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Family - Recipes and Remedies for Everyday Living - Green Tip #20

Updated on July 8, 2015

Howdy All!

Those of you who know me, or have been following my weekly articles, know I have a tendency to become distracted, go off on a tangent, become sidetracked, or flat out ramble. But that’s OK. It gives me plenty to write about! As such, this week’s green tip takes a twist in green living, but is no less pertinent for living green than substituting vinegar or baking soda for conventional cleaning products. So, without further ado……

My son opening his high school graduation gift from me.
My son opening his high school graduation gift from me. | Source

Family is a cure-all

Family is the cure-all for stress, disappointment, feeling alone or misunderstood, or any other forces that mess with our psyche. Unless, of course your family is entirely dysfunctional! Face it: every family is somewhat dysfunctional, given the different personalities and mindsets we as individuals possess. But, for the most part, family is a refuge, a calm, a haven. So, now you’re saying “OK, Bravewarrior, get to the point, you’re rambling again! How does family relate to living green?” So glad you asked! Living green is all about living a more healthy, environmentally friendly life. In order to understand or strive for a healthier way of life, you must realize that the most important area in which to achieve and maintain good health is your mind, spirit, and emotions. Would you not agree? (I know, you should never ask a yes or no question, but if you answered “no” to my question, you probably aren’t interested in bettering your life or environment anyway) Ouch! Sorry, but that’s how I feel.

My son and niece sitting on the kitchen floor.
My son and niece sitting on the kitchen floor. | Source
My son and niece.  Little hams aren't they?
My son and niece. Little hams aren't they? | Source

Long time no see

Last summer my sister, who is 10 ½ years younger than I, and my only niece came to visit. I’d not seen them in two years, although we speak on the phone regularly. It was as if time and distance were never a factor. We shared an extreme sense of comfort, well-being and “coming home”. We laughed, played games (I haven’t played Scrabble in decades!), shared memories, anxieties, fears. But most of all we shared Love. God gave us family to act on His behalf in this earthly existence. He makes us strong when someone needs our strength, when life seems to be too much of a burden (and because we are human we have all been there!). And he allows us to take turns so we can be strong for each other, when needed. He gave us arms to embrace those who may need help remembering how beautiful and worthy they are. He gives us silliness and a sense of humor to help those in need to see the other, phenomenal side of life. He gives us tears to shed in happiness and sadness. It’s His way of helping us to “empty out”, as I say, so we can “fill back up”. He gave us family to indisputably recognize that we have a chain of existence, that we have a connecting genetic makeup. When you think about it, genetics are an absolutely amazing reality! Just look at the picture of my son and niece. My sister does not have the paternal genes I possess, nor does my son have the paternal genes my sister possesses, but look at my son and niece! They definitely share my sister’s and my maternal genes! How amazing and miraculous is Life??

As a young adult, friends and fun were more important than family.  That changed once I became a Mom.
As a young adult, friends and fun were more important than family. That changed once I became a Mom. | Source

Ignorance in youth

To be honest with you, when I was young, as the eldest of three, I considered family an interruption in my life. I thought I knew it all and didn’t need people telling me what to do. But now, as a rather seasoned adult, I see my family has been the fortitude behind the person I’ve become. The genetic link God has given us is who I am. And I’m very proud. It’s because of family and what I’ve been taught through the years that I’ve had the strength to help myself, with enough left over to help those who need me and what I have to offer. And we are all in the same boat! God has given us all talents and compassion to be used where it is needed most. And He’s created that through the vast family He has bestowed upon us!! Simply amazing!


So, my point and green tip of this week is to strive for and maintain spiritual and emotional health. Someone besides yourself needs you!

And it all starts with family. God Bless You!

See you next time and remember to cry when you feel it, laugh often and wrap your arms around someone who needs a hug, even if it’s yourself! And never, ever let the Music fade!



Shauna L Bowling

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    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      2 years ago from Central Florida

      Nell, my son's 26 and still lives at home. I guess when he finally does move out I'll be calling him every time I need something done around the house that I can't (or don't know how to) do myself.

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      Nell Rose 

      2 years ago from England

      Hi I think we all do as teens think our family are getting in the way but I wish now they were still here. I am lucky though, I still have my hubby, son and brother. Brother drives me insane!

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      Cynthia Calhoun 

      4 years ago from Western NC

      Hehe, this is a really sweet article. :) It makes me want to call my momma right now. And like you, I didn't want to have a whole lot to do with the lot of them for awhile: they ARE dysfunctional (adopted by grandparents anyone?) but...there is A LOT of love and I've come to appreciate them so much more now that I'm in my 30s. :)

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      5 years ago from Central Florida

      Liz, to be honest, it took four years of JROTC in high school to straighten my son out. That and the death of his father when he was 14. He was rather difficult when he was young. JROTC was the best thing for him.

