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How To Be a Wise Host

Updated on April 4, 2010

Do you want to be a good person? There is a simple way that make you a good person. The simple recipes is “helping others”. I am not bored to remind us about this. We can’t life alone, because we are a social beings. We need help from others, whereas  someone else also needs our help. This is like a “take and give” pyramid. It mean When we always helping others, we can get good replies from others. We can not predict what kind of the replies form. Because only God knows about that. But we have good intentions behind this action, there is for goodness.

Now I get an interesting topic about family situation. This is actually simple situation in the family. I think If we want give our time to think about this twice, I think the solution inside this hub, make us smile and doesn’t think that as a big problem. Have you ever received the guests from out of town. Or your other family member from other town to spent the night in our home. Have you ever think to accept their as your guest.

For various reasons, because not all of us rich and not all of us are able to stay in a hotel with a high cost. There is not a big problem  in helping others, especially our family or our friend to stay at our home for a while. maybe just for one night only. Or sometimes  you receive a call from your relatives or acquaintances who want to visit your home. There are number of dilemmas appeared on the surface. For example, there is now extra bedroom in our house or special bed for your guest. Actually the guest is everything. We should happy when the feel happy. It little difficult for us who do not get accustomed to helping others. For example, afraid of a dirty house, afraid someone else will steal your things in your home, or fear that others will interfere your privacy. But don’t worry, with a pure heart of all problems will be solved.

However you don’t have too panic. Here are some tips for you to be a wise host:

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Guest bedroom

If possible, provide a special room for guests who stay at your house. Guests will feel more comfortable if they can get a little privacy in a strange place. If there is no empty room in the house, you can let guests use the other family members bedroom for a while, for example, a child's bedroom. While children may be asked to sleep in his brother's room or in your room. Anyway, be smart in arrangements.

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Alternative bed

If the number of guests who stay at your home beyond the capacity of the bedrooms are available and you do not have an extra bedroom, you need provide an extra backup for the bed to be held on the floor. You can invest some money to buy an air mattress or folding mattress which easy to store and it not take big place when it not in use.  

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Clean sheets

Replace the old sheets with clean sheets, freshly and it have been washed, even the pillow and bolsters also. Provide extra blankets and pillows if your guests need it.

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Towels and toiletries

Provide a set of clean towels and toiletries such as soap, toothpaste, and shampoo. We need all those stuff when the guests forgot to bring. In addition, make sure the toilet paper is also in place.

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Be friendly

Welcome the arrival of guests with a friendly and open arms. Make sure guests feel welcome and comfortable stay in your home. Ask how their trip and what they need during the stay at your home. I like this section, because we can apply the good manner as a host. And we will to be proud if we can serve them well. This is they key how to be a wise host.

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Invite dining

Once they arrived to our home, invite guests to eat lunch or dinner on time arrival. If the guest refuses to eat a heavy meal because they felt full. There is better solution, we can provide cookies,snacks and a cup of coffee or tea as a welcome drink

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Helping hand

Guests will feel more relaxed and don't felt as a disturbance if they allowed to help you. Therefore, no need to refuse when they offer to help you do the little things like preparing the dishes on the table before dinner, or lift the dirty dishes into the kitchen after meals and washes the dishes.

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I hope from the simple hub we can be a wise host in our comfort home. And not seen the guest as a big problem but seen the guest as a gift. A gift from God who we have to care it well. And we can life with them just for a while. Let's brought the good atmosphere inside the house. So the guest will feel more comfortable. If you have experience related this topic. Please share with us. I am glad to hear that.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Good morning, sherrylou57. I am proud to share this with you. Sorry I never visit your hub. I am glad you remind me about this. I'll try to come to your hub soon. Merry Christmas too. Take care!

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      sherrylou57 7 years ago from Riverside

      Prasetio, thank you for sharing this with us. I just want to say Merry Christmas. I have not heard anything from you in a long time.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks, Peggy for your kind words. I try to be a good host, even for my hub. I thought it will build good friendship between each other, right. I give many thanks for rate this hub. You also the best. Cheers........

