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Dealing with a Poor Writer

Updated on January 29, 2015

To Avoid the Situation or to be Supportive?

My boyfriend is a lot of things: smart, handsome, funny...the list goes on. One thing he is not? A good writer. Now, let me give you some background information.

Alex is a fisheries major, meaning that the major portion of his college education has involved writing scientific papers. He plans on going for his Master's Degree, which means writing more scientific papers.

I've noticed a few things whenever he has to write anything...essays, papers, paragraphs. Hopefully I'm not the only one having to handle this, and hopefully I can help you!

Stuck in the Mud

Alex's number one fault that gets in the way of his writing is his inability to move on. I was always told that if you don't know something, move on and it will come to you. I used it in tests as well as my writing. There is no sense wasting your current time to just to MAYBE be able to come up with something. I was the absolute worse about bouncing around on tests and in papers. If I don't write down what is in my head, I'll lose it immediately.

Alex has difficulty moving on when he gets stuck. This tends to stress him out and make him angry. I do my best to help, but sometimes it just doesn't work.

What should you do? Give the person you are trying to help some space. People get over stress and difficult situations differently. I find that giving Alex some space for a little bit usually helps. He is either able to figure out what he wants to say or where he wants to go or he realizes that he does need my help and overcomes the anger and frustration. It's the hardest thing to do to just walk away when someone needs you, but sometimes it just needs to be done.

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Editing

This is generally a touchy subject. There are certain times when he's okay with me going through and editing. However, sometimes he likes what he has written, even if it needs a little help. I generally try to stick with simple spelling and grammar errors. When a sentence or a paragraph really needs some help, I tend to step in. Just tread carefully so as to not hurt anyone's feelings.

Final Advice

My final advice to you is to just be supportive. People who have a difficult time writing generally hate it for a reason. Just do your best to help them along the way. It will work out best for everyone in the end.

What are your thoughts?

What is your biggest challenge when writing?

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    • ellemichele profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline 

      3 years ago from Athens, GA

      Thank you so much for that comment! We're definitely working on it. I think we have found that he writes best when he can start on his own, and looks forward to my help at the end to edit and "fluff". It's taking some balancing though to figure out what is best.

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      Word Pools 

      3 years ago from United States of America

      People have different methods of writing - some will write whatever they think and edit later, while others try to edit as they write. They also have different writing styles. It is best to allow people to write the way they want instead of ruining the flow. Knowing that you will be there to help may cause him to be anxious of the criticism or lazy because you will fix whatever he did wrong.

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