ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel


Updated on June 17, 2011

Children are highly influenced by family politics. This influence of family politics on children if not properly managed can turn out to cause problems that we never envisaged.


Family politics is the tussle for the admiration of children that goes on in the family. Quarreling is also a kind of family politics. Argument over what should be bought for the children as holiday gifts and where to take our children to during Xmas period are all constituents of family politics. In summary, family politics is any situation where two spouses are not moving in one direction – including religious belief.

I will never forget what one of my little female friends did to her dad on one of my numerous visits. Amala (not real name) a 7 year old girl once cursed her dad to the face and said ‘’this is why mummy always regret ever marrying you’’

This may not sound so bad to some people because it has gradually gained a place in the heart of so many people – especially in this era of  ‘’moral decay’’. But, it is obvious that such character portrayed by Amala not minding my presence is one of the plenty ugly products of family politicking. Nothing on earth would have probably made that child to curse the father to the face and still had the guts to stand before him and quote the mother if there had not been a cold war going on in the family- family politics.


  • DISRESPECT: family politics breeds disrespect in a family. The example given above is a case study.
  • HATE: the children are bound to hate one parent and like the other if the effects of family politicking get into their head.
  • DIVORCE: parents will have no choice than to divorce when the heat of family politicking gets hot.
  • INCREASE IN SOCIAL VICES: the products of single parenting is usually inadequate care that will ultimately translate into all kinds of social vices.


Misunderstanding between spouses is a way of life in any marriage but, when not handled, becomes poisonous to the life (spirit, body, and soul) of our children. The best way to handle family politics is to avoid politicking in the presence of our children. Children by nature learn from what we do and not what we tell them to do. That is why today you see children of highly respected preachers misbehaving. You don’t blame the children but, the parents for not living what they preach from the pulpit.

We will all enjoy a healthy and happy society if we all can simply learn to engage in family politics in the absence of our children. At least, let them always see us (parents) as best friends. We can still have our misunderstandings but, we must pretend as if all is well whenever our children are around. But, come to think of it, are spouses suppose to be quarreling? Well, that is not the subject matter of this hub.

At this point, I would like to point out that societal politics is an extension of family politics. Therefore, we should try also not to involve in ‘’dirty societal politics’’ if we truly want to bring up our children in the way that they should grow. How do you expect to raise a saint when you as a parent engage the services of assassins? Think about that.

One of my neighbors once complained to me that the children love their mother more because she always give them gifts that he bought with his hard earned money. And all I told him was to advice his wife to always tell the children that their daddy said she should give this to them whenever she is presenting the gifts to the children.

Within months, he came back to inform me that the technique worked. Note that this practice wouldn’t have yielded result if the wife were to be a bad woman. So, women have a significant role to play as far as eradicating the negative effects of family politics is concerned. I therefore give kudos to the wife.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)