Lonely People on the Holidays

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   TMinutposted 14 years ago

   My neighbor told me during a conversation that it's lonely living alone. Even though he may enjoy the peace of it, he's lonely. Single men, would you think it's weird to be invited to a holiday celebration by someone you don't know well? If it's a woman inviting you, would you automatically assume it's a display of interest like for dating?

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      Rod Marsdenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      You could make the 'just friends' angle clear in words or if it is a group celebration then friendliness rather than romance is implied.
      
      
      

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      tangoshoesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Being a long time single women and not a man I couldn't say how a man would react to this. I have a ton of family I usually celebrate holidays with however when I get invited to my close friend's family get togethers I always take the opportunity. I find other family traditions and quarks interesting and some times down right amusing.
      
      Just because someone is single doesn't mean they don't have family.

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   Karina S.posted 14 years ago

   no, holiday season is the worse time to be lonely

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   jacobkuttytaposted 14 years ago

   Can't say

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   NaomiRposted 14 years ago

   I think it would be appreciated ... but make sure he understands your intentions!

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      Pearldiverposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Are you serious?
      I don't think anyone would appreciate being asked if you felt the need to state that conditions are attached!
      Why would you feel anyone with a brain would need see the intention as anything other than a kind and caring offer?
      Take the falseness out of it and they'd probably enjoy eachother's company........
      Clearly it isn't something you would do on neutral terms

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      Hauntyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I agree.

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   rebekahELLEposted 14 years ago

   not a single man, but I think it sounds wonderful. say you're having family and friends over ~~

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   TMinutposted 14 years ago

   It's also that I wouldn't want him to refuse solely because he thinks I am interested. We talk and get along great, I like his company. He may have plans already anyway and I can't imagine how it would be to be in someone's house on Christmas Day. Maybe it's more a Christmas Eve thing to invite someone?

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   Hauntyposted 14 years ago

   Since he is a neighbour, I think it's no big deal to invite him over on Christmas day if you're comfortable with it. Christmas Eve is a much more personal time for me.

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      Karina S.posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      agree

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   akirchnerposted 14 years ago

   I would just invite him and slip in the caveat that no one should be alone at the holidays; the more the merrier, things like that - and DON'T go to the door in a teddy!  ha ha Seriously think that it is best to extend the invite and not let folks to be lonesome - any time.  If they mention it, it must be weighing on their mind - especially a man (sorry guys) but expressing feelings is harder (in my experience) for men.  I always think it never hurts to extend a small kindness as you never know what the person is going through or needs and you just may be the light at the end of their tunnel.

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   pennyhowingtonposted 14 years ago

   I would let him know that you are having some friends over and he's welcome. That wouldn't make me think that you had other intentions....but...
   Good luck and bless you for caring about your neighbor!

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