became husband and wife. My parents were married at this church, and my grandfather had built the chapel, so it seemed the most appropriate place to hold the ceremony. We wanted a small, simple ceremony, so just a few were in attendance: my parents, brother & sister; his parents, son, and brother, and a couple of mutual friends.

Our Wedding Ceremony
Our Wedding Ceremony | Source

After the ceremony, we held a reception for our friends at a local steakhouse, then headed to our new home in the city. We didn't have a honeymoon, because he had to be back at work. The first few weeks were really wonderful.

But then his post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) kicked in, and it was something I didn't understand. He would hear a backfire, causing him to crouch on the floorboard of the pickup, screaming "Get Down! Get Down!". He crawled through bushes; he saw the enemy lurking outside the house.

We had to move out of the city. He explained that he couldn't be around so many people, because it triggered his PTSD. He was afraid he might end up shooting an innocent bystander. So two months after our marriage, he had his job transfer us out to the country.

Country Living

We set up house in a mobile home on an acre of land. I was a city girl, and really didn't want to live in the country. I didn't know anyone, and for the first few months, didn't have a vehicle or telephone. But I loved and wanted to be with my husband, and I didn't want him to suffer in the city! Little did I know the suffering that Vietnam veterans deal with every day!

Richland Chambers Lake Project where my husband worked as a Tire Man
Richland Chambers Lake Project where my husband worked as a Tire Man | Source

My husband was in charge of literally hundreds of pieces of off-road construction equipment on a lake construction project. The project ran 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, so I hardly ever saw him. When he did have time off, he either wanted to go fishing - his greatest passion - or drink beer. I didn't mind having a cocktail occasionally, but would rather spend some time with him.

We compromised, and I ended up going fishing with him & his work buddies, or going to parties where there was actually a few wives. I made a few friends, got a vehicle, and finally got out of the house a bit. But my husband's long hours & beer drinking finally got the best of us.

One night, he came home and said "I love you, but think we should get a divorce." I was stunned! He explained that he couldn't be the husband that I deserved. We both cried a lot, hugged a lot, but I finally agreed.

The In-Between Years

We were apart for 21 years. I married someone else 3 years after our divorce, then moved back to the city. It was a really bad, abusive marriage, but I hung in there for 7 years. My husband finished the lake project, then moved to another small town. He also remarried, but his only lasted for a year and a half.

We spoke a few times over the years. There was no animosity between us. His mother sent me Christmas cards, and we still had friends in common.

I thought about him quite a bit over the years. It seemed that I was always attracted to the same kind of man. I finally decided that if I was going to be with someone like my 1st husband, that it should be him.

So I called him.

Thanksgiving 2005

First meeting in 21 years

We spoke several times on the telephone. He wanted to come stay the weekend with me, but I was a bit nervous. So I suggested that we meet at his mother's house on Thanksgiving afternoon. I thought that having people around would help break the ice.

It was a bit awkward at first, but after we eased away from the family members, we got to talk a bit. He told me that he was sorry that he didn't try harder the first time around, and wanted to know if I'd give him another chance. I told him I felt the same way, and agreed to come stay the following weekend at his home.

Becoming Reacquainted

We spent a year getting to know each other all over again. He still drank quite a lot, but he was much more attentive, and we spent a great deal of time together. He asked me if I would marry him again, and of course, I said "yes!". But with one stipulation: It would have to be forever.

I leased out my house in the city, packed up all my belongings, and on December 1st, 2006, we were back together for good.

First Act of Love

To show me that he was serious, he entered alcohol rehab at the Veterans Medical Center in February 2007. He spent a week there, and came home a different person. It was good, for the most part. But without alcohol, his PTSD became worse, and he had horrific nightmares. His often dreamed of swimming in a river of fire, with bodies floating next to him.

But he was willing to stick it out. A couple of weeks later, he entered a month-long rehab program at the VA, where he learned how to live life without alcohol. It was tough having him gone for so long after we had just gotten back together, but it was worth it. I was so proud that he made the choice to become sober!

