Home alone for the Holidays?
Even for those people who live alone or are single can handle being alone, the holidays are a time when being alone is difficult to deal with. There is something about the idea of being by ones self that seems amplified at Christmas, or New Years Eve and although one copes most of the time, it is harder to deal with.
What can you do? Here are some ideas that have worked for me in the past.
First of all, remember this is one day and all holidays will not be like this. I remember one year not having any money to buy food, gifts or even heat! I sat in my lonely RV with my husband (which is not alone really) and listened to the wind. I slept most of the day.
Make certain you have plenty of things to do and a lifeline in the form of a communication tool! I like to get nibble foods to graze on, books to read and movies to watch. I like to sit by a fire, if I am near a fireplace, and to call my special people on the phone. Most of all I like to reminisce about the Christmases I had in the past with loved ones now gone, and think about what we laughed about and the fun we had. Christmas appears to be the one holiday everyone tends to celebrate, even if they are not Christian. As a Buddhist, I love to celebrate the love that Jesus had for mankind and the teachings he offered in his own special way. I also love that it is the one day most people take the time to connect with others, and wonder why it cannot always be so.
Volunteer at a homeless shelter. Visit friends in the late afternoon and early evening and share some dessert with them. Take in a Christmas movie in the afternoon. Go through some old picture albums or movies. Burn a pine candle and make a wish upon a star. It is only 24 hours and is not an eternity. Feeling low is not a bad thing, it reminds you when you are feeling cheerful, that nothing lasts forever.
Finally, take stock in the year and make some plans for the New Year ahead. If you do not want to be alone next year, be proactive and make plans earlier, remind yourself that being alone does not have to mean being lonely. You are a child of the universe. Claim your prize!