I don't hate Valentine's Day!!!!!
I am not mad, though the title suggested an angry expression, it's all so true,I don't really hate valentine's day..
This is not a story about Valentine's day, neither a series of badluck during those special love event. This is all about single women, especially those who do not have boyfriends or mates, but remained beautiful, graceful and independent, which make them more attractive and yet men just can't find them. We can always say "it's alright to be single the rest of our lives, as long as we are happy, while accepting our fate", but there are party poopers out there, who would like to ruin the good mindset of the single ladies especially those in late 30's and 40's.
Why do people remained in the "OLD School" where marriage was considered as one's salvation from the eerie solitude....? Where getting married means having a family and having someone to take care of you when you grow old. Why are we so concerned about those things? do parent bring up thier children to assure themselves that there will be someone with them when they get old? why used old age as the climax of human fears? isn't it enough that we have God?
Single Women and Valentine's Day
Women who are Valentine's day conscious, celebrate the occassion with or without special men in their lives. It's a great practice I guess, Valentine's day must be a reason for anyone who would want to celebrate it.... But Valentine's Day traditionally is for lovers, and the singles, they became the center of ridicule again by people who considered themselves "in" because they have someone. For example on a valentine's day, when you joined a shuttle going home, one would say, "people riding this shuttle are obviously dateless today, what a pity", of course the one who said that was only joking, but can it be true? If you are dateless on a valentine's day you are merciful? Is it worst than someone who lost his job and has no money to buy food for his children? Is it worst than getting sick?
So what if I don't have a date on valentine's day? life is not all about it.....Flowers, chocolates and stuff toy, even if someone has given it to you, if that someone is not the one you like, those valentine's symbols are meaningless.... or your choice, if that someone feeds your fantasy by sending you roses, chocolates and all those romantic stuff, then you may think of liking him....
Not all singles are hopeless romantics, not all single women are looking for qualified single men. Having or finding a lifetime partner maybe a joy I don't realize yet but please don't make me feel pathetic because I don't have date on any dates or specifically on valentine's day.
Pressure of Single Women
People always want us to get married, as if getting married is just as easy as eating our meals. The more they panic for us when we are reaching the age near late 30's and 40's and the panickest of them all will even suggest us to marry any one that shows interest, even if you don't feel for the person. Some people out of concern sometimes push you to something that they are not aware of the possible outcome.....
At the end of the Day
It is still my choice. and of course, my life.. Happiness is something that a person decided for himself, not for the people who are just watching him... If your happiness is to get a family then I am happy for you, but don't insist it on me, especially if there is no one tickling my fancy at the moment...
This is a one time expression in behalf of other single ladies.... I know guys you care for us, that you want us to be happy and you thought having someone is the best... But let us also consider that we have God, and his plans for singles may be are different from you...
Again I just want to say I am not mad, I don't hate Valentine... Just making a point..