Continuing Love

My husband told me that he would prove to me that he loved me, and did so on a daily basis. Each morning, the first thing he'd say was "Good morning, Sweetheart! I love you!". At night, he'd ask "Are you safe? Are you happy?" When I'd reply "yes", he say "That's all I care about. Good night, Honey. I love you".

If it was a work day, he'd call me at lunch, to tell me he loved me. If it was a day off, he'd find me several times a day to do the same. One night, he said "I'll prove to you that I love you. I'm going to stay up all night, and let you know". It was sweet for the first 3 or 4 minutes of him saying "I love you", then amusing. But after several hours, he was driving me crazy!

Love Note from my husband
Love Note from my husband | Source

It wasn't just the words, however. He left notes to let me know that he was thinking about me. Occasionally, on his way home from work, he'd stop & pick wildflowers for me. When I'd talk to mutual friends, they'd remark "He certainly loves you! You wouldn't believe all the nice things he tells us about you!"

He always complimented me on everything I did, and always said "You're wonderful". Whether it was just a meal, or laundry, or me helping him with a project, he always said "Thank you".

I couldn't help but feel his love and appreciation, even when he wasn't around.

My husband in his concrete truck
My husband in his concrete truck | Source

Health Problems

My husband had dreamed of driving a concrete truck since he was a child, so he decided to find a job driving one. The first place he applied hired him, and he soon drove all over the county. He was an extremely hard worker, and always volunteered to work overtime, or go in on his days off. Seldom did he take a vacation or sick day, because he loved to work so much.

But after 18 months on the truck, he began having problems with his back and legs. We went to a number of doctors; he had a series of X-rays and MRI's, and after a few months, finally learned he had sciatica. This started a long journey of pain killers, none of which seemed to get rid of the pain. He finally had steroid shots in his spine, which gave him some temporary relief.

However, by the end of August 2009, he couldn't take the pain anymore. Every time he crawled up into the truck, the pain was so intense he felt faint. He decided to retire.

Retirement Days

Ways To Pass The Time

Retirement was good for him, or at least for the pain. It subsided a bit, so he didn't have to take as many pain killers. He became a couch potato, watching game shows & soap operas. I was amused that he became so addicted to television. He had a friend who was also disabled, and they would discuss the soaps every afternoon.

The Puppy, Charlie Watts
The Puppy, Charlie Watts | Source

He decided he needed a puppy. His last one had died several years ago, and he was finally ready for another. I eventually caved in, and said "why not!", knowing it would be me that would take care of it.

Charlie Watts became the newest addition to our family. He was quite a cute dog, who followed his daddy around all day. The puppy seemed to bring life back into my husband. They would go fishing together, and visit friends. I conceded it had been a good idea all along.

Just When I Thought It Couldn't Get Any Worse

In early 2010, my husband began coughing up blood. Then, a large knot grew on the side of his neck. I begged him to go to the doctor, but he refused, saying "It's just the cost of Agent Orange". But he needed a prescription refilled, so while in the office, I told the doctor about the blood. He immediately ordered x-rays, blood tests and scans, and sent us to a pulmonary specialist.

The pulmonary specialists did a series of tests as well, then called 2 weeks later. She said "You have cancer. Someone from Oncology will call you soon to let you know what to do next." We were shocked! Mainly because of the way she delivered the news.

Two more weeks went by before we got into Oncology. The doctors there told us that he had cancer in his spine, lymph nodes, and lungs. The cancer was attributed to his Agent Orange exposure. It was incurable, and without chemo, he would probably only live about 6 months. With chemo, he'd probably have a year or so.

His pain was so terrible that he said "I wish they'd just put me in a medically-induced coma, or just kill me now!". However, he decided to go for chemo, and had it a week later. He handled it pretty well, and the swelling went down in his neck. After about a week, he seemed almost like his old self. He'd putter around in the yard, and friends would come to visit. He encouraged me to go back to work, and I started on May 28, 2010.

Memorial Day Weekend, 2010

When I came home from my first day at work, my husband was sitting out in the yard, waiting for me. He was in a really good mood, and told me he felt the best he had in months. He gave me a big hug, and told me some friends were coming over to visit. It was such a beautiful, happy day!

