How Criticism Affects Our Lives
Don’t highlight imperfections of others. Make this world a better place to live.
Nowadays, people are busy intruding other's lives and usually end up becoming a source of distress for them.
Remember a girl you called 'UGLY'? She spent whatever she had, to buy makeup and look pretty. Just to get accepted by the society. And that’s deliberatly sad. Similarly, there are other cases that tend to happen daily in our society.
A girl who is chubby is bullied and called ‘FAT’;
A boy who’s not so rich is mistreated just because he’s ‘POOR’.
A teacher who cannot deliver lessons the way we want is made fun of. ”Lol, does she even know how to teach?”
I personally don’t like to criticise people and through this article I want to eradicate this havocing act of the society. Nowadays, people are deprived of perception. Flaws within are often neglected; but flaws outside are aimlessly targeted. Why do people always point on the sins they don’t do and neglect sins that they do? Fascinating that it is nothing wrong or illicit.
Is it okay to ruin someone’s life by harsh comments and later on bragging that you are so pugnacious? No, absolutely not.
Do we realise what pain these people suffer from? The traumas they go through and difficulties they face? No. We don’t. We are just busy with the so called ‘self obsession‘ that we have.
It is absolutely okay for a girl to have jiggly thighs or a fat belly. It’s her life. Mocking her won’t make her thin, instead it will shatter her self confidence and she might get depression as well. A person who’s poor is not less, its not his fault, neither he chose it this way. A teacher is afterall a teacher; and should be given utmost honour. Thus, instead of quipping around; learn to respect people, their shapes and lifestyle. And it is perfectly alright if someone is getting bigger accomplishments than you. Instead of getting jealous or plotting conspiracies, learn to be a part of their happiness and pray for yourself too.
Nowadays, it’s okay not to be a perfectionist but absolutely not okay to be one! Why is it so hard to digest accomplishments made by others? One good thing a man does, thousands of bad stuff are reminded to him in form of rumours, gossips or grapevine. I am not saying we all do this, there are a lot of good people out there who do not indulge in such activities which is obviously commendable! The best thing we can do is to learn from such people and improve ourselves.
Does criticism affect people?
Criticism makes a person feel inferior and often leads to destructive effects. These effects later on have the ability to get transformed into evil activities.
There are number of cases that have reported about people indulging in evil or criminal activities after facing constant criticism from someone.
Negative effects of criticism
- THE PERSON GETS HURT BADLY
As mentioned above, criticism often plays an amazing role in throwing negative energy on another person. By criticising others, you hurt them. Not everyone is same, some people are weak from inside and tend to indulge in overthinking. This causes a person to become gloomy and depressive. Ultimately, resulting in insomnia, sickness and certain disorders. These syndromes have certain devastating effects on the person. For example:
- Tiredness and loss of energy
- Difficulty falling asleep (Insomnia)
- High blood pressure Etc.
Some people even attempt suicide after developing a feeling of hopelessness and low self confidence. According to the NHS (2009) mental disorders, particularly depression and substance abuse, are associated with more than 90% of all cases of suicide.
Would anyone of us want to commit suicide? Or hear bad comments about ourselves? That’d hurt us day and night? No. I’m sure about that. Apparently, a person tends to be happier when he/she receives compliments instead of bad remarks. This is psychologically proven too.
Then why give this pain to others? There’s no happiness in troubling other’s lives. What do we get in return? A scornful feeling of ego and pride? Is it more peaceful? Probably not.
As mentioned earlier, criticism often bubbles up extreme ferosity in a person making him/her violent. We are often unaware of the consequences of criticism and don’t even think once before uttering harsh words. That’s totally unacceptable. We never know, what kind of retaliation we will receive. It surely can be in the form of violence, murder or something really terrible enough to destroy our lives. The victims can turn into fierce wolves anytime and the only thing we will get in return would be something extremely bad. Criticism often leads to anger and develops hatred for the other person. In this way, the person who has made the comment might be affected too. So beware! Why ruin your lives just to mock people around or make them ‘feel less’ ? Why not develop a positive attitude and be the peaceful doves. This will surely increase harmony and remove hatred from the society.
It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
– Daisaku Ikeda
Can criticism be good for us?
Well, you may be surprised, but YES! Criticism has proved to have a positive impact on few people. I repeat, few. This doesn’t mean criticism is allowed now, no, I didn’t say that. But yes, it has made people stronger and improved them.
If criticism is done with an intention to improve someone or their skills, then it’s something good. Usually big companies and famous brands often welcome feedbacks and don’t restrict it to the positive ones. Why? Because they always have a will to improve and become better. Criticism sometimes moulds our personality and strengthens us by raising our self esteem. It is sometimes necessary to polish our skills and remove flaws or mistakes in the tasks we perform. After all, we are humans and we all make mistakes. But, the approach should be gentle so that the person doesn’t get offended or hurt.
According to Winston Churchill;
Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.”
Therefore, avoid hurting people or passing negative comments out of jealousy or just to have fun. Achievements and failures are a part of life. They come and go. Failures don’t mean you’re gone, never. Learn from them and go for an adrenaline boost to fight your fears and failures!
Well, that’s how it is.
Learn to be ecstatic at your achievements as well as others’. This way, you’ll be happy and satisfied. Stay humble and never mock at people or make fun of them. You never know, today you’ll do this, tomorrow you can be targeted by someone else. As we all know, what goes around comes back around. And trust me, when I say it.