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      Peggy Woods 7 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Your kindness and caring for others shines through in this hub about how to be a wise host. Well done! Rating this useful, beautiful and up!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks blondepoet for coming to this hub as my guest.

      I'll be a wise host to reply your comment. And it would be real if you come to my house and I'll serve you with all my heart. Have a great day!

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      blondepoet 7 years ago from australia

      Wow you sure would make an excellent host. I think I am going to come over for dinner lol :)

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Micky, actually as a guest we have doing this naturally. But I hope by this hub it can give us spirit doing kindness for the host who serve us well. Have a nice day!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Sage Williams for share your thought here.

      I am glad this hub useful for you. Yes that's our job to make our guest felt comfortable in our home. With the big hope we can served well also when we visit their home someday.

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      Micky Dee 7 years ago

      Great job Prasetio! You give us the hubs that should be obvious to us but are not. Great job!

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      Sage Williams 7 years ago

      You offer some very sincere tips on how to be a terrific host. You would make a remarkably gracious host as you seem to be very conscientious about what is important to make your guests comfortable.

      Great Job!

      Sage

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Cathi Sutton for giving your time to visit this hub, I hope you enjoy all information and get the benefit by reading this hub. I'll check your link above. Have a nice day!

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      Cathi Sutton 7 years ago

      Another beautiful Hub from you my friend! These good words of advise are very timely. Very wise advise. In one of my Hubs

      https://hubpages.com/religion-philosophy/Parts-and...

      the guest is discussed from the Native American point of view. I hope you will read and it enjoy it. Thanks for a good read!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks paidtotakesurveys for coming to this hub. I hope you can be a wise host too.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks mulberry1 for supporting this hub.

      I am glad to read your comment because this hub useful for you. I agree with you, you have considered about extra bed or mattress.

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      paidtotakesurveys 7 years ago from London

      Hi Prasetio! Excellent top tips on how to be a great host. Thank you.

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      mulberry1 7 years ago

      Good ideas. When I was single I never had an extra bed and so I always ended up sleeping on the floor when my parents or one of my sisters' families would visit. Guess I should have considered one of those matresses.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks a.l. laurice for dropping by,

      I hope by reading this hub, we can practiced simple wich useful for our guest. Believe when you serve them (your guest) well you also accepted in any place. Thank you for your pray to my Grandma. I hope she getting well soon. God bless you!

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      a.l. laurice 7 years ago from United States

      Good thing I read this hub, I'm having guests over in a few days! I hadn't thought of giving them their own shampoos and toothpastes, that is a lovely idea. I hope your grandmother is doing better prasetio.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Hummingbird5356, thank you for share your thought about this topic. You are absolutely right. As a host we have to give the best for our guest. And they will very enjoyable with our attitude.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thanks BJBenson for share your thought here. I am glad to know that you had lice around the world. That was wonderful experience. Not all of us can do that. That was become great moment when you meet many friends from different country. two thumbs up for you.

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      Hummingbird5356 7 years ago

      A very good hub. When people come to stay they may feel uncomfortable but if you are as welcoming as you make them then I am sure every visit would be very enjoyable.

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      BJBenson 7 years ago from USA

      I thought your blog to be very sweet,and show you like making those that come to your home feel at home.I have lived around the world for the last twenty-five years of my life.Each place I have been I have been lucky to had made friends that I know I could go back and visit. I hope your friends and family treat you as nice as you do them.

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      free stock tips 7 years ago

      beautiful..........

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thank you very much Teresa Laurente for giving your time to visit this hub.

      Personally I am glad to read your comment. I am not perfect man but I try to give the best to others. Like my motto in my profile, "Let share to others". I like to treat someone well. I am glad you be my guest.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Pollyannalana for coming to this hub. I am proud to read your comment. As my promised, when you come to Indonesia, my house always open for you. You can visit to my house anytime. Have a nice day....