My brother came by to visit as well, and we were visiting inside the house. My husband came in to tell me that he was going to put up new flags, since it was Memorial Day weekend. We always celebrated this holiday with friends & family.

The next thing I knew, my husband came back in the house, and slumped into the recliner. It was so hot outside that I thought he had heat stroke. I put a washcloth on his head, and tried to get him to drink some water. But he just sat there. He couldn't move nor speak, so I called 911.

Air Evac helicopter landing in our front yard
Air Evac helicopter landing in our front yard | Source

The paramedics showed up in no time, and decided he must be having a stroke. They called the air ambulance, and it landed in our front yard just minutes later. Strangely enough, I took a picture of it when it landed. I told my brother that my husband would find it amusing that he got to ride in a helicopter after all these years.

The hospital was an hour and a half away, and I think I spent the entire trip on the phone calling all the family. The ER waiting room was filled with relatives by the time I arrived. The doctors let me know they had already given him a CT scan, and it showed a brain hemorrhage, probably caused by the chemo.

I stayed with him all night. He was finally admitted to ICU, where he spent the next 4 days.

To Love Someone Is To Let Them Go

I will never forget the doctor calling me aside and saying "It's time to decide what to do". I'm surprised that I can remember it, as so much was going on through this ordeal. The doctor told me that my husband was not going to recover; he would never speak or walk again. His right side was paralyzed, and he could not swallow on his own. He was literally trapped inside his cancer-riddled and pain-filled body.

I asked the doctor what he would do if it was his wife, and he replied "I love her, so I'd let her go". He told me that we could insert a feeding tube, that could keep him alive until the cancer killed him. This could be a few weeks, or possibly a year. The cancer would grow, and in turn, so would his pain.

My husband and I had discussed this in great depth a number of times. He wanted no part of a feeding tube, and he wanted to die with dignity, at home. I'd like to say that my decision was easy because of this, but it wasn't. It was heart-breaking. So I told the doctor, "I'm going to take him home."

It took a couple of more days before I located a hospice that would come out to our home in the country. The day before they came, I got the family together at the house, and we stripped the living room of all furniture, so his hospital bed could be set up. I thought the living room would be best, as we have a huge picture window facing outdoors. Plus, any company that he had would have room to sit & visit with him.

He came home on Monday, June 8th, and got settled in. My stepson (his son), and his girlfriend agreed to help me take care of him, as the hospice nurse came only once a day, for an hour at a time. We were instructed on medications and how to give them, how to work the oxygen machine, and how to care for him in general.

We took care of my husband in shifts; I usually took the night shift, as I had a lot to do during the day. Like visiting funeral homes, and talking to a minister about services. I quit eating for the most part, and developed insomnia. I worried about my husband, and I worried about my stepson. I was so stressed and exhausted that I didn't worry about myself. Time for that later!

My husband's hair finally fell out from the chemo, making him look much older than he was. Also, without food, he was losing a lot of weight, and seemed to be just fading away. Every once in a while he'd "come to", and smile a bit, and try to talk. Mostly, he just slept.

Friends & family came & went. Most of that is a blur. His old boss from the concrete company came by every evening. He'd prop my husband up, support him with an arm around his shoulder, and just talk away. It didn't matter that my husband couldn't talk back.

On Sunday, his father came over, as well as some close friends. We got my husband up out of his bed, took him outside to the picnic table, and let him enjoy the friendship & sunshine. He seemed pretty alert & happy that afternoon.

After we put him back to bed, just about everyone left. I got in my chair beside his bed, and rested my head on his pillow. He was still for a long time, so I was surprised when he reached over, and stroked my forehead. He grabbed my hand, and started whispering to me. I have no idea what he said, but it seemed he was trying to comfort me.

Last Photo Of Us Taken Together

Last photo of us taken together - May 2010
Last photo of us taken together - May 2010 | Source

His Last Day

On Tuesday, June 15, a new hospice nurse came early in the day. She said she was there to give us some "relief", and would be there all day. I took the opportunity to go to the funeral home, then run a few errands. When I returned, I told my stepson to go do something fun. He decided to go fishing.

