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How to Celebrate a Birthday of a Lost Loved One

Updated on August 21, 2017
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Lena Kovadlo is a writer for various content sharing websites. She's an author of 10 books and helps other authors publish their books.


It is very sad when we lose someone very close to us, whether due to old age, or due to health reasons, or unfortunate events. Even though our loved ones move on to a higher place, they are never forgotten and are forever in our hearts.

We never forget their birthdays, and so we should never stop celebrating them. There are different ways one can celebrate a birthday of a lost loved one. Here's how I celebrate birthdays of my grandparents who are sadly no longer here.

I have lost all of my grandparents. Every year when their birthday arrives, I always look at their photos and wish them a happy birthday. I talk to them a little bit too.

When my family gets together we always pay our respects to the grandparent whose birthday it is. We say a toast and drink a few shots, but we never clink our glasses because when someone dies it is inappropriate to do so. I am not sure exactly why that is, but I think it's because clinking glasses signifies happiness and this isn't a happy occasion.

What we also do is pour some vodka into a shot glass, place a piece of bread on top of it, sprinkle some salt onto the bread, and leave the shot glass on the table beside us. We let it stay there the whole evening. Sometimes we even do this in the morning and keep the shot glass there the whole day, in honor of the person we lost.

I think celebrating a birthday of a lost loved one is just as important as celebrating a birthday of a loved one who is thankfully still alive with us at the moment. Even though our lost loved ones are no longer here with us, they are always watching over us, and we should always pay our respects to them until we join them in another life.

© 2012 Lena Kovadlo


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    • profile image 21 months ago

      A poem coming from the heart and soul of the writer; it's heart-rendering but allows the reader to know the person is never forgotten and they're always in their heart and mind. I love the idea of the drink being left for a period of time, it's sincere and allows the process of love sink in.

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      Jane Noponen Perinacci 21 months ago

      I love it! I do believe there will be a new tradition in our family! Thank you

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      rauffray 5 years ago from BC, Canada

      This is a fine sharing, Lena. I've not done any of this but I am moved by your words and what they express. Thank you.

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      carol stanley 5 years ago from Arizona

      This was very heartrendering. I never thought about doing something like this. I liked it and will now find a way to remember people who have passed. Thank you.