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Lonely People on the Holidays

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    TMinutposted 8 years ago

    My neighbor told me during a conversation that it's lonely living alone. Even though he may enjoy the peace of it, he's lonely. Single men, would you think it's weird to be invited to a holiday celebration by someone you don't know well? If it's a woman inviting you, would you automatically assume it's a display of interest like for dating?

    1. Rod Marsden profile image74
      Rod Marsdenposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      You could make the 'just friends' angle clear in words or if it is a group celebration then friendliness rather than romance is implied.

    2. tangoshoes profile image60
      tangoshoesposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Being a long time single women and not a man I couldn't say how a man would react to this. I have a ton of family I usually celebrate holidays with however when I get invited to my close friend's family get togethers I always take the opportunity. I find other family traditions and quarks interesting and some times down right amusing.

      Just because someone is single doesn't mean they don't have family.

  2. Karina S. profile image61
    Karina S.posted 8 years ago

    no, holiday season is the worse time to be lonely

  3. jacobkuttyta profile image75
    jacobkuttytaposted 8 years ago

    Can't say

  4. NaomiR profile image87
    NaomiRposted 8 years ago

    I think it would be appreciated ... but make sure he understands your intentions!

    1. Pearldiver profile image81
      Pearldiverposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Are you serious? hmm
      I don't think anyone would appreciate being asked if you felt the need to state that conditions are attached! yikes
      Why would you feel anyone with a brain would need see the intention as anything other than a kind and caring offer? hmm
      Take the falseness out of it and they'd probably enjoy eachother's company........ smile
      Clearly it isn't something you would do on neutral terms lol

    2. Haunty profile image83
      Hauntyposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I agree.

  5. rebekahELLE profile image87
    rebekahELLEposted 8 years ago

    not a single man, but I think it sounds wonderful. say you're having family and friends over ~~ smile

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    TMinutposted 8 years ago

    It's also that I wouldn't want him to refuse solely because he thinks I am interested. We talk and get along great, I like his company. He may have plans already anyway and I can't imagine how it would be to be in someone's house on Christmas Day. Maybe it's more a Christmas Eve thing to invite someone?

  7. Haunty profile image83
    Hauntyposted 8 years ago

    Since he is a neighbour, I think it's no big deal to invite him over on Christmas day if you're comfortable with it. Christmas Eve is a much more personal time for me.

    1. Karina S. profile image61
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  8. akirchner profile image95
    akirchnerposted 8 years ago

    I would just invite him and slip in the caveat that no one should be alone at the holidays; the more the merrier, things like that - and DON'T go to the door in a teddy!  ha ha Seriously think that it is best to extend the invite and not let folks to be lonesome - any time.  If they mention it, it must be weighing on their mind - especially a man (sorry guys) but expressing feelings is harder (in my experience) for men.  I always think it never hurts to extend a small kindness as you never know what the person is going through or needs and you just may be the light at the end of their tunnel.

  9. pennyhowington profile image55
    pennyhowingtonposted 8 years ago

    I would let him know that you are having some friends over and he's welcome. That wouldn't make me think that you had other intentions....but...
    Good luck and bless you for caring about your neighbor!