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A Poem for those Who Have Lost a Loved One

Updated on September 10, 2010


This is a poem that I have on my wall right next to my desk. It was in a card given to me by a dear friend right after the loss of my beautiful daughter Kristi. After four years it still comforts me. After writing a few hubs on my experience I have received numerous messages from other mothers who have lost children - it breaks my heart. I thought I would share this poem in hopes that it might help someone else:

"God's beautiful plan

Is sometimes concealed,

But someday His purpose

Will be fully revealed.

Someday God's wisdom

Will make it very plain

Why problems were permitted

And how He uses pain.

Things thought illogical

Disease, tragedy, fear

Will someday make sense

When God makes all things clear.

We'll see the Lord's purpose

From Heaven's point of view,

And we will understand

In ways we never knew.

Till we are home with God

Some answers have to wait.

Lord, We'll Trust and Obey.

Lord, help us walk by faith."

Perry Tanksley


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      Susan Ream 3 years ago from Michigan

      A loss so great there are really no words to adequately describe. The poem is beautiful and surely must help to give voice to your loss.

      The picture of your Kristi is so beautiful and reveals such a 'full of life' spirit. I cannot imagine your grief. May God walk beside you and may he bind up the wounds of loss as only He can do.

      Thank you for sharing as the comments reveal that sharing your journey has been a comfort to many readers.

      God Bless and keep you close to His heart!


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      Nitin Pillai 4 years ago from Mumbai, Maharastra, India

      I can feel your pain through this poem. God bless you Meschill.

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      jayee5011 5 years ago

      Today is 8/6/12. My sister, who was by best fried died 4 years ago in April. A month later in May, her son died from an infection he got after tattooing her name on her his arm. A month after that, June, her daughter, Shellie, who had the kindest heart I've ever know died from the shock of fire ant bites. All thought it had been over 4 years ago, I can not get over my sisters death. She was much older and like a a mother to me after our mother died. She was funny, loving, kind and generous. I grieve for her kids, but it is her death that is killing me. I am married and I love my husband dearly, but there are days I want the lord to take me because the pain is so great. I miss and an angry with her for leaving me all at the same time. I feel I just want to lay down and stop breathing. She taught school and was going to retire and travel the year she died. She had a massive heart attack at home while talking to her kids. I was living in the Middle East with husband (he worked there at the time) I did not get to say good by, as a matter of fact I was on vacation in Thailand and did not know of her death for a few days until I got back to the M.E. and read an email to call home. While I was on vacation, I was going to call here but went swimming instead. I am about to lose my mind. I loved her with all my heart she was and is my best friend. I have tried to read the bible, but nothing assauges my grief. When I in the town where she is buried, I visted her grave 3 times a week. My husband is again in the M.E. and I am in a town in the U.S. where we have a business. I have no friends or other family here. My best friend from college who I talked to every day OD the year before my sister died. I have 2 other sisters that treat me like dirt, and all I ever did was help them and their kids as my husband and I are wealthy. I found out my oldest sister, that does not speak to me, has breast cancer. I called her to tell her if she wanted a second opinion I would pay for it because I want to live. She said she would think about it and I haven't heard from her since. My parents are dead and my family is small. I don't understand why God took Barbara, the love of my heart, when my other sisters basically work for Satan, and left them. I feel as if I am losing my mind and one step away for leaving this earth. I love/loved her so. How can I get over missing her. ------- Janice

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      Kathi 7 years ago from Saugatuck Michigan

      Thank you, bless you on this mournful day of mine. Kristi is beautiful!

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      Unchained Grace 7 years ago from Baltimore, MD

      Before I even got here, I almost knew RevLady would be here also. This is a beautiful poem and at every level it says so much. It is a prayer of remembrance and of healing for those left behind. Grief, loss and learning how to handle the inevitable void seems like an insurmountable and very tall order until you do with it what God wants you to which is to give it all to Him. This is very special. Thank you!

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      RevLady 7 years ago from Lantana, Florida

      A beautiful, tender, loving expression of love for your child. I sense your pain and empathize. Thank you for sharing memories of your beloved. It is medicinal to many souls.

      Love and peace,

      Forever His,

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      Karen Wilton 7 years ago from Australia

      Beautiful poem and heart warming sentiments. It is such a hard time losing a child, we think we can never survive. It is wonderful for you and for us that you have shared the memory of Kristi with her photo. Thank you.

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      Mike 7 years ago

      Meschil My sixteen year old daughter was killed in a car accident Apr 19th of this year. My pain and greif is tremendous. At times I feel it difficult to continue with daily routines. Your pages are helping me a lot. I have not spoken to any proffessional about the loss but yet keep it bottled up.

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      Mike 7 years ago

      Meschil My sixteen year old daughter was killed in a car accident Apr 19th of this year. My pain and greif is tremendous. At times I feel it difficult to continue with daily routines. Your pages are helping me a lot. I have not spoken to any proffessional about the loss but yet keep it bottled up.

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      Mike 7 years ago

      Meschil My sixteen year old daughter was killed in a car accident Apr 19th of this year. My pain and greif is tremendous. At times I feel it difficult to continue with daily routines. Your pages are helping me a lot. I have not spoken to any proffessional about the loss but yet keep it bottled up.

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      ahorseback 7 years ago

      Mescill, There are no words that are enough to make you feel what feel ,for you. She will always be with you though, I know that....stay well and thank you for sharing.

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      UlrikeGrace 7 years ago from Canada

      Thank you...thank you for sharing this...bless you

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      Mark Bruno 7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Meschill, Such a beautiful Poem and very touching. I am so sorry for your loss of your beautiful Daughter, but remember, it is only temporary, We will all meet in Heaven when it is our time. She is walking right beside you and lives in your heart everyday. Stay strong my friend!

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      Karen Metz 7 years ago from Michigan

      This was such a beautiful poem! When my daughter died, a friend of mine who was out of town at the time, sent me an envelope of poems. They helped comfort me and I used one of them in the funeral service. If you don't mind, I am going to put this one with my collection. Thanks so much for sharing!

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      DStettler 7 years ago

      that is a beautiful poem


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