ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Resolutions: Say Goodbye to the Old You

Updated on January 12, 2010

I think I can, I think I can ...

Each new year there are many suggestions about resolutions. Suddenly, the topic for discussions are all about resolutions to change yourself and/or your life. Magazines, newspapers, and television programs suggest ways to lose weight, get organized, stop smoking, get your finances in order, or how to find your perfect mate.

Many, if not most, resolutions are abandoned within the first four to six weeks, and some in just a few days. Making a resolution is the easy part, but succeeding in that venture is another story all together. People make resolutions because they've reached a point in their lives where something has caught their attention or interest. They might be looking to accomplish something, turn over a new leaf, or improve their own feeling about themselves.

Resolutions fail, mostly, for two reasons. People want to do something once and have it over with, completed, finished. But, life-changing resolutions are going to be ongoing, without end. Sometimes, resolutions are made on a whim, dare, or demand of another person. Changing or ending something in ones life at the prompting of a friend, relative or spouse will, usually, fail.

People don't change something about their life or themselves just because another person desires them to change. In fact, proposing that someone change themselves will, likely, create feelings of anger, suspicion, or distrust. For instance, if a husband says his wife should lose weight, it will sound more like, you're fat and undesirable to me. Usually, suggestions are made with good intentions, and meant to be caring about the other person. But, voicing changes that you would like to see someone else do will just not work.

A resolution to change, alter, or begin something is a personal choice, and needs to be made by the individual. It doesn't matter if anyone 'thinks' the person needs to do something. The only one that can recognize change is needed is the resolution maker. Individuals must make a commitment and accept the responsibility to make it happen, or it will be a futile attempt.

Resolutions can be powerful tools for making life changes, if they are constructively planned and well thought out. The ones that are successful have commonalities to the core of the issue. They must be manageable, specific, and offer measurable outcomes. Effective resolutions must have rewards, no matter how small of insignificant.

Often times, people make a resolution as a wish to 'fix' something. However, before something can be fixed, there must be reasons for fixing. Before making resolution endeavors, ask yourself (five times) 'why' you want to change something, and 'how' you plan to get the results.

Setting Goals

Let's say you want to stop smoking. The discussion with yourself might sound something like: I want to stop smoking. Why? So I will be healthier. Why? So my hair doesn't stink anymore. Why? So I can be more active without getting winded. Why? Because I want to live longer. Why? Because I like my life and myself.

The core issue is that the person cares about what they are doing to themselves, and what they really want is to live.

Make Resolutions Manageable

Cut your goals into small steps. Don't kid yourself into thinking giving up cigarettes for an hour or two will be success. Research ways to get motivated. Gather the tools you will need to keep you focused and help with your success. Find someone to be your support and shoulder to lean on. Get out a pen and paper and write down the steps you'll take and make a plan.

Make Your Goals Specific

Define exactly what you will do today to take the first step towards your goal. What about tomorrow, or next week? What steps will you need to keep track of your success, and chart yourself. Vague goals usually fail, so try to be as specific as possible.

Goals Should Be Measurable

Your plan must be measurable. Plan validation needs to be measurable with a simple 'yes' or 'no' answer. For instance, this week I will smoke just three cigarettes each day. This information will determine if you're staying motivated, or if you need more support.

Stay Motivated

The problem with motivation is that it's easy to find, but very hard to keep. People that are successful with their resolutions, are the ones that reach out for help and support when their motivation begins to fade. However, although support is a wonderful tool, you are your main support person! You must continue to cheer yourself on and delight in your success.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • ivori profile imageAUTHOR

      Barbara Eisenberg 

      9 years ago from Titusville

      Thank you for your comment, Faye. Blessings to you, too!

    • creativeone59 profile image

      benny Faye Douglass 

      9 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you for a fantastic and true hub, thank you so much for sharing it. Blessings to you. creativeone59

    • ivori profile imageAUTHOR

      Barbara Eisenberg 

      9 years ago from Titusville

      Nah,have a hunch your personality is fine and dandy. Thanks for the comment!

    • carolina muscle profile image

      carolina muscle 

      9 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Now, if I can just get a new personality.... LOL

      Great post!


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)