Has anyone seen my daughter?
She's lost.
Has anyone seen my daughter?
She is about 5’2, has champagne blonde hair,
and the most beautiful blue eyes you have ever seen.
She has a laugh thats infectious,
you can’t miss her,
She’s the loudest one in the room.
She plays hard, loves harder and fights till the death.
She loves to debate, I once found this trait to be endearing.
I used to imagine that one day she would use her talent to make a difference.
Perhaps as a lawyer, politician or a judge.
When she was younger and going to counseling the doctor said she could argue the
paint off a fence post.
A high school teacher even signed her middle school year book saying, “ Have fun on
the debate team!”
She was exhausting though, constantly trying to prove her point, any point. It didn’t
matter whether she was right or wrong, you were going to listen to her until she was
done.
She was strong, both her physical strength and mentally.
She defended her closest friends and always had a soft spot for the underdog.
She was feared by some because of her abrasive personality, yet loved by many!
Her family was important to her, she and I were close.
We lived alone for years, just her and I.
She never liked to stray too far from home,
Our house was always filled with her friends.
Sleep overs, eat overs and come overs where always at our house.
My daughter, she’s older now,
She’s a mom too, has a 3 year old son.
He’s beautiful!
A warrior!
He has the same blonde locks but the darkest brown eyes, like chocolate.
He is adventurous and has an incredible imagination.
He’s my super hero!
He’s with her mostly, his mom that is.
His love for her is constant as is mine!
Yet, he tells me “she’s angry,
she cries, a lot!”
He cries!
I cry!
“ Why is she angry poohmis,” he asks
“I don’t know why little man, but I think it’s because she lost something.”
Yes, we lost something too, I think to myself,
my daughter, his mother.
If you see her, tell her the very thing she is looking for is right here!
He’s beautiful!
A warrior!
HER SON!
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Kimberly, I am thrilled for you. This is the best news I have heard all day.
Thanks for sharing this with us!!
DJ.
If I had a street nearby, I'd be dancing in it! That's great news!
:)
A very touching and beautiful read. I love your way with words. I pray God intervenes and she returns. She knows her child is in safe hands and in her own time, she'll come round.
Take care.
I see photos of a happy childhood. That's a strong foundation. Those debating skills will hopefully come to your daughter's rescue as she debates in her own mind just where she is right now and where she'd rather be.
Sounds like her son is with you, safe and sound. That's one good decision she made. She obviously trusts and respects you. Stay strong and patient, and trust that she'll return. You're doing your best, and that's all that anyone could ask of you.
Hugs.
Hi, I really hope things change soon.
Hang in there and keep that thread intact and hopefully better times are coming for you and your family really soon.
Sending you positive thoughts and love.
Anna
Your love matters even if she doesn't show it. All you can do is be there when she needs you. You can't live her life for her. I pray that everything works out for her and you.
@wildove5 this was really beautiful and I enjoyed reading about your daughter and your grandson. A beautiful poem indeed. Voted up, shared, and pinned!
Wildove5, this must be so sad for you. In past times our parents used to breathe a sigh of relief after their children reached maturity. They had seen them through the angst of teen hood, and now they were safe, with their own families to care for. It just was a much simpler time. Now the complications are tremendous, the prevalence and use of drugs seems to be ever increasing, and shattering to families. The worst thing for parents of the addicted is the fact that they are helpless to do anything. But you have said all the right things, and you are a miracle for your grandchild. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Your love for your beautiful daughter shouts out from every line of your moving poem.
Things sounds so hard for your family just now and I hope she finds the strength soon to come back to where she should be.
Your words really moved me and I really do hope you get your baby back soon.
Hang in there and remember she still really loves you; even when she pulls away.
Anna
wildove5....
It is not and never has been an easy road titled
" Motherhood ".