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      For Jamiehousehusband, You are absolutely right.

      From your comment I know that you are as a wise host also. And You are good person who give the best for others. I agree with you, it not depend how big and beautiful of our house. But the important things is how our attitude in serve others as our guest. My house is not big enough, but my family and I always welcome to someday who want to visit my house. Good point for you.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks James for dropping by. I am glad to know that. Thank you for supporting this hub. I hope from "little" hub brought a lot of benefit for us.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thanks hypnodude for coming to this hub. I am glad if this hub useful for us and I am proud of it. Have a nice day...

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      I agree with you akirchner , when you want to be good treated from others you have to treat them well. Thanks for share your thought about this topic. I believe you are wise host also. thank you very much

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Carolina, You always accepted here as my guest. Thank you for supporting this hub.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Ann Nonymous for share about your family and about you also. I believe as a part of your family member, you can do it also. It looks hard to do, but believe me when you give something to others you will got many things from that. And you can smile and happy if you give the best to others, like to your guest. Just think positively, anything based the goodness than will give us a goodness also......amen

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Nancy for supporting this hub. I am glad to know that.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thanks Amber Allenfor dropping by.

      I get a good input from you, I almost for get to put the beautiful and fresh flower in the guest room. They will be pleasant.

      thank you very much.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Support Med. you are really good person. And I believe you can do the best for your family and your friends when they come and visit to your home.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Angela, this attitude can brought happiness for us as a host. We can serve them well. this is the best we could give for the guest.

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      Maria Teresa Rodriguez - Laurente 7 years ago from San Antonio, Texas, U.S.A.

      Indeed you are a great host, your guests will have memorable experience with your detailed preparation and accommodation showing your hospitality felt from the heart.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Angela for gicing your time to visit this hub,

      I agree with you, if we dedicate something for kindness. I believe the guest also comfort to stay to our house.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thanks Janny and Mr.Roychoudhury for stopping by.

      I hope this hub useful for us...amen.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Good afternoon POP,

      I hope we can learn something from this hub. Thank you very much!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thank you Itakins for dropping by.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks MPG Narratives, I hope you can be a wise host when someone visit to your house.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thanks dreamreachout for coming to this hub, I hope we can learn "little" from this.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Maita,

      When you visit to Indonesia. I am happy to be your host. And I'll do the best to my guest.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Hi, my brother Mystique1957.

      Welcome to my hub again. I think you have a lot of experience and know the character many people in Us or japan. Because you have lived in another country, for a long time. And there is no differences for people each country. When the basic heart is pure heart. I think they will give the best for their guest. I believe that. Thanks for good comment. ?????

      Prasetio

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thank you Pete to hear your comment.

      I believe you are really a wise host. I know from your statement. It difficult ot find people like you and I believe all hubbers have the same perception with you. I am glad to visit your house someday. You are very good person also. I think all your guest felt comfort and enjoy to stay in your house. God bless you!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks HappyHer for give a good comment. I agree with you , I hope by this hub we can give the best to our guest and as a reminder also when the guest come to our house.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thank you Hello, I am glad this hub useful for you. We can determine the best attitude when the guest visited our house and spent the night in our comfort house.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thanks Sandy, I hope so!

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Darlene, I believe you are good person who always welcome to your guest. That's also make us a wise person. Thank you very much.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thank you Katie for share your thought here and give a good comment. I also believe anything we give to others we will got something secret behind that give. As a wise host, I support you from the back.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Actually I want to say sorry for being late to reply all comment here. Because of my grandmother got sick for a couples days a go.

      Thanks Pamela for coming to this hub. I try to give the best to my guest. I am glad if they will enjoy to stay to my house. I hope you are a wise host also.

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      Pollyannalana 7 years ago from US

      We would all be lucky to have a Prasetio for a host, you are a very caring person that comes right through the pages to us all.

