Why Is Valentine's Day a Good Day For Lonely Single Men and Women?

I know a lot of single women and men who dread February because it reminds them of being alone and lonely. Some believe that it is purely a Hallmark holiday just like grandparents' day and administrative assistant's day to sell more merchandise. Having spoken to a lot of single men and women, I was surprised to learn that it does not have to be a miserable time of year.

A New Year's Day for Romance

I love the new year because it is a reminder that I can start anew. One can use a calendar month for renewal, but that seems to be too short for any change, and thus a yearly reflection is so much better. I love it that within the month of January, there is Martin Luther King's Day, where I am active in my community promoting volunteerism, peace, and cooperation and I am reminded of his values. Similarly, one can view Valentine's Day as the New Year's Day for romance. Not everyone's goals and resolutions are reached or sustained by December 31, and similarly, it should not be too different in the field of romance. Valentine's Day is a good day to resolve to find companionship or love or a soul mate and not give up. People do not feel embarrassed that they cannot drop their pounds in the past year. They carry their goals to a new year. Every year, I vow to exercise more, weigh less, save more money, make more money, etc. Similarly, Valentine's Day is just another day to renew your goals in romance, and there is nothing to be embarrassed about because it is better to find the right mate than to find your She- or He-Devil and wind up in a messy $50,000 plus divorce.

Single Men and Women's Day To Go Out

Valentine's Day is a great day to gather your single friends and go out to a bar or restaurant. It is common knowledge that one of the best ways to meet someone is in a group setting. If you cannot start a conversation with a stranger in a local popular restaurant, maybe your friend can help you. It is like having numerous "wingmen" around.

I have been frequenting farmer's market lately, and I will use produce as an example. I noticed that when a farmer's market opens at 10 a.m., they usually have the freshest and most abundant supply of fruits and vegetables. You have the best chance of selecting good produce than to wait until closing time at 3 p.m., when there is nothing but the bruised and damaged goods. Likewise, the theory is the same for dating. You want to put yourself in a place where there are a lot of people who may be looking for relationships. The odds are better at finding someone whom you may find an interest when you are in a larger setting. Have you seen the movie Four Weddings and a Funeral where the same people meet and start relationships every time they meet at a wedding and even a funeral? Weddings are one of the best events to meet a date or significant other because it is a natural selection of mutual friends of the bride and groom. You do not invite people whom you dislike to your wedding. Chances are they are dear to you and you want them to witness your promise of loving and honoring your future spouse so long as you live. Not everyone you know will be inviting you to a wedding, unless you happen to be at an age where friends are getting married. So, Valentine's Day is a great excuse to go out with your friends and also invite your friends to invite their single friends and go out and have fun and meet new people. If you are single, Valentine's Day is not a day to spend alone and depressed or to force yourself to go on a date, unless you have already starting someone.

Good Day for a Romantic Gesture

Romance has to start somewhere, so why not it be you. Even if it is a Hallmark holiday, Valentine's Day is a good day to give a small token of attention to someone you like. As a married woman, I still receive chocolate from male friends on Valentine's Day, and I am always appreciative that someone went out of the way to be thoughtful.

One reason that it is a great day to give a token of attention/affection is that it is common knowledge that someone you like cannot like you back if he or she does not even notice you. So. Valentine's Day is a great excuse to seek someone's attention. It does not have to be a big gesture like champagne or roses. However, people are impressed with details and thoughtfulness. So, instead of a box of your run-of-the-mill chocolate like Russell Stover or Whitman's candy, why not a 2-piece nicely boxed Godiva truffles or a small bar of Godiva chocolate or small bag of Lindor's truffles. For a woman, this is great chocolate and the quantity will not add to her waistline. Further, you do not need to include a gushy Hallmark Valentine's Day card. A simple gift tag or small gift card would do the trick with a small quote. And for the guy, it is a gesture that will not clean out your piggy bank. For the gal, you, too, can give the same token of attention to a guy. There should not be any gender delineation these days.

Great Quotes for Every Day Purposes and Also Valentine's Day

The new year is so wonderful because it is a time for inspiration. Nobody frowns upon hope or inspiration. Nobody throws away a nice quote either. A handwritten card with the right inspiration is a keeper. I received a post card out of the blue from a classmate at a time when I was already girlfriend to someone else. I kept the card because it had a black and white photo of the Eiffel Tower. I don't recall what it said on it but it was the thought that someone went to France and remembered to send me a beautiful postcard. Incidentally, that classmate is now my husband.

Here are some quotes that are ever inspiring:

'The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their deams.'

-Eleanor Roosevelt

'Life is not measured by the number of breathes we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.'

-Author Unknown

“Peace begins with a smile.”

- Mother Teresa