Visitors came & went all day. Around 8:30 in the evening, I came in and put my hand on his chest. He looked up at me, then closed his eyes & took his final breath. It sounded just like a sigh of relief.

The nurse said we needed to call out the medical examiner, but I wouldn't let her do it until my stepson came home. Instead, I contacted my husband's best friends, and they came over to say their goodbyes. We turned on the Rolling Stones - my husband's favorite band - and waited for my stepson. When he came home a little after 10 pm, he, in turn, made the nurse wait for the call.

Finally, a little before 11:00 pm, the medical examiner & funeral director arrived. We all said one last "Good-Bye", then the funeral director covered him in a quilt. I followed him out to the hearse, and watched them drive away into the night.

Final Farewells

He wanted to be buried in the front yard, under the flagpole. While it could have been arranged, the minister talked me out of it. He told me that it would be too difficult for me to face each day. So instead, I made arrangements for him to be buried at DFW National Cemetery. It is such a gorgeous place, and he is surrounded by soldiers just like himself.

Releasing the balloons at my husband's memorial service
Releasing the balloons at my husband's memorial service | Source

His memorial service was the day after the burial. It was at a small, country church near our house. The minister thought I'd gone crazy, because I told him he must wear overalls instead of a suit. I told all who were attending to wear Rolling Stones t-shirts, and many of them did. The Patriot Guard Riders came out to honor him, complete with US flags.

After the service, we released helium balloons into the air. It was such an awesome sight! It felt like we were sending our love out to him in the sky.

My husband in front of his flag pole, 2009
My husband in front of his flag pole, 2009 | Source

Love Like There Is No Tomorrow

A few months after he passed on, I had the inside of my wedding ring engraved with "Love Like There Is No Tomorrow". I am so grateful that we got back together, and that I had the opportunity to share with him the last years of his life. Even with all the health issues, it was totally worth it. I treasure the memories of the times - and the love - we shared.

We had such a good time, a good marriage, and good memories:

**Having silly conversations about things like bedbugs until the wee hours of the morning

**Finding shapes & people in the clouds

**Taking long drives in the evening to look for wild animals

**Learning how to trap wild animals and catch snakes

**Watching him dance & sing in the living room, using a light bulb as a pretend microphone

**Target shooting in the front yard

**Meals in town, followed by drives in the country

**Listening to him tell tall tales with his friends

**Going fishing, only to catch a snapping turtle

**Listening to his huge collection of Rolling Stones and Keith Richards CDs

**Building chicken coops

I miss his smile, his laugh, and his great sense of humor. Above all, I miss his love. I grieve for him, and for us. I re-live his final days almost every day. Almost everyone who knew him has "moved on", and I feel frozen in time.

Yet, I'm very grateful. We knew he was going to go, so we took the opportunity to love, because we knew there would be no tomorrow.

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Thank you so very much for taking the time to read this story of our love! While our "forever" didn't last as long as we hoped, the "forever" we did have was so very, very good!

I hope you take the time to let the people you love know it. It is probably the best gift that you can give!


Remembering & Celebrating

March 15, 2012

Today would have been my husband's 60th birthday. It's hard to believe he's been gone for 21 months! I've had a couple of people tell me today that they are "sorry".

While I appreciate the sentiment, I am not sorry. If he hadn't been born on this day 60 years ago, I wouldn't have enjoyed the times together with him, his enjoyment of life, and his love. I am grateful for today, because it is a day to celebrate his birth, and remember the life we had together.

Happy Birthday!

This article is copyright 2012-2016 Country-Sunshine, and was originally published on Squidoo on January 6, 2012

© 2012 Country Sunshine

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      Mary Norton 2 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      We just finished work in Vietnam and our hotel is right beside Hanoi Hilton. Sometimes, I go in the garden there and just sit and pray that war be no more in our world. So many Cambodians and Vietnamese still suffer from Agent Orange. I am really sorry for your husband but I do love your story.

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      Country Sunshine 3 years ago from Texas

      @gottaloveit2: The strength came from my heart and soul. When I wrote the story, the words flowed from within! I appreciate your multiple visits, and am glad the words have touched you in some way.

