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5 Personality Traits to Avoid like Plague
We meet a lot of people. Some we like, some we don't. You don't get to choose everyone who surrounds you, neither can you choose relatives, nor all your colleagues. But whenever you have the choice, try to stay away or spend as less time as possible with people which exhibit any of these 5 characteristics. Check out the serious advice hidden in the funny descriptions. And run away fast from people who feature any of these ~
1. Dullness Personified
This one is the worst of all. It becomes difficult to breathe around people who are too slow and dull. It is as if they don't know even the iota of liveliness. This kind of people sit with generally a frown/sad expression to pass their time, thinking of all kind of nonsense their head will allow. When you don't have a choice, but to stay with such people, try to make them smile - could be tough - depends on the intensity of this characteristic they exhibit.
These people typically have no hobbies, no interests to pursue, to talk about - so they lack topics of general conversation. They tend to repeat themselves if forced to establish a conversation, their topics would generally include criticizing the neighbours relatives etc. over and over again for same things. It could be a young neighbour who has put on weight too early after marriage, or it could be a relative who is not a great cook. Most often the poor people who are being criticized or their horrible habits have got nothing to do with our dullness personified guys/gals. But as I said, to compensate for the lack of topics, they will go on and on and on about nonsensical stuff which has got nothing to do with them. So don't allow any sympathies to be wasted with an assumption that they are just sharing their sorrows.
They won't have recent favorite songs or poetry to share. They generally are either not creative at all, or they don't give heed to their creativity more than the dullness which surrounds them, which they seem to have fallen in love with.
If you spend little too much time with these people, you will start feeling the impact of negativity caused by the cloud of dullness. In any case, futile inane criticism, which doesn't even make anyone laugh, is hyper wastage of a priceless, limited resource - Time.
2. Show Off is a Compulsion
This is terrible too. Irony is, even the sensible kind of people fall in the trap of this category when they spend too much time with people for whom Show Off is a Compulsion. The peer pressure is quite effective here.
One would think, that such people would show off and talk boastfully about their assets - starting from land, cars & money to jewels, designer or expensive clothes, latest gadgets etc. Sometimes such show off could be interesting, it could bring upon some interesting discussion which might prove to be knowledge enhancing, irrespective of the initial motive of initiation of the topic.
But hang on, that's not it. Our showy chaps can also boast about the people they are related to or even people they are acquainted with! It would be challenge to keep a straight face when someone proudly tells about a relative who has used flight as a medium of travel instead of train or road (as if flying gave them actual wings), or about number of people working under an acquaintance, about whose work they would know nothing at all.
After you spend some time with the fake glitter of show off - check it out - you might catch yourself bragging about something you know wasn't a big deal at all. So be aware - don't be a victim to their trap of false glamour.
3. Illogical but convinced they Know it all
This kind of characters are very difficult to talk to - even if you want to have polite conversations with them out of respect. They are absolutely illogical but they are thoroughly convinced that they know it all. And if you are attempting to convince them otherwise, you are in bad need of immense amount of patience and sheer good luck.
Okay, so as an example, such people are capable of this - you share a news of jerks in an airplane while landing - they will compare it to a scooter which is bumping due to lack of petrol. You read it correct. They can also blame mutual funds to be cheats after having suffered a loss, and if you try to remind them about the risks that they had accepted, then you've had it.
The know it all's are often offensive. Rather they become offending while defending themselves. And they somehow feel the need of defending themselves all the time. They are on a continuous lookout for potential offenses. They could be living nightmares for people who are straightforward and honest.
Do you know someone with any of above?
Any of these ring a bell? Do you attempt to avoid them?
4. Too Worried, Too Negative
While they might not mean harm, these people are definitely not the ones you would want to go with a problem, or a bad news. They will give you rather intense reactions, and make the impact of your bad news worse. They might say, "Oh God! Now what?" They won't be able to get over the suspicion and scepticism of situations being awful and out of hand - while they might not be all the bad.
Instead of uplifting you, they'll increase the problems by the almost constant flow of horrendous vibes of worry and negativity. They are unable to come up with any possible situations, remedies - they just don't react in a fruitful manner - to quote from "Big Bang Theory" - they are "constitutionally incapable" of solving problems, they can only enhance them.
5. Can't Appreciate Logically
This is an ironical trait - quite complex and not easily perceived. Just look out for the following - if someone has the tendency to appreciate the weak looking - and won't appreciate the same quality in someone who looks capable enough - the moment of running has come.
These people are actually rather frustrated in life, although they might not apparently accept it. They want to appreciate apparently harmless weak people, as they don't feel threatened by them. Anyone who actually deserve words of praise will straight away go to their black books. This is because, generally, they have a feeling that they are incapable of achieving the same skills/goals etc. Since they can not, the threat is potent enough to increase the level of insecurity.
Everyone likes appreciation, and let's face it, logical people like logical appreciation - even if it doesn't concern them directly. A lot of illogical praise can be as annoying and irritating as someone being wrongly put down because of a stupid insecurity. If you have a short temper, this trait is your ultimate cue to run.
Running can be Virtual
Sometimes the bond you share with people having any of the above characteristic traits is stronger than your desire to run. In such cases, avoid the specific topics which bring out the worst in them. Take the threads of conversations in your hands. Keep it light and simple. And you will be successful in the virtual run.