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Fat Choice

Updated on October 30, 2011

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This little poem does not show the seriousness of obesity, but I hope it will touch the heart of many who are in the same place. Next time you see an obese person, don't just dismiss them as fat. For many it is as much of an illness as depression.

Pride Or Laughter, You Decide

Laughter aside, obesity can and does kill.
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Fat Choices

Here I go again

stuffing my face,

I have no need for all of this

such a waste.

I used to have poise and grace

but not anymore,

Now I can barely face you

or going out the door.

Chocolate, potato crisps

are my best friends.

But the weight I gain,

will kill me in the end

I also love fruit,

vegetables too.

But when sitting alone

I really miss you.


Here I go again

making myself sick.

No wonder people stare,

I was as thin as a stick.

Those are days long ago,

when I was a wife.

now I just sit at the computer,

lost thoughts on life.


Here I go again,

stuffing my face.

Loneliness and fear,

live in my place.

Will someone please,

give me the space

to live and learn

and fear in haste.

This lonliness I am

will walk me to the door.

For even I

can’t be sure

As to where life takes me

not anymore.


Here I go again,

stuffing my face.

God grant me the will,

allow me more space.

Before I am too ill

to leave my bed sack.

No one will grieve

because I am too fat.

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      sujaya venkatesh 19 months ago

      feeling sad for them

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      K.A.E Grove 4 years ago from Australia

      it is such a strong issue you choose to write about here, and reading some of the comments given prove that. I alsways feel sad when I see someone struggle so much, and if what we say about them is cruel it must be heart breaking to hear what they say about themselves...

      A lovely poem that highlights the pain behind the size...Well done!

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      ashleeosborn 4 years ago

      I've never really looked at it that way at all. Of course I'd heard people talk about it in this way, but nothing had ever really gotten to me like your poem did. Definitely put some things in perspective. Wonderful write.

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      Annette Donaldson 4 years ago from Northern Ireland

      Lucky Cats, Kathy I think your name is, am I right? You have hit the nail on the head with your very insightful comments. It is a sad fact that in society today many people are obese and morbidly obese, it is an addiction like any other. The pain and self doubt that these people suffer is unbelievable and yet there is no counselling on offer for this type of weight management. I have struggled with weight all my life, but never to the extreme of the ladies in the photograph. Fortunately, I only wander a stone either way, but it is enough to give me an insight to how difficult life can be. I thank you for your visit and also for leaving such comforting comments, I appreciate your input. x

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      Kathy 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

      This is very sad. Being imprisoned in one's body...feeling there is no way out...no quick fix, no way to be among people....hiding, feeling guilty, ashamed, ugly....all the safe hatred and loathing; sadness, lonliness, feelings of total isolation.....seeing disapproval in the eyes of others, hearing the snickers and rude comments, hating to catch an unexpected reflection in a shop window or mirror, knowing there are few, if any, who could or would love you, wishing you could, suddenly, be freed from the urges and drives which continue to haunt every waking minute and knowing that, again, you will give in to the addiction.....becoming sedated, nullified, almost intoxicated after the indulgence....this is the worse addiction there is...because every surrender to it is worn for everyone to see...you cannot walk away 'cold turkey,' because we cannot do without food...unlike smoking, drinking, gambling.....food is a completely different situation. The most painful of all. I hope, if this is a part of your journey; that you have been able to cross over to another path.

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      Mary Hyatt 5 years ago from Florida

      It is so sad when people allow themselves to become obese! When I worked at a hospital, we had a patient who was so FAT they had to put TWO beds together to accommodate her body! She did't live too long. Her organs just quit.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I had to come back cos i'm feeling bad about my comment. I wish i didn't feel so angry when i see an obese person, i'm not talking about a person who is 20-30- lbs. overweight, it's the people who are so big they can hardly move. I know they need help, but they have to help too, just like an alcoholic knows not to take that first drink. You must use willpower. My Mother got obese in her later life and i'm sure that is in my psyche that it will happen to me, but she was unhappy and used food for comfort. Any way, i don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Sometimes i comment too quickly..Thank you again..

