ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Family Holiday Get Togethers - Do You Dread Them?

Updated on May 1, 2017
Au fait profile image

As a psychology major at the University of North Texas, C. E. Clark found, and continues to find psychology endlessly fascinating.

Suggestions for Making Family Get Togethers More Enjoyable

There are many different holidays throughout the year. Sometimes families like to get together around a particular holiday to celebrate that holiday, and especially to enjoy being together for a few hours before everyone must go on about their different lives again.

Perhaps you are looking forward to the holidays, or perhaps you are one of those people who dread them, because one or more family members always seem to ruin it for you and everyone else too.

More families than you may think have a family member or members who always take what should be a joyful occasion and turn it into a time to set people straight on the right way to do things, or to voice their opinion on something about other family members that they disapprove of.

If you dread holiday family-get-togethers and gatherings because of family members who behave badly on these occasions, here are some practical suggestions that might change the dynamics at your future family celebration to make it a happier experience.

Do you dread family holiday get togethers?

Change the Location of Your Celebration

1. Sometimes just changing the location of the gathering may be enough to change the behavior of the perverse relative. If you usually meet at Grandma’s house, change it to someone else’s house -- yours, your aunt and uncle’s, your brother’s, or anyone else in the family who may have the required space available, and see if that also changes the dynamics for the person who comes laden with criticism for everyone. They may not feel comfortable being their usual self in less familiar surroundings, and put on their best behavior.

2. If possible, have your family gathering at a restaurant. Being in a public place may be just the thing to put your contrary family member in a better frame of mind and less likely to give the gift of criticism, or to spoil the holiday spirit for everyone else. Your family party pooper may be more concerned with appearances than with making sure various family members are informed of perceived shortcomings.

Include A Non-family Member In Your Gathering

3. Consider inviting a close friend to the party. If you need an explanation for your friend’s attendance just say s/he worked hard as a favor to you helping you get things ready and organized and you wanted him/her to enjoy some of the fruits of their labor. Or arrange for that friend to ‘drop in’ and invite them to stay for the party! Your crotchety relative may be on their good behavior while a non-family member is around.

Skip the Alcohol

4. Limit the amount of alcohol that will be available, or do not serve alcohol at all. While alcohol can help relax some people and put them in a more jovial mood, it can also bring out the worst in some people. Serve punch and don’t spike it.

Do you hate family get togethers?

I came across a website the other day that looked interesting. It’s called “I Hate Family Get Togethers.” It’s a social networking website where people who hate family get togethers can meet anonymously and exchange stories and ideas. If you hate family get togethers, this site may be just what you’re looking for. Just click on "I Hate Family Get Togethers."


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)