      Hopefully your younger grandson will come around. I know it must be worrisome for you and his parents.

      Thanx for the read and share!

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      Liz Elias 

      5 years ago from Oakley, CA

      Family is, indeed, the cornerstone of life. It is a message we tried and tried to get across to our grandsons, both of whom were very disrespectful to their parents, and would always rather hang out with their friends. Some of those friends, in one case, were bad influences.

      We talked, scolded, and threatened until we were blue in the face, trying to get them to understand than if the day comes when you get into some kind of scrape or other problem, those fair-weather "friends" will be long gone, and family is all you have left.

      The elder boy finally got his head on straight after joining the Army, but the younger one still is very narcissistic, and has delusions of grandeur. He's 18, so of course, he already know all there is to know in the world, and anyone older than he "has it all wrong." Pfft.

      Youth! It is indeed wasted on the young. By the time you have it all figured out, in fact, you are too decrepit to act upon your new wisdom. LOL

      Voted up and interesting.

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      5 years ago from Central Florida

      Hey, Paula! Nice to see you here again. Our summer has been hot so far. It gets so humid it's hard to do anything outside for long. It seems to get hotter every year. And some people say global warming is a hoax. I beg to differ!

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      5 years ago from Carson City

      Glad this has come around again! Thank you to our resident "Mz Green Living" who brings us resourceful ideas!

      Your son is so cute....looks like Mama to me!

      Hope you're enjoying the summer in FL girlfriend......even though it's"warm" all year round! UP+++.....Love ya, Paula

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      5 years ago from Central Florida

      I'm glad you like this, Al. Thank you for your generous comment!

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      Al Wordlaw 

      5 years ago from Chicago

      This was a superb hub Shauna. Nothing's better than bonding with family. I enjoyed the read, the spirituality and the sheer love of our God. Great hit/video by Z. Marley. Voted up, up, up!

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      6 years ago from Central Florida

      Nice thought, Peach. Thanx for stopping by!

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      6 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      family bonding is the best way to relieve stress

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      6 years ago from Central Florida

      Thank you, Sheila. Families have their ups and downs. After all, we are all individuals with our own quirks, trials, and tribs. But there's nothing we can't get through when we have a strong upbringing and support from those we love.

      Thank you for giving this old green tip some love!

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      Sheila Brown 

      6 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      It's funny how our thoughts change after becoming a parent. Family is everything! I just wish everyone had a good family in their lives. Great hub!

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      6 years ago from Central Florida

      Ideasigns, you're so right! Family can be both. I think only love can elicit stress and relieve it at the same time.

      Thank you for your awesome comment!

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      6 years ago

      You have powerful writing! Family can be stressful or a stress reliever. Hopefully the latter especially when it's been a while since you seen them... Thanks for sharing!

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      6 years ago from Central Florida

      Thank you, Monia. And thanx for checking out this oldie goldie!

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      monia ben saad 

      6 years ago from In my Dream

      great hub sweet family

      wish you all the best

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      7 years ago from Central Florida

      Rolly, that quote just about says it all. The difference between friends and family is the unconditional love and willingness to forgive. Sometimes it takes a while, but love wins in the end.

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      Rolly A Chabot 

      7 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Bravewarrior.... great hub and so true of what you say of family. Years ago I found a quote which explained it all. "You can choose your friends but not your family." It is so true as I think we have all gone through dysfunctional times with one or more of our family members.

      I think it somewhat inherent family feels they can lash out at each other and because of love they understand they will be forgiven.

      The strength of a family is tested especially when loss has taken place. Great article and one nudged up in all areas.

      Hugs from Canada

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      7 years ago from Central Florida

      Crafty, you tickle me. I know when I see a comment has been made on one of my older hubs, it's you who has come to visit! I'm thrilled you're taking the time to run thru my page.

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      7 years ago

      What a great Hub! That's such a valuable lesson. Someone besides yourself needs you. How true!

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      8 years ago from Central Florida

      I'm glad you enjoyed this piece, travel man!

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      Ireno Alcala 

      8 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      Family is a blessing from God. I still had to make my own, but with the presence of my sisters' kids at home, I was transported back to the time that I was at their age.

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      8 years ago from Central Florida

      I cherish you too, Beckie. I'm tickled you feel that way! Cathching fireflies and still waiting for that email!!

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      Shining Irish Eyes 

      8 years ago from Upstate, New York

      This is the gem of all your tips my friend. Beautiful children by the way and they truly look happy. You have a wonderful attitude and it only gets better every time I read one of your articles.

      I am always learning from you whether spiritually, physically or mentally and I cherish you.

