The Holidays After One Year of Death
I find this easy to write. A friend of mine from High School is going through the one-year anniversary of a parent just like I am. It makes a person think.
Do you ignore the holiday because it just wouldn't be the same without your loved one or do you go overboard and try to make people believe that you don't miss your loved one? I found it hard this year to even get into the Christmas spirit. My father so disliked the holidays because he had to get presents and he just wasn't into that. We had to go through a loss of a loved one five years ago when we lost Mother right before Christmas. What do you do to send the presents back or use them?
I figured out this year that I am at the front of the family tree now. There is no more way to think I am young. I have no children to carry on the family name. When I pass away the name that my father had will be dead on his side of the family. What does a person do to make the memories go away from the hurtful memories of the loved ones passing?
I know that people have been through this for years but it seems like when a person is facing it for the first year that we are in it alone. I have a wonderful mother-in-law to help me to make new traditions. I have a tree up and decorated. I feel like Scrooge because all that is going on in the world should make me want to help other people but I don't. I want to be there for my friends who as we age we all are going through the same first. Love to all family and friends.
More people over the years. With things like this pandemic, the family has to take updates about your loved one through the health professionals. Thanks to the health professionals but we know our loved ones better. We know what one movement means where a caregiver doesn't.