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      Country Sunshine 3 years ago from Texas

      @Sylvestermouse: When I first penned our story, the tears rolled down my cheeks as the words flowed. When I've gone back to read it over the years, I smile more than weep, but I still feel the old "heart-strings" being tugged. I will always love and miss him, but I'm just grateful that we found each other again after 21 years. This story was more than just a tribute; instead, I wanted everyone to keep their hearts open to love.

      Thank you for posting it on your blog, for your condolences and comments!

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      Country Sunshine 3 years ago from Texas

      @DawnRae64: It has been 4 years, 1 month and 2 weeks since he passed, and I still expect him to walk in the door. I was blessed to have such a wonderful caring person in my life! If you keep your heart open to love, it will find a way in!

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      Country Sunshine 3 years ago from Texas

      @Wednesday-Elf: When you have that special love, it is something you treasure forever. Thank you for the return visit. I too read this article on occasion, and it brings a smile to my face (and sometimes a tear or two). Bless you, Wednesday_Elf!

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      AlleyCatLane 3 years ago

      Back for a second read. This is such an amazing love story. It's wonderful that you two had a second chance to share your love for each other.

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      gottaloveit2 3 years ago

      Came by for another read - this is one of my top 10 articles here at Squidoo. So exquisitely written. I'm grateful that you had the strength to pen this one. I'm not sure I would have.

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      Dawn 3 years ago from Maryland, USA

      What a painful, beautiful, and loving story. We all hope for someone who loves us like that, and loves us to the end. I can't comment further because I can't stop crying yet.

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      Wednesday-Elf 3 years ago from Savannah, Georgia

      I last visited this page (and left a message) 3.5 years ago and your 'Love Story' is just as special today as it was then. I, too, had a special 'forever' love and my hubby is still in my heart to this day more than 7 years after his death. I know yours is too.

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      Ruthi 3 years ago

      What a treasure of a tribute to love you have shared here. Thank you for sharing the journey you and your husband took through life together. Your story brought tears to my eyes but a smile to my spirit.

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      Cynthia Sylvestermouse 3 years ago from United States

      I was here yesterday and I was so deeply moved by your love story that I dedicated my entire post to it today on Review This!

      By the time I finished reading, I had tears dripping off my face. I am so very sorry for your lose. I am also glad you found each other again, remarried and experienced love the way it should be. Deep, abiding and selfless.

      For myself, I appreciate the reminder to Live Like There is No Tomorrow.

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      Suunnyy 4 years ago

      Aww this is such a wonderful love story and I feel so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your story with us, I almost cryed at the end.

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      Eleni Bat 4 years ago from Greece

      The in law fathers of my brother and my sister died from cancer. It is the worst feeling see someone you love have so much pain. This is an amazing lens.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Oh, so beautiful happy and sad. I felt tears coming. So sorry for your loss. I am dreading that day but I will love my hubby to be so much. Thanks for making me see that little things don't matter. Like silly rows and silly things he does. :) Much love and Happy New Year.

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      DeboraR 5 years ago

      A beautiful love story.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Thanks for sharing your love story

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      Hannah Writes 5 years ago

      This is a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing it with us.

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      srsddn lm 5 years ago

      Thanks for mustering courage to share all this. It is not so easy.

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      Mamabyrd 5 years ago

      God Bless you! Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.

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      Mamaboo LM 5 years ago

      Your story gave me shivers. You are a blessed woman. I feel as though anything I could say would be contrite and belittle. Be blessed and know that one day you will see him again!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I cried reading this lens. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your loss, but I am happy that you were able to enjoy the time you did have with your husband.

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      William Leverne Smith 5 years ago from Hollister, MO

      Thank you for sharing... one more angel blessing headed your way! ;-)

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      This is so sad, truly feel for your loss, much of us have also gone through the pain of losing our brothers and sisters to agent orange. thanks again for sharing this.

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      Little Linda Pinda 5 years ago from Florida

      Your love reminds me of my mom and dad's love they shared. My mom loves talking about my dad. Too many people are afraid talking about will only make her sadder. Thank you for sharing your love story with us. Beautiful. God Bless You.