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      Jamiehousehusband 7 years ago from Derbyshire, UK

      Hi Prasetio, what a sincere hub. I love to have family and friends to stay - our home is not grand but welcoming is the main feature, as you so rightly say, and food of course when offered to guests as home-made is what every good person appreciates. Thanks.

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      James A Watkins 7 years ago from Chicago

      This is a great Hub and I agree with everything you said. You give excellent advice about an important subject. Well done!

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      Andrea 7 years ago from Italy

      Great advices as usual prasetio, there is always something good to learn from your hubs. Thumbs up.

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      Audrey Kirchner 7 years ago from Central Oregon

      Great ideas and so very true - I always go by the saying 'treat others as you would like to be treated' - then you can't mess it up!

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      carolina muscle 7 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      What a terrific hub, buddy!!

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      Ann Nonymous 7 years ago from Virginia

      This is a lovely hub Prasetio....something I NEED. My family is full of great hosts and hostesses but me, nah! I am such a loner I cringe when I hear the word guest. My cooking, my hospitaliy manners make it hard but being a great and loving host is something I strive to be. Thanks for your advice!

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      nancy_30 7 years ago from Georgia

      This was a great hub with excellent tips. Thank you for shareing them.

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      Amber Allen 7 years ago

      A great hub and you are obviously a superb host. Fresh flowers in the bedroom are a nice touch too if you can.

      Amber:)

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      Support Med. 7 years ago from Michigan

      Good hub! Being a good host/hostess is of prime importance. Sometimes we get so caught up in what we can't do until we forget about the things we can do. When it comes to family and real friends, we should make it happen for good. Thanks!

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      Angela Blair 7 years ago from Central Texas

      All great suggestions! The host's attitude is of prime importance to guests having a fun and successful visit. Best, Sis

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      H P Roychoudhury 7 years ago from Guwahati, India

      Nice things to follow.

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      JannyC 7 years ago

      Best hub ever. This was good tips and advice.

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      breakfastpop 7 years ago

      Terrific article with some wonderful advice. Thanks so much!

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      itakins 7 years ago from Irl

      Brilliant hub.

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      Marie Giunta 7 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      You would be a very good host, Prasetio. Very good information for next time someone stays over at my home.

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      dreamreachout 7 years ago

      wonderful hub buddy!!

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      youre so kind and a good host prasetio, nice hub, Maita

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      Mystique1957 7 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

      My brother Prasetio...

      Excellent hub! Yes, I definitely agree with you! Being a good host is a very satisfactory experience. Giving is the best way to show you care! Loved it! Thanks for sharing it!

      Thumbs up!

      Warmest regards and infinite blessings,

      Al

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      Pete Maida 7 years ago

      There is nothing better in this world than random acts of kindness. We love to have people stay with us. If someone we know is coming to the DC area for business or pleasure we're happy to welcome them to our home and to play tour guide.

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      HappyHer 7 years ago from Cleveland, OH

      How nice and such a good reminder. Everything you said is important to feel relaxed and help guests feel welcome. Thank you for the great reminders.

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      Hello, hello, 7 years ago from London, UK

      This is really a lovely hub with great and helpful advice. Thank you.

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      Sandy Mertens 7 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

      Nice information if I have someone staying over. Thanks.

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      Darlene Sabella 7 years ago from Hello, my name is Toast and Jam, I live in the forest with my dog named Sam ...

      Wonderful hub, I enjoyed reading this and this is so true. Sometimes we must step out of our own comfort zone to help others. Thank you

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      katiem2 7 years ago from I'm outta here

      Prasetio, WHAT a wonderful Hub, I so enjoyed this. I love and adore hosting family and friends. Many good tips that I know people will benefit from. This is great and refreshing piece. Great :) :) :) :) Peace :)

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      Pamela Oglesby 7 years ago from United States

      Prasetio, I know you would be a great host and I am sure people feel honored to visit such a giving family.