Parenting help and advice: how to raise children to be successful

Parenting help and advice: how to raise children to be successful

If you're a parent like me, you will probably want what is best for your children. I can't speak for other parents, but personally, I want to see my child grow up to be happy, good and successful. Success, however, can mean different things to different people. The "success" I am referring to here is not necessarily material success or wealth, but the fulfillment one feels when he or she accomplishes something. I want my daughter to be able to carve out a path for herself in the future and be able to achieve the goals or dreams she sets for herself.

So, how can a parent help a child become successful? Here are some tips and advice to help raise your children to at least have a head start on the road to future success.

"The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children." ~Edward,Duke of Windsor, Look, 5 March 1957

Bad and unacceptable behavior needs to bediscouraged. It appears that many parents today, out of guilt or overcompensation, try too much to be a friend to their children rather than be a parent. That is not what a child needs. If your child misbehaves, don't be afraid to scold and discipline him or her. Sit your child down, look him or her in the eye, and use a serious tone of voice and facial expression. Explain in short, simple sentences that you do not approve of such misbehavior. There are other ways to discipline and each family has its own way of dealing with misbehavior. The point here is that, no matter which form of discipline you use, be serious and consistent about it.

If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others. ~Haim Ginott

Just as bad behavior needs to be discouraged, good behavior should be encouraged and acknowledged. Don't just say, "good girl" or "well done," however. The key is to be specific. Say instead, "You are such a good girl to help your friend up when she fell down" or "You are getting much better at writing your name. The "G" in your name looks beautiful!" I don't think pointless praises are effective, though. So, be sure to actually praise your children for something that is well deserved. More effectively, do what is suggested in the quotes at the top.

"For me, words are a form of action, capable of influencing change. Their articulation represents a complete, lived experience."
- Ingrid Bengis

"Practice is everything. This is often misquoted as Practice makes perfect." Periander

If you have a goal you want to attain, the important thing is to keep on practicing and working towards it.  There is a theory that to become really good at something, aim for at least 10,000 hours of practice, which translates to practicing something 3 hours a day, everyday, for 9 years.  Keep in mind that while you may think that you are practicing hard, others are likely to be practicing harder than you. 

“How far we travel in life matters far less than those we meet along the way.”

The more people you know, the more opportunities present themselves to you. How many people met their spouses or got a job through a friend or an acquaintance? I myself met my husband through a friend (he's my friend's brother). So, go out, meet people and make friends. The social network and connections can open doors and lead to many unexpected opportunities.

"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." - Michael Jordan

"Kids spell love T-I-M-E." ~John Crudele

"The world is your school." ~Martin H. Fischer

Take your children to see the ballet if they show an interest in it.  If your children are curious about where the milk they drink comes from, take them for a visit at a dairy farm.  Seek to let your children explore and experience various new things that interest them.  If your child is exposed to many different experiences, there is a good chance that he or she will come across something to be passionate about and will develop a talent for. 

"If you think you can, you’re right. If you think you can’t, you’re right." - Henry Ford

I think that a lot of times, parents make the mistake of not having enough faith in their children even when they want to or think that they do.  How many of us honestly believe that our child can become the next Tiger Woods (minus the scandals) or J.K. Rowling?  We like to think that we would always support and believe in our children's dreams, but being the "mature adults" that we are, we tend to try to stay grounded in "reality".  Believe and have faith that your child can do whatever it is he or she wants and encourage your child to believe and have faith in him or herself because in the end, the will and ability to succeed comes from within.