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      Einar A 5 years ago

      CountrySunshine, I've been wanting to comment on this lens since I first read it four months ago, but I never could come up with the right words. I will just say that it was difficult to read and also such a blessing to me--bless you for loving him the way that you did.

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      Ahdilarum 5 years ago

      True love story.. Felt like watching movie.. Great narration and feelings were seen in words.. Great..

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      Ram Ramakrishnan 5 years ago

      Beautiful ....

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      What a touching story. I'm so happy that you found each other again, and gave it another try. I've never seen a lens with so many angel blessings, and this love story deserves every one. Thanks for sharing it.

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      tonyb65 5 years ago

      What a moving and wonderful story, thanks for telling it.

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      JesPiddlin 5 years ago

      This is such a beautiful story you have shared. Thank you.

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      online-punch-clock 5 years ago

      lovely story..thanks for sharing....

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      JoyfulReviewer 5 years ago

      Thank you for sharing your very moving love story!

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      etravelvn 5 years ago

      Lovely story!

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      happynutritionist 5 years ago

      I am so happy that you stopped by so that I could find you, meet you, and read your remarkable story. I join the many who have blessed this lens, so very very deserving. God bless you for all that you did, and the lesson you have taught to me about how to manage things when a loved one is dying. *blessed*

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Beautiful love story

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      kimark421 5 years ago

      What a beautiful love story. Frankly, I am moved beyond words. Thank you for sharing this.

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      Peta Panos 5 years ago from Norway

      What a beautiful love story - full of love, tenderness, compassion and empathy. You are so courageous and open hearted to share your truth - Namaste. I have no doubt that your husband is with you always.

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      bidzinger 5 years ago

      You are a remarkable and wonderful woman and this is truly a great love story. Your husband sounded like a wonderful man,

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      crp123 5 years ago

      Your love story left me with moved heart and misty eyes. You are great you knew to forget and forgive as well as to remember and love. Yes you have taught me to love like there is no tomorrow. God bless you.

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      Kathryn Wallace 5 years ago from Greenbank, WA, USA

      I am so moved by your story, your courage, and your love.

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      Heidi Reina 5 years ago from USA

      A love story like no other. Thank you for sharing it with us.

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      RomanticMe 5 years ago

      wow thank you so much for that

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      ronberry lm 5 years ago

      Thank you for that wonderful love story. You've reminded me that nobody promises tomorrow - show the person you love how you feel. Your "forever" love is just that. It lives in you, and anyone who's read this. God Bless You!

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      TripleTK LM 5 years ago

      A fantastic Valentine's story...thank you for sharing your love story.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      this is so touching. I'm glad that you got to enjoy life with him its just too bad that it had to end so soon. but it sounds like you really treasure your memories with him

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      printabledolls 5 years ago

      soooooooooo romantic, congrats and love love love!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      this is an amazing story, i have my love besides me,but its too young for now...will be getting married soon...im so inspired and will love him everyday like there is no tomorrow:) wonderful

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      Titia Geertman 5 years ago from Waterlandkerkje - The Netherlands

      This really is a fairy tale as a fairy tale should be, except for the too soon passing away of the love of your life, but real life isn't always a fairy tale. A great tribute to the man who couldn't stop loving you. Thanks for sharing your story.

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      Country Sunshine 5 years ago from Texas

      @earthybirthymum: It's much better to appreciate the moment, then have to look back at it! Thanks so much for taking the time to read my story!

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      Country Sunshine 5 years ago from Texas

      @relish interiors: Thank you for the kind words, and the nomination. I do appreciate you taking the time to read our story!

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      earthybirthymum 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Thank you for sharing your story. You've reminded me of how lucky I am to be in this moment.

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      dahlia369 5 years ago

      Don't know what to say but that a love/relationship like this must be the most precious thing in one's life...

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      girlfriendfactory 5 years ago

      Dropping back in with a Flyby Winging which can be found among the other blessed lenses for today at Have Wings Will Bless and I'm nominating it for the Valentiniest Lens Quest because a love like this is the most Valentiniest thing I've ever seen in my 504 months on this planet!

