ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

The Richest Man in Town...

Updated on December 23, 2012
Dad & Me
Dad & Me | Source
Artwork by James R. Griffin
Artwork by James R. Griffin | Source

How much for a big belly laugh?

Dear Dad,

It sure is a crazy world sometimes, Dad. It sure is.

I miss watching Andy Griffith with you and hearing you laugh at Barney Fife's high-jinx.

It's December 23. Twenty-three means a lot to me. You were 23 years older than me. You and Mom were married on December 23, 1960.

So it seems fitting to write something to you today. How about a letter? I used to love writing letters to you and receiving letters from you. I never knew what I was gonna get, but you always could make me laugh, Dad. You were also so extremely talented that I was in awe of your artistic abilities.

"The Crow" by James R. Griffin
"The Crow" by James R. Griffin | Source

Two men...

Dad, you were the artist that I admired and shook my head in wonder at when looking at your work. You were also the guy I could talk to about nearly anything. I could talk to you about "what if's" and eternal possibilities that I couldn't discuss with anyone else. You were a friend. I didn't even realize how much that meant to me while it was happening, but it is infinitely clear now.

At least we HAD those conversations. At least I knew both sides of you. You were talented and ambitious, but also a deep thinker with a killer sense of humor.

You spread a lot of sunshine with your art. That is your legacy. You barely made a dime, but I think that was just marketing and management. Who knows, I may follow in your footsteps nearly step for step, but you know what? I'm making peace with that.

There's so much to learn in this world of get-ahead-at-all-costs. What's "ahead" anyway, Dad?

When will I know that I'm getting "ahead?" How does anyone know? Dad help me explain, and help me know it myself, please.

We come here. We do what we do. "Don't let your song go unsung." "Don't die with your dance inside you." People rarely say that it doesn't matter if you just dance for yourself once in awhile. Sing your song at the top of your lungs - to make YOU happy! Try it. Applaud yourself once in awhile!

Did you know that unless you think you are worth attention - you won't get any from others? Deep down, I'm talkin' about.

Most of us aren't Barney Fife's. We don't have "delusions of grandeur" about ourselves. We actually most often feel very insecure and doubtful of our worthiness.

My dad had to have known that he was a great artist. But when I asked him to stay, not move away, because I knew his health could not take it, he said to me, "I didn't know you loved me that much."

Were you kidding me, Dad?

I know you weren't kidding, because there were tears in your eyes. We both cried.

Sometimes we make our stupidest decisions in life because we don't think anyone really cares about what we do anyway.

Yet one person can be that very special person that has a singular way to help you - in a way that no one else possibly can. It may just be their laugh. It may just be the way they see you. Maybe no one else notices the way you try to put a little extra flair in the way you dress. That one person who notices - Ah! What a gem.

Do you ever stop and look in the mirror and turn off that voice that says, "Oh I look older." "Hate my hair today," or "Wish I still had some..."

Why isn't there a mirror for how much you mean to somebody else?

My dad was so beaten down emotionally throughout his life, that I didn't even realize that he would think to ask my daughter, "Would you cry if I died?"

I hope you are counting the tears, Dad.

If tears were pennies, you would be a very, very rich man!

How many of us don't begin to realize how much we mean to others, how important our mere presence is, even if we can't draw or sing or dance?

Our song may be a smile. Our dance may be pacing the floor waiting for our teenager to get home after a party. Our art may be the world of love we create for someone who holds us very dear.

So by all means, do what you LOVE in life. Go for your dreams! And while you do, please remember that you inspire dreams in those who love you. They would miss your laugh, and are more thankful for you than they probably take the time to say.

You are very, very rich.

Take this knowledge into the New Year, and please - know that you are deeply LOVED.


For you, Dad - on December 23...

Love isn't really free. When you lose a loved one from this world, the vast bill comes due...and you find that they are worth every tear. ~h~

Yes, Dad, I LOVED you that much! Thank you for everything.

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • heavenleigh707 profile image
      Author

      Heaven L Burkes 4 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

      Thank you so very much, dear Mike. So sweet of you to take time on your Christmas morning to read this. You sure made me cry with your comments, but in a good way. We watched "It's a Wonderful Life" last night (a Christmas eve tradition) and when they got to that part of the movie in the video - I just lost it.

      We truly do have so much to be thankful for. And thankfully that LOVE that they have for us, and we have for them - just never dies. I think it keeps growing.

      A beautiful Christmas and Magical New Year to you! xoxoxox

    • heavenleigh707 profile image
      Author

      Heaven L Burkes 4 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

      Thank you so much for reading, dear Beckie. So much love to you and yours. You are right - it is so important to realize what we did have with them. I am very grateful. And the amazing thing is - it seems like anything I didn't say very well when he was here, he understands now. xoxoxox

      Beautiful memories from this Christmas and a Blessed and shining New Year to you!

    • mckbirdbks profile image

      mckbirdbks 4 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

      Merry Christmas heavenleigh, your letter to your Dad is a very nice gift to have unwrapped this Christmas morning. You have given so much love and admiration on behalf of your Father that it is heartwarming. How do you measure success? I measure it by a heart that can write this letter.

      All best wishes.

    • shiningirisheyes profile image

      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Oh such tears in my eyes as I read about the relationship between you and your dear Dad. So many believe they are not even worthy of our tears yet how wonderful he and you shared the most important conversation together. How wonderful that he and you were able to talk.

      I send such large amounts of white light and blessings your way. I am so thankful you shared this part of your heart. December 23rd is full of your Dad's grace ....and yours.

      Love, Beckie XO

    • heavenleigh707 profile image
      Author

      Heaven L Burkes 4 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

      Blessings to you, dear Shauna, the brave! :) You have a beautiful Christmas as well!

      I'm grateful for your friendship and the way you give of your heart to others to make their days brighter! xoxoxox

    • bravewarrior profile image

      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Heaven, let the tears flow into a pool of love. Your dad was amazingly talented, as are you!

      Merry Christmas my dear friend!

    • heavenleigh707 profile image
      Author

      Heaven L Burkes 4 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

      Dearest CrisSp,

      I so appreciate your comments. Thank you so much for voting up and sharing.

      A VERY Merry Christmas to you as well. Thank you - you got me all emotional again too. Oh well, it's Christmas! Let the tears and love flow! I hope you find a very magical surprise in your stocking too! :)

      Love and hugs, ~h~

    • heavenleigh707 profile image
      Author

      Heaven L Burkes 4 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

      Thank you so much for reading, dear Mhatter. A very Happy Holidays to you too!

    • CrisSp profile image

      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Tears on Dec 23, 2012.....for I felt sadness on this lovely piece, which you have exquisitely penned for your dad and for the world to witness your endless love.

      You must have gotten his artistic soul. Merry Christmas to you heavenleigh and know that you are loved.

      Voted up, beautiful and sharing this wonderful hub.

      Love from the sky~

    • Mhatter99 profile image

      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for sharing this. Happy and safe holidys