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Being Grandpa....or A.K.A. You're Getting Old, Rob

Updated on March 15, 2012

I guess this is what mid-life crisis is all about, realizing you are getting old, and am, as my five-year old granddaughter put it to me last year on our fishing outing, “old and going to die soon”.

Well, I hope 47 is not that old - since I am already here - but people begin knocking off at this age from all sorts of things. I remember when I was 17 years old, and never thought I could live to be this old, this decrepit or whatever. Now I am on the doorstep of all that and finding it is everything I didn’t want after all. I used to make fun of my mom for becoming “antique” when she turned fifty, I am not far off myself now.

The first indication came when I was about 40 and the AARP – American Association of Retired People – began chasing me down for membership. Thinking they had confused me with my father, I laughed it off. They even tracked me down at work to send messages. Seven years later, they have not gone away and their propaganda gets more acceptable as I creep closer to their acknowledgment of the end of my life.

It is great to be a grandfather this young, to be able to still run and play with energy, but how long is it going to last? Riding the little rubber bouncing horse of my granddaughters makes my knees stiff, my hands ache after a lot of typing or writing, my wrist is sore after “flying” the girls around the house. My wife says she seems to wake up with a new ache or pain every day. It does seem that way.

In fact I married a bellwether of sorts, since my wife is 13 months my elder, I figure she gives me glimpse of what is coming for me.

In order to prove that age wasn’t getting the best of me, I started playing floor hockey with those 20 something aged kids on my dart partner’s sons’ team. Other than not being able to breathe the first couple of weeks, I was doing okay. Yeah I lost a step, okay several steps, but compensated with smart play and a few extra hits to slow the kids down.
Of course, my bones aren’t what they used to be either it seems, so those hits affected me more the next day than those kids.

I don’t think science will advance faster than my age to keep me living and going as strong as the twenty years olds’, but will hopefully help to keep me around longer.

I guess being grandpa was the biggest realization of my age. I love it, but have found it is now my turn. It is my turn, to be a special someone that can foster and nourish the little someone’s and be like my own grandfather. It was my grandfather that sparked my interest in science, weather, fishing, astronomy and more. I strive to pass on those special moments with my own grandchildren now.

My grandfather was older than I am now, he was the more traditional 60’s aged grandpa, and I can’t recall him ever running around, or that I cared. He was always there to toss a ball with me, pitch to me, hitting balls to me, flying kites and more. I don’t know if he cared either, that he couldn’t do those things. It was more the time he spent with me and the knowledge and fun he imparted on me that has lasted a lifetime.

It has actually lasted more than a lifetime, generations to be exact. I strive to be as good as or better than the high example set by my grandfather, which will hopefully be an influence on my grandchildren for the rest of their lives too. I am sure he is proud that his influence carries on.

Truthfully I have fared pretty well, better than I would have expected, and better than most people my age. I am healthy, good weight, low cholesterol, take no meds except for the allergy pills and can still get out and run with the kids.

It has just come down to acceptance, realizing who I really am – or actually how old I am. Maybe I am not ready to do that just yet, some kids grow up slow. I want to grow old slow.


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      Irob 5 years ago from St. Charles

      Thank you supalumbo40. My life is pretty wonderful and I am glad I started realizing it again. WE often forget how much there is in our lives

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      supalumbo40 5 years ago from Louisana

      You are fortunate to be a grandparent at a young age. I am 51 with both a 10 year old and a 25 year old. Hope the 25 year old gives me a grandchild before the 10 year old so I can still enjoy it. Sounds like your life is pretty wonderful.

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      Irob 5 years ago from St. Charles

      Thank you Pamela. It is kind of prime, maybe not just physcially anymore, but a losing a couple of steps isn't that bad.

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      Irob 5 years ago from St. Charles

      Dan, thanks. Take care of yourself first though, the stuff will still be here later.

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      Pamela Kinnaird W 5 years ago from Maui and Arizona

      Forty-seven is the prime of life. My dad is 85 and he plays squash almost as well as when he was 60. Well, he can't run quite as fast on the court as he used to, but he can still play the strategy and have the young 50-year-olds all over the court, missing the ball.

      Enjoyed your hub. Voting up and interesting.

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      Dan W Miller 5 years ago from the beaches of Southern California now living in Phoenix since 2000

      I promise to read more, Irob. In pain lately and hard to concentrate. I want to give your hubs my full attention.

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      Irob 5 years ago from St. Charles

      thank you audrey

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      Audrey Howitt 5 years ago from California

      It is all a matter of perspective and everything is relative- interesting to hear your ponderings---

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      Irob 5 years ago from St. Charles

      Yeah, it is all a mater of perspective, she thinks she is going to die soon. At five, she doesn't know anything other than it happens.

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      Joy56 5 years ago

      so your grand daughter thinks you are going to die soon..... Our grandparents seemed really old, but we are spring chicken like bunch of grandparents.... may you live long...... and enjoy every day..

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      Irob 5 years ago from St. Charles

      Thanks Dan, my grandfather also left me with two MArk Twain novels illustrated by Norman Rockwell and a few other interesting items

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      Irob 5 years ago from St. Charles

      Thank you nimue1021176.

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      Dan W Miller 5 years ago from the beaches of Southern California now living in Phoenix since 2000

      We are lucky to get this far, Irob. We have similar life experiences as far as grandchildren. I'm 54 this year and my oldest granddaughter will be 12. Think of how many didn't get to live this long and it seems 50 is a big finish line for many.

      I like how you say your wife at 13 months your senior is a glimpse into the future. (Oh, REAL far into that time machine, eh? LOL!)

      One of my grandfathers left me an enormous library of literary classics. Could have been the best gift ever. And, y'know, people always said he closely resembled Mark Twain.

      Well written, my friend!

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      nimue1021176 5 years ago

      Good reflection IRob, you are only as old as you feel as the saying goes. Everyone at some point faces their mortality it is a way of life. It is better to embrace it than hope it doesn't catch up to soon to you. Keep up the good work and give those twenty somethings, something to think about!

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      Irob 5 years ago from St. Charles

      It sneaks up on you regardless, no matter how healthy you are. Adn everyone has their own point of realization.

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      Jackie Lynnley 5 years ago from The Beautiful South

      I always wondered when I would feel grown up and still I didn't after having two children, but somewhere down the line it just catches us, doesn't it? Just have to make up for it by taking good care of our health. Interesting hub.

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      Irob 5 years ago from St. Charles

      Thank you sasanka7. It truly is the image and giving it all you have that counts.

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      sasanka7 5 years ago from Calcutta, India

      Very interesting and realistic hub. Your hub is a mirror in which everybody can see their mind’s image. Thanks for sharing. Voted interesting.