      They may call me an aimless wanderer, but not all who wander are aimless and I'm glad my aim was good when I wandered upon this. ~Ren

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      LauraTelier 5 years ago

      What a wonderful lens, though I have tears in my eyes now. What a big thing to share and what a way to remind many of us how lucky we are.

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      JoshSteinRealtor 5 years ago

      beautiful story!

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      Liajoe 5 years ago

      Thank you for reminding us :)

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      Country Sunshine 5 years ago from Texas

      @PollyFreakingAnna: Exactly! I have much more compassion now for others who have gone through hospice care. Having to be the one to make all the difficult decisions - although they were the right ones - has change my life forever. I didn't expect things to change so much, especially with myself. I 'move on' but I don't, at the same time. Thanks so much for your understanding & kind words!

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      PollyFreakingAnna 5 years ago

      You tell a beautiful story. I laughed, I was angry at the doctor, and now I'm so sad. I understand about feeling stuck in time. It's hard to relate to other people now who haven't been through hospice care and the mixed moment at the end of heartbreak and relief. Everything else seems so trivial, and the experience alters every single event for the people who have to go on living. You're not alone.

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      Itaya Lightbourne 5 years ago from Topeka, KS

      Such a beautiful and touching love story! Thank you for opening your heart and sharing your memories with us all. I also appreciate your reminder to show those that we love our love every day. Many blessings to you! :)

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      Lynda Makara 5 years ago from California

      You told your story so beautifully. The memories you shared at the end almost make me feel like I knew him. A very honest and loving tribute.

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      AlleyCatLane 5 years ago

      What a wonderful story. Thanks for sharing your wonderful love with us. Blessed.

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      squid-pinkchic18 5 years ago

      Wow. Your story is soooo very touching, it brought tears to my eyes. Such love is hard to find, but you two had something very special, you must be very proud! This lens has been blessed by many squid angels but I'm going to add one more. Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt, precious story with us.

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      JohannaBaker 5 years ago

      Thank you for sharing your love story with us....

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      curious0927 5 years ago

      Lovely! I tried to skim, but couldn't. I especially like your *starred* things you did together at the end, Bless You!

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      LasgalenArts 5 years ago

      Wow you'd found your soul mate. Thank you for sharing.

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      ISparkle 5 years ago

      lovely story...

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      Totus Mundus 5 years ago

      Very lovely, very sad story.

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      Mahogany LM 5 years ago

      Awww :)

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      ViJuvenate 5 years ago

      Well, I"m starting the morning with tears streaming down my face. What a beautiful love story. He truly love you, even through all his suffering. I have a friend who also suffers greatly from his experiences concerning Vietnam, though for him it was not the sniper job he had, it was what happened afterward. Your husband reminds me of him. So sweet, generous, kind, but on the inside - so much pain to deal with. The love he shared with you must have given him great healing. May you be blessed.

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      jlshernandez 5 years ago

      Such a lovely love story that is timeless. I could not stop reading. Thank you for sharing such a heartwarming story. Blessed by a Squid Angel.

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      ForestsOfTranqu 5 years ago

      @Country-Sunshine: Nah, those 'crazies' were tormenting us before my partner got sick. Needless to say, my partners ex-wife got thrown into jail for driving her car into a person's house that no longer wanted her living there, and for her trying to play "mind-games" ('somewhat cut-the-wrists-game' she tried playing on my partner so she could hope to get a "roof over her head" with him).

      --- I thank you very much for replying. I really do hope you are doing ok these days.

      What I learned from my relationship with my past partner is, I will never go out with another 'NorthEasterner' ever again. No more coastal cities, just 'midwestern or southern country' for me from now on.

      Take good care :]

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      Matthew 5 years ago from Silicon Valley

      Thank you for sharing your extremely touching story. It serves not only as a reminder to all of us that love is hard but worth the fight, as well as just the wonder that is life. May you find peace and happiness in his memory.

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      grflgrfl 5 years ago

      Such a heartwarming love storing. Thank you for sharing it. There are many of us still waiting for that true love.

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      jeremykim2011 5 years ago

      Valentine's Day is just around the corner!

      Dropping by again to admire your love story once more.

