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What I Have Learnt From Year 2018

Updated on December 31, 2018
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Inspired by John Hansen's article, A Creed for the Third Millenium, I have decided to share what I have learnt from 2018 because the year is coming to an end soon. The HubPages community has also inspired me to write this as they are super positive people!

Here is the link to John Hansen's article,

https://remedygrove.com/wellness/A-Creed-For-the-Third-Millennium

Sure, we can say 2019 is just another year and New Year's Day is just an ordinary day but I feel that if I pen down lessons from 2018, I would be able to wrap up the year like a Christmas present in a nice bow so that it is safe and I can take a peek into 2018 in case I lose my memory.

Better Late Than Never

Isn’t it disappointing to find out at the last minute why some things did not go as planned and you feel the need to say that you should have known that earlier? Answers did not come from within but externally like friends and family. You may have accidentally brushed off the issues and found out later regretfully why they arose.


Lesson: It's a good habit to acknowledge issues at the point of occurrence but discovering answers to their existence later is better than never as long as you learn from the mistake.

Misunderstandings

There may be inconsistencies between the thoughts in your head and the words that are meant to convey those thoughts. I have a poor habit of fumbling with words so I have to rephrase my sentences in my head to match what I intend on expressing verbally. I get frustrated if I don’t get it right and get misunderstood.


Lesson: When misunderstandings happen, there should be patience and kindness over logic. Don’t beat up yourself for creating misunderstandings or get annoyed if you misunderstand others. How can we possibly say the exact match from our head all the time? With practice, it be can be overcome too.


Take Something With A Pinch Of Salt

Over thinking creates a burden on your shoulders. Depending on the situation, if you take the words of others as they are, you would not have the need to blame others and yourself. It may not even be an issue.


Lesson: Learn to let go, see the good in others and give the benefit of doubt to them.

Better Opinions

There will always be opinions that contradict your original beliefs and what others had to say earlier. It’s not a matter of right or wrong because everyone’s experience is different.


Lesson: I believe that good opinions come from trustworthy people and should reflect your situation because the person giving the opinion may not get the big picture. In the end, you decide what to believe in.

False Impressions

There’s a saying that the truth hurts but lying is worse. We can’t say that the first impressions we give are lies but people are going to judge you and create the idea that you are worse or better than you are.


Lesson: You are your own judge and you should know yourself better than others. A compliment may not reflect who you are plus it’s a passing moment but it's something to consider to improve. It’s not always that we receive compliments and we should be thankful to have positive people in our lives. They mean well and we can learn from them.

Making Time

People who I look up to are usually busy and tired but somehow they still have energy to make time for me. They may not be there to control my situation but I have learnt they are the ones who give me strength.


Lesson: Spending that extra time to be there for someone even if little, goes a long way. You may not find the right words or be an expert at making wise decisions for the person you advice but your goal should be to assist the person to get back on their feet or recover by being positive. Personally, I think that if you are sincere, that will suffice.

Put Others First

Even if you think that something is alright to you, it may not be alright to another.


Lesson: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. We may not be punished for doing a silly mistake but we should have more respect for others and definitely self-respect otherwise we wouldn't have known it's a wrong thing.

Independence

Walking among strangers made me wonder what they were thinking. Could it be that they were going through hardship or maybe they suddenly remembered that they forgot to switch off the oven. They inspire me to be strong because there will come a time when I would have to be more independent and survive on my own.


Lesson: Make the effort to be more observant and learn as much as you can every day. Picking up new skills is very important to make sure you can live normally and be at peace.

Note to Hubbers: Feel free to go against my lessons and comment. The more opinions, the merrier.

© 2018 Li-Jen Hew

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    • profile imageAUTHOR

      Li-Jen Hew 

      2 years ago

      Hahaha. Thank you for being here Frank! Good to see you again. May you be have a good year! :)

    • Frank Atanacio profile image

      Frank Atanacio 

      2 years ago from Shelton

      this was in my opinin a clever piece to end the year with Li-Jen.. hope your New Years starts off super.. my friend

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      Li-Jen Hew 

      2 years ago

      Hi Sean, thank you for your kind comment. I am flawed too and I have to learn like everybody else. Thank you for being understanding and always sweet even after I have shared my imperfections via this article. People like you and Manatita have also inspired me. Like you have taught me about Love and time and time again I needed to hear your wisdom of Love. Lol. Manatita and you are patient people.

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      Ioannis Arvanitis 

      2 years ago from Greece, Almyros

      Oh, my dear and sweet Li-Jen, Manatita has so right! I am so very proud of you! This is an excellent Hub, full of Love and wisdom and all the good things I have seen in you from the start. I am sure that you have learnt many great lessons through the difficulties of 2018, and these lessons will be your "weapons" for the battles to come and the "baskets" for the gifts to come! I am always by your side, don't forget.

      Love will give you miracles!

      Sean

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      Li-Jen Hew 

      2 years ago

      Hey Shaloo, welcome to my page. Thank you!

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      Shaloo Walia 

      2 years ago from India

      It's the experiences that make us richer and wiser as long as we continue to learn from them. Great hub!

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      Li-Jen Hew 

      2 years ago

      Hi Manatita. It's an honour to receive feedback from you. Thank you so much! Merry Christmas!

    • manatita44 profile image

      manatita44 

      2 years ago from london

      Wow! Li-Jen! You have made it to 'counsellhood!'

      So good to see you sharing like a life-coach … an inspirator and motivator with sincere life-lessons. I am truly proud of you! You have expressed yourself here so well!!

      Super 'food for thought' for 2019 and beyond. Hold your head high and keep up the good work. John will be proud of you. Merry Christmas!!

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      Li-Jen Hew 

      2 years ago

      Thanks, Bill! Wishing you good health and happiness haha!

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      Bill Holland 

      2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Wishing, for you, love and peace always!

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      Li-Jen Hew 

      2 years ago

      Thanks for being the first haha. Because your article influenced me. Thanks a lot and my pleasure!

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      John Hansen 

      2 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Oh Li-Jen, what a compliment to have you write this. You obviously learnt great lessons from 2018. You offer a lot of good advice to others here as well. Thank you for adding the link to my hub as well. Have a great New Year.

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