What I truly want for Mothers Day
There is a celebrity driven anti mothers day campaign going on right now and I just want to say back off our holiday people. Their point is to be silent to recognize women who have died in child birth or pregnancy. I don't think that is what these women who had wanted. They died trying to become a mother and to celebrate along with us. They wouldn't have wanted to punish mothers everywhere, that kinda defeats the purpose. They wanted to be mothers, to have children, to live to see their children celebrate mothers day with them.
So mothers day is a day that my children are forced to remember all the things I do for them. Sure they thank me for things everyday and love me with hugs and kisses. The special projects they bring home from school are wonderful and loving expressions of their appreciation.
I love Mothers day because it one of the few times all year where my husband is forced to think about the things I like and would like to have but that I wouldn't spend the money on myself.
Finding a Gift
My husband constantly complains that I am hard to buy for. I say there are many wonderful things that I point out that I want all the time.
Unfortunately he looks at the list of household needs as my wish list. Mothers day presents in my house should not include the new vacuum that we need or the new Keurig (cause I am not the coffee drinker) that we need to replace the broken one that I got for mothers day 3 years ago.
On the other hand I have been hinting for weeks that I really want a massive flowering potted plant for the stoop in front of our garage. Or the fact that I really need a manicure and pedicure but that I don't want to spend the money (aka if it is a gift I would love it). I have also mentioned several times that I am going to go nuts if I don't have a day away from my 3 year old soon. I love him dearly but he is a challenge and every once in awhile I need a break. Here is hubby cue to arrange a day for him to go somewhere other than my house.
When I first got married I frequently said I didn't like flowers, well the last 10 years or so I changed my mind. I love having fresh flowers on the table, my hubby might notice that I buy them myself when I find them for a good price (Trader Joes has awesome deals on flower bouquets).
What I don't want
I don't want to spend the entire day hosting family. Maybe other people love having huge family gatherings but on Mothers day I just want to relax with my hubby and kids. Luckily for me my oldest child has a mothers day birthday - so we have the party on Saturday and see the entire family, so Sunday is left for church and vegging.
I don't want to do dishes, laundry, clean, or any other chore that needs to be done just this one day. I am spending all day Friday cleaning (for that birthday party) and will clean up on Monday. Hubby needs to spend a few extra seconds tidying up so I don't feel the need to scream Monday morning.
So what do you get your wife or mother
Start with things she likes and build on from there
If she loves starbucks coffee get the keurig, a reusable mug, giftcards, etc
Don't be afraid to go into her favorite store. I would love if my hubby went into The Loft and asked the sales girls for help. I shop there enough he should easily be able to look at my other clothes get the size and find something that I like or at least love him for trying. He has bought me clothes in the past, sometimes I love them and sometime I love that he tried and cared enough to try.
Don't buy jewelry that you know she won't wear. If she doesn't wear bracelets on a regular basis now she probably won't start. I have a ton of bracelets and to be honest between typing on my laptop and chasing a 3 yr old crazy child I don't wear any of them - maybe someday but don't buy a maybe someday piece. Now necklaces are something I can get into.
A planned evening out. That means you call the babysitter - not me. Arranging a surprise evening out where I have to do nothing but get ready would be a fabulous treat. One of my best friends always complains that she has to arrange for the sitter even when her husband plans a special night, it kinda takes the fun out of it if I have to do half the work. Don't forget to take out the cash to pay the sitter, that is not my job for the night.
Are you good with a camera. I love great photos of the kids. Walgreen has some fabulous easy to use photo collage features that any husband could use. What is better than great photos of the people I love the most.
I know, it isn't all about the presents
It isn't all about the presents.
I love my family to pieces and I am thankful that we are together, happy, and healthy. Think of the small things that would really make your mom smile. I clean bedroom would be a wonderful surprise right now - cost nothing.
I hope all mothers have a wonderful day. I spend a part of every mothers day praying for those who are urning to be a mother because I was once there too.