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      grannysage 5 years ago

      It was a hard decision to make, but you gave him the gift of death with dignity. My father had a feeding tube and lay in a coma for 2 years. I know he would not have wanted that. I believe that death is not the end, just passing through the door to another part of life. Thank you for this heartfelt story.

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      Ruthi 5 years ago

      Yours is truly a grand love story. Thank you for sharing your treasure. I add my blessings and a bit o' sunshine.

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      Country Sunshine 5 years ago from Texas

      @ForestsOfTranqu: Ah, but I understand that part too. Death & grief do weird things to people. It can bring out the good, but it also brings out the bad. I've had a few experiences like yours, and I feel for you. It's hard to get through it all when there are crazies around messing with your head (and things!).

      Thank you for your kind comment, and I hope you are doing good as well!

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      ForestsOfTranqu 5 years ago

      My partner of 7 years suffered with cancer and it took his life. I did "everything" I could to help him and make him feel better. In return I got abused mentally by his "money-obsessed-family-members", I got chased by his 'ex-wife' who followed me wanting to hit me with a baseball bat.

      I got no 'thanks or appreciation' at all from his family, because where we grew up people were only interested in "controlling & using others" and trying to con money out of others. ------ What a beautiful story you wrote of your husband. I hope you are doing well these days.

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      Country Sunshine 5 years ago from Texas

      @anonymous: Thank you, Tipi! I'm so humbled & awed that Our Love Story has touched so many people! Much appreciation to you and everyone else!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      This is such a beautiful love story, and you are a wonderful writer. Thank you for sharing!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I was just here to like and bless your love story as LotD and am pleased to return with a congratulations for receiving Valentine's front page honors!

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      flicker lm 5 years ago

      Very moving. Thanks for sharing your story of love.

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      PaulaSquidoo 5 years ago

      Very touching. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

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      JoleneBelmain 5 years ago

      Such a touching love story, I have tears in my eyes... My love and I are absolute soul mates, as were the two of you. It is sad that you two didn't have more time together, but it's nice to know that he no longer suffers. Thank-you so much for sharing your love story with all of us :)

      ~BLESSED~

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      blondebecky 5 years ago

      It was such a lovely read, im sohappy for you :)

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      NAIZA LM 5 years ago

      What an enduring love story. Thank you for sharing it for us to read. :)

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      goo2eyes lm 5 years ago

      i am sorry about his passing but his love for you will last forever. he will always be with you and thru this lens, he will be unforgettable.

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      waterlily78 5 years ago

      Thank you for sharing this, what a beautiful and touching story.

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      DecoratingEvents 5 years ago

      That's a forever love. Thanks so much for being brave enough to share.

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      Christine Larsen 5 years ago from South Australia

      Ahhh...the depth of the quality - if not the quantity you would have wished

      Thank you for sharing so much in this beautiful lens.

      He is watching over you, every day of your Life - there is no doubt of that.

      Christine

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      Light-Life-Energy 5 years ago

      Thank you for sharing such intimate moments of your life.

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      Light-Life-Energy 5 years ago

      thank you for sharing such intimate moments of your life.

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      Stephanie Tietjen 5 years ago from Albuquerque, New Mexico

      My tears were flowing throughout. Thanks for your wonderful story, told so well.

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      andrearicciardi 5 years ago

      This story put me on the verge of tears! Very touching!

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      littletree1524 5 years ago

      This is a wonderful story. Writing about it helps let the grief out. God Bless you and give you the strength to move forward with your life. Thank You for sharing, it was a great story.

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      Ann Hinds 5 years ago from So Cal

      Taking the time to let people know you love them is what I am going to take away from this. Thanks for the reminder. Your story has touched me.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Thank you for sharing this touching tale of true love. May God be with you and fill your heart!

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      sousababy 5 years ago

      Came back to google +1 this beautiful love story.

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      sousababy 5 years ago

      Incredible, I was held by every word. Thank you so much for teaching us what really matters. May his love sustain you and yours the rest of your days on this earth. You know he is not longer in pain . . and sometimes (often?), death is a gift. I haven't cried like this in a long time, after reading such a heartfelt story . . this must be nominated as the best Valentine's Day lens.

      Gratefully,

      Rose