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My Best Mother's Day Yet!

Updated on November 20, 2017
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Karen Hellier is a freelance writer and eBay entrepreneur. She lives happily in the mountains of North Georgia with her husband and her dog.

My 3 children today!
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Mother's Day was a holiday I never particularly cared for in the past. Although I have three children and love being their mom, the actual holiday was not one I enjoyed. The reason for this is that when my children were little, both grandmothers were alive, and Mother's Day became all about the grandmothers. That was fine, but it meant shuffling everyone around to make sure we were able to visit with both sets of grandmothers. By the time we had gone to church, and then saw both "Grammy" and "Nana" I was too tired to enjoy the day myself. And my gifts from the kids (actually from their Dad who had the kids write their names on the card) were just given to me quickly before church. As the children got older, it became a bit easier to see everyone at once because we went to my sister-in-laws' home and both sets of grandparents were invited there. That was much nicer and generous of them to host the celebration but still made for a long day. Then my children became teenagers, and the last thing on their minds was Mother's Day. If they weren't working, they still came along to family celebrations of Mother's Day, but one got the feeling they would rather be doing something else. I started resenting Mother's Day because it seemed like such an obligation to my own children. And although I asked them not to spend their money on store-bought cards, preferring home made cards instead...the expensive store bought cards kept coming...along with gifts from them that their Dad paid for, even though by this time we were divorced, and the kids were old enough to buy their own. Often, the gift was a potted plant...which they knew I didn't enjoy because I have a brown thumb and the plants always died before summer hit each year!

As the children got older, it became a bit easier to see everyone at once because we went to my sister-in-laws' home and both sets of grandparents were invited there. That was much nicer and generous of them to host the celebration but still made for a long day. Then my children became teenagers, and the last thing on their minds was Mother's Day. If they weren't working, they still came along to family celebrations of Mother's Day, but one got the feeling they would rather be doing something else. I started resenting Mother's Day because it seemed like such an obligation to my own children. And although I asked them not to spend their money on store-bought cards, preferring home made cards instead...the expensive store bought cards kept coming...along with gifts from them that their Dad paid for, even though by this time we were divorced, and the kids were old enough to buy their own. Often, the gift was a potted plant...which they knew I didn't enjoy because I have a brown thumb and the plants always died before summer hit each year!

My three children are now 21 and 18 ( twins), and last year I decided Mother's Day would just be for my mom. Their Dad's mother had sadly passed away, and after the divorce, we didn't get together with his side of the family anymore anyway. So, tired of feeling as though Mother's Day was an obligation to my kids, I just resigned myself to giving my mom a nice day and not celebrate the holiday myself. My husband wanted to make sure I had something special for Mother's Day, so he bought me a bouquet of fresh flowers which cheered me up.

But low and behold, kids can be full of surprises. This year, I told the kids that the only thing I wanted for Mother's Day was for us to take their grandmother out to lunch at a restaurant of her choice. She chose one that was not too expensive, and she and I arrived first. Imagine my surprise when my three children walked into the restaurant with flowers ( because they now know I like cut flowers), and a home made card that was actually quite funny! They had all signed it, and the most artistic one decorated it. They did buy a card for my mom, so knowing that they had been at a store and could have bought one for me made the home made card that much more special. The three of them bought lunch for all of us, and I had the best Mother's Day I have ever had. It's so nice when kids grow up and start being more appreciative of their parents. Maybe there is hope for Mother's Day in my family yet!

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      Karen Hellier 5 years ago from Georgia

      Oh Faith reaper,

      I am so sorry for the recent loss of your mother. And on Christmas too, so hard. Thanks for the votes and share, and my heart goes out to you.

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      Karen Hellier 5 years ago from Georgia

      wetnosedogs,

      Yes, you are right. I actually never expected them to come around, but it made the surprise that much better!

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      wetnosedogs 5 years ago from Alabama

      What a lovely Mother's Day you had. It does seem true when the kids get older and out on their own, appreciation shows up. And that waiting for those years seems to make it lovelier when you get that surprise.

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      Faith Reaper 5 years ago from southern USA

      Thank you for this beautiful share here. You are blessed beyond measure.

      I mother went on to be with the Lord this past Christmas, just four days after her 84th birthday. So, this Mother's Day is a hard one.

      Voted up ++++ and sharing

      Happy Mother's Day!

      God bless, Faith Reaper

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      Karen Hellier 5 years ago from Georgia

      hawaiianodysseus,

      Thanks for dropping by. I guess you are right about when kids leave the nest. I hope that it lasts, but time will tell on that one. But I must say after I went off to college, I did appreciate my parents more as well.

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 5 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      Happy Belated Mother's Day, Karen! I'm glad your adult children pleasantly surprised you. It seems to be a universal thing that when they leave the nest and are on their own, kids have a fresh perspective and thus a greater appreciation for their parents...especially Mom! Beautiful Hub, and what a great picture of you and your mom! Thanks for sharing!

      Joe

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      Karen Hellier 5 years ago from Georgia

      BNadyn,

      Yes they can and this certainly was a wonderful and unexpected surprise for me. Hope you had a nice Mother's Day.

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      Bernadyn 5 years ago from Jacksonville, Florida

      This was so sweet to read and I could relate to how holidays like this turn into a day for everyone else especially when the kids are still young. Glad to hear this year it turned out to be so special for you! Kids really can be full of surprises :)

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      Karen Hellier 5 years ago from Georgia

      rose-the-planner,

      Thanks for the comment on the pics. And I agree, theya re usually a lovely family...ha ha...there are some days they don't quite make it to lovely but I guess that's to be expected from family members from time to time! Thanks for commenting.

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      Karen Hellier 5 years ago from Georgia

      Deborah Brooks,

      Of course you can link it. And can I do the same for you? I am sorry you had such a sad day. Maybe I should always keep my expectations for this day in the future so I don't have any sad ones?

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Oh my word.. Karen.. this hit home.. I love this hub.. When my Mom was alive I made mothers day all about her.. I lavish her with gifts and did what ever she wanted.. I adored her.. my children are grown with their own families living in another state.. I cried hard this mothers day.. I didn't have my children or grandchildren.. I didn't have my mom.. so it was rather sad.. but .. I did get to speak to my sons.. that melted my heart..

      may I link your hub to my mothers day hub?

      Mothers are special?

      many blessings to you my dear

      Debbie

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      rose-the planner 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Great pictures, great story and lovely family! God Bless and thanks for sharing.

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