      Fireflies! XXOO

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      8 years ago from Central Florida

      Gypsy, having your family grow right before your eyes must be very comforting for you. My son is an only child. I'm one of 3, but his dad was one of 8. Unfortunately for my son, his paternal extended family are all in Montana, so I'm pretty much all he's got within visiting distance. Thank God for phones, and in his case, Facebook. He's in contact with his dad's side of the family all the time.

      Thanx for taking the time to comment, Gypsy. Much appreciated!

    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      8 years ago from Central Florida

      Snow, you're fortunate to have such a strong, supportive family. I'm glad you can relate!

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      8 years ago from Central Florida

      Thanx for sharing, Spy. I hope you get the opporturnity soon, to see your family again. I know how important they are to you.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 

      8 years ago from Daytona Beach, Florida

      Voted up and beautiful. Thanks for sharing this wonderful hub about family. In my life I've always had too little family being an only child. Mom and dad are long gone and I have felt a little lost at times. Then I met my husband and at least he came with a daughter and son and now his son is making him a grandpa. So now at least there is family around. Passing this on.

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      8 years ago from The Second Star to the Right

      Yes, yes, you're right. family is the cure for all stress and loneliness we are feeling. I have a great family and so far, they're my rock. thanks for this hub shauna!

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      Life Under Construction 

      8 years ago from Neverland

      Hats off again Brave for this Green Tip. Yeah, "Someone besides yourself needs you!" our family needs us..isn't that great. Wish I could go home and spend time with them more.


    • bravewarrior profile imageAUTHOR

      Shauna L Bowling 

      8 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill you and (I) never know where my meandering mind is going to go. I've not seen you respond to my green tips (that my old lady mind can remember!). I'm glad you came to this one. You already know that you never can predict what words come out of my mind. I've embarrassed you more than a few times with my TMI, right?

      I roll all over the place with my mind. Trying to keep my "pen" riding along, is a challenge. I write it as it comes. I hope you stay tuned.

      Love you, Bill!

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      8 years ago from Central Florida

      R, I can relate. After all, isn't the intent as parents to let our young fly on their own? It is, however, nice to bring the flock together, as long as there's no animosity or judgement. Offering smiles and good memories? Ok, I'm there.

      I'm glad you can relate. Sometimes I feel like the outsider. I don't go to church, although I believe in God, and I'm not into the family gatherings. Maybe that's why mine are too far away for a Sunday drive.


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      Bill Holland 

      8 years ago from Olympia, WA

      The music is playing loud and clear my dear friend. I could not for the life of me figure out where you were going with this hub based on the that I have read it what a lovely surprise. are singing my song, Sha! Well done my dazzling beauty!

      love always,


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      8 years ago from Kentucky

      Strong Hub!

      Our "inner circle" of family is extremely important to our sense of well being and security. Having the knowledge that there are those that "have your back" definitely removes a stress factor.

      Like Ghost, I have separated from my family to a great extent. Not my wife and daughters, but from those I grew up with. Geographical distances, as well as, differing philosophies in years past all but erased any semblance of regular communication. I find that the older I get, the more I feel a personal obligation to re-established those lines.

      When young, our comfort zone is our family. As we grow, we extend and explore the boundaries to include many others during our "seeking individual independence" years. As life progresses, we find that the changing of our own beliefs, and those of others, create a distance instead of bond. We tend to reduce our circle to those either with similar interests or family ties. It is here we find the most joy.

      Again, Great Hub! Inspirational!

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      8 years ago from Central Florida

      Ghost, I'm with you. Even when I lived within minutes driving distance, I still didn't visit family. I was and still am too wrapped up in my own life. It was very pleasant for me to have had time apart not make a difference in our interaction or love for each other. I'm pretty much a loner. Frankly, I prefer that life. I don't want a mess of people around me. I'm not sure what that says about me. I'm a giver, but I don't need to be crowded in order to do so. I'm not into the family dinners and whathaveyou. I guess I'm sefish. How does one be a giver and selfish at the same time? All I have to do is look in the mirror for the answer to my question.

      I will tell you, tho, it was great coming out of my self-imposed solitude and being with extensions of me!

      I hear ya, my friend!

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      8 years ago each his/her own, perhaps. There ARE a few family members with whom I automatically interact exactly as you describe here--and curiously enough, I too am the eldest of three.

      But the R&R time I have with them is minimal indeed. A phone call every few months, with years (and years!) between face to face get-togethers.

      I do recognize the genetic link, the roots if you will, but being off in my own world--sometimes WAY off--remains my personal "best method" of rebalancing....

      On the other hand, MOST people I've encountered do tend to feel more "your way" about it. And you are most certainly 100% correct about the strong resemblance between those two young cousins!

      Voted Up Plus.


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