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      Annette Donaldson 5 years ago from Northern Ireland

      Vinaya, you have been missed my friend, I hope that you are well. I carry about a stone 14lb over what my ideal weight is, and frequently lose it, to gain it again when times get rough. My eating is as much a disorder as obesity and it has made me ill. But food is my comfort blanket. I don't strike out at people, or hurt them as I progress in life. I bottle everything up and turn to food to speak for me. I struggle with my past and sometimes take the baggage into the present. Maybe one day I will find a cure to my own problems. x

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      Annette Donaldson 5 years ago from Northern Ireland

      Augustine, Thank you for stopping by. You are sharp my friend. Yes, I too have a problem with my weight, but not to the same degree as the photo of the two ladies above. I laid some of my thoughts down in this hub as to how simple it can be to take things to the real extremes. I appreciate your friendship, and thank you for your understanding. x

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      Annette Donaldson 5 years ago from Northern Ireland

      Ruby,thank you for you comment hunnie. If obesity was such a simple matter as over eating I would feel the same way too. But anyone carrying a little extra weight, ie 2 stone (28lbs) are obese. And there are far more people in that weight area than the two models in the photo. Obesity is such a problem for our health service and for private insurers that I believe we should be looking further at the cause and not so much as the cure. Your comment is admirable, we all feel that way, or should do.

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      Annette Donaldson 5 years ago from Northern Ireland

      yellowstone8750, you said it girl. Thank you for commentating.

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      Annette Donaldson 5 years ago from Northern Ireland

      Good morning Joyce. I think we have all been in that place several times in our lives. Over eating at Christmas or on holiday and we can add a few pounds. For others it is a one way trip to disaster. x

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      Annette Donaldson 5 years ago from Northern Ireland

      Cardissa, thank you for the tip hunnie, I will attend to that. Thank you for stopping by to support this hub. I knew my photo would receive such reactions. But those two ladies are at the extreme end of the scale. My hub is centred on the confusion that eating yourself stupid can bring to any over weight person x

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      Annette Donaldson 5 years ago from Northern Ireland

      lol Mike. Yes it does. Laughter aside, this terrible disease is taking lives everyday, and by us being judgemental, we are allowing it to happen. Thank you my friend for your uplifting comment. x

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      Annette Donaldson 5 years ago from Northern Ireland

      Billrrrrr, well you have really thrown a spanner in the works with your comment lol In principal, your idea would appear to be a sensible approach. And I am so glad that you would allow the sufferer counselling and support, but realistically, as you say it wont happen. Thank goodness it wont happen. The boot camp attitude will not work because each sufferer has a different perspective on how they look. Psychological problems have the underlying strength to promote the depression that many sufferers feel. If it was a simple case of boot camp tactics then the health service would advocate the cure. Obesity does cost the country millions of pounds each year, so does bulimia. Both of them are a problem and both carry such terrible consequences for the suffer and also for their family. All I ask is that we treat each person as an individual and think before we speak. Thank you so much for stopping by.

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      Annette Donaldson 5 years ago from Northern Ireland

      Angelia, Thank you for your insight. Obesity is the cause of much conversation. We look at the sight of the photo that I deliberately chose for this hub and have several reactions. Feeling sick, disgusted, aroused, pitying, or reprimanding. I personally like to use the emotion of sympathy. Many people will not agree. You have to take a look under the surface to find out what is really going on. The issue is far more complicated than just being dismissive. Your kind and understanding comments are from a lady with an intuitive nature. Thank you. x

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      Annette Donaldson 5 years ago from Northern Ireland

      mar, how are you hunnie? Thank you for leaving a comment from your experiences. Obesity is a disease that too many people suffer from. Sometimes it can be heredity, then we have no choice. Often times it is a problem with society. Poor world countries have no food to eat so they are starving. What I call the poor Westerners, have little money and therefore are subject to eating a high carb diet, or relying on the fast food chains. Again that can not be helped. As ever your encouraging words and great understanding means the world to me. x

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      I don't think myself obese but I'm little overweight. I enjoyed your "fat" work.

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      Augustine A Zavala 5 years ago from Texas

      Net, sounds like your eating to make yourself feel happy. I do it myself. I have stopped, and looked at the issues that were driving my eating. Sounds like your going through a rough patch. You have friends, reach out!

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      When i looked at that picture, it made me feel anger..I know, that's cruel. How anyone can let thenselves get to that point is way past my comprehension. I know it's an addiction just like alcohol and drugs, but it shows so much more. Now i should mention that your poetry is beautiful and heartfelt.. I thought about just saying the usual, very nice, thought provoking, etc. but there's something about an obese person, man/woman that makes me angry when people are starving all over the world...

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      yellowstone8750 5 years ago from Taos, nm

      Very thought provoking.

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      Joyce Haragsim 5 years ago from Southern Nevada

      I got slightly there once 148lbs at 5'4'' and vowed never to get there again. Those unslightly photo also mad me gag.

      voting you all the up great lady for putting this on here and I hope it jogs once to lose weight

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      mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

      Your photograph adds a whole new meaning to the words "Weight Watcher"

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Oh, I've talk too much and forgot to compliment you, Annette, for exposing this sad-sad disorder in such a sympathetic way. Voted up and and mind-boggling :))

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      My ex-mother-in-law was obese, but not half the size of your models. She had a heart of gold, although gossip was one of her hobbies. What bothered me - seriously - was the fact that her total intake of calories per day were enough to keep at least 4 woman alive. How can one have sympathy with a person who keep on doing what he/should not do. My daughter inherited her grandmother's genes, and it breaks my heart to see how she is rapidly growing herself into an elephant. She does not eat more than any other normal woman, but somehow her body stores what it should burn. She is almost always on diet, always stressed, always self-conscious. Worse of all, whatever she put in her mouth to eat, are noticed by the people in her midst. But really, and I do remind myself of this as well as I am also supposed to be less of me, most people should be always on the EOHOI-diet = Eat-Only-Half-Of-It.

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      Carolee Samuda 5 years ago from Jamaica

      I must confess, even while reading the poem, I couldn't get the photo out of my mind. Kinda make me feel sick.

      A tip: scale down the photo to half size it's a little pixelated (fuzzy)

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      Bill Russo 5 years ago from Cape Cod

      I have a cure for obesity. Since it is harsh, it will not be adopted. For what it's worth here it is. Lock the obese person in a room. For the first month of confinement, limit calories to 75 per cent of what they normally consume - even if its 30,000 per day.

      Gradually reduce the calories month by month until both the person and the caloric intake meet predetermined goals.

      The lock up will reduce the weight, but it must be companioned by education and counselling so that the individual will be reprogrammed to stay fit and healthy.

      This plan will be expensive. But what are the hidden costs of caring for the morbidly obese?

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      femmeflashpoint 5 years ago

      Goodness bluestar,

      You've opened up a seriously heartbreaking (or hearbroken) situation in this, that I think many, many folk fall victim to, that often begins with lonliness.

      Granted, much of the time, genetics and/or a health condition plays a major role in obesity. But, I wonder how many people out there who dive into a chip bag, cookie bag, or whatever other sort of sweet they can gulp down simply because it's a depression fix. I've even heard of some people who cry while they binge because they hate it that they do it but can't find the willpower to stop themselves.

      Those people aside, there are also those out there who simply don't care enough about themselves to bother guarding what and how much they eat in an attempt to stay healthy. For them it's not binging, it's just how they determine they're going to eat, and don't give a flip about the consequences.

      If however, their weight gain IS due to being sad, and they make up their mind that they would prefer to NOT be sad, finding a workout partner and mentor is a great way to combat the blues and have fun while working their way back into shape.

      That being said, if anyone reads this in the Fort Worth area and would like to go cycling with my pack - you're more than welcome to join us, and yes ... we'll hang back and wait for new riders who aren't quite up to the fast challenges yet, and you'll get more praise and encouragement from the pack for making the effort that you'll be brimming with and "I CAN DO this" attitude!

      Excellent choice for a poetry blend, girlfriend.

      My compliments. :)

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Annette,

      Here you go again! You never cease to amaze me with the depth and breadth of your writing.

      As a nurse, I have seen so many individuals struggle with the heartbreaking issue of morbid obesity. In a healthy and normal family where we just loved to eat, it is enough of a struggle to maintain a healthy balance; thus, it is heartwrenching to think of such extreme cases. Yet our society can be so very cruel when others "appear" different, not recognizing the hurt/ issues under the skin.

      Your words are tender and descriptive. They teach.

      Voted UP & AB--so proud of your "96" as well, mar.

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