We cry for them as they face the harsh reality of growing up and then adulthood it starts all over again. We feel their pain , yet if we interfere it could be the end of what relationship we have with them. We fell many times as we grew and now we must allow them the same priviledge...and as we get older life it's dealings are more precious than ever...keep being there for her and hopefully it will be sooner than later that she re-discovers the beauty of life , her young warrior the Mother who cares so deeply for her...you're in my thoughts...
You have had a lot of pain in your life in recent years, haven't you? Some days it seems that the pain may never end.
Hold on tightly. You may be the only positive thing in your daughter's life, right now. And, you absolutely must be the
strong adult in your grandson's life.
Dish out positive encouragement and hope that some of it sticks. Never give up hope, never give up hope.
And, know that, although we may be only small photos with crazy names attached, we are a breed apart from the norm,
as we do care greatly for one another.
From one mother to another mother, our job is to give out as
much love as we possibly can.
Sending positive energy your way,
DJ.
Sadly beautiful, and a poem any parent would understand. My son, who is 28, is making bad choices right now, and we had an unpleasant talk yesterday. All I can do at this point is love him and hope he finds his way to the truth about life.
Thank you for sharing this piece of your heart.
That's what she needs, those words you spoke. They might take a minute to set in, but she'll learn to appreciate them. Sometimes when you're in an ugly place, you'd almost just assume be there alone, trust me, I'm speaking from experience. When I was going through my bulimia, it was a dark and shameful place and I didn't want to let anyone into that world, despite the pleas from others. It was easier for me to suffer in silence... but you get to a point that you just don't want that anymore and it took me 4 years! It's not easy, but I can only imagine she's going through a lot of pain and there's not such thing as you 'telling her you love her too much'. She just needs to know that it's under all circumstances even if you can't stand what's going on... you have to be an impartial party and just keep your fingers crossed behind your back. I'm no relationship expert, but I've mastered failing and shutting people out and I can only imagine what your daughter's going through. It seems unfair and it is. Is there something else she can look forward to? I know she has a beautiful son... but through my addiction I had 2 beautiful reasons to stop but we take for granted knowing that they'll always be there and they'll even love us in our darkest hours... something else has to give, something has to enter her life or she has to find some kind of new perspective or path or something... that drop to the bottom can take longer that we'd like or she deserves. You're right... nobody can stop this but her and she has to get to that place where she's ready. I hid my bulimia for the last 3 years because I was just so sick of having all my family concerned and let down and 'trying to save me' when I just wanted a normal day... you know? I feel for you, I really do... but you've got the kind of love she'll need and you might not feel like it's doing much for her now, but when it hits her, it'll come in tenfold... just keep doing what you're doing.
You're not that far... I'll have to find an excuse for a road trip! :D
What a lovely heartfelt and heartrending poem here. Your daughter sounds a lot like mine no doubt! She can argue you down no matter what the issue! It is hard when you see them, even after grown, not happy and going down the wrong road and not seeing what's right in front of them.
Hugs and love from one mother to another, Faith Reaper
I think we couldn't imagine worrying about them anymore than we do when they are babies, but I imagine it gets even harder when they grow up. This is such a tough time you're going through and my heart and thoughts are with you. I'm sure she knows you're there for her when she's ready and it's gotta be heard not intervening, but at her age, too much might lead to resentment... I'm sure these are things you've battled with in your own mind. Your love is so obvious and contagious... this can only go one way, it'll just seem to take forever. Hang in there girly!
This is certainly a beautiful poem! The love that you have for your daughter and grandchild is detailed so well in your writing. The is very heartfelt! Thank you for sharing. (Voted Up) -Rose
wildove5,
You're going to make me cry! The difference she's made has been being your daughter and that, she will always be. There's no doubt she's changed you and you've shaped her! I'm not too far off from coming out of the age she's in now and what a scary and confusing place that can be! I don't truly know either one of you, but from what I do know and how you talk of your daughter, she has to have an unconditional and unbreakable love for you. Times get tough... but when the healing comes... the relationship is always twice as strong. She'll come 'round!
And oh my goodness, how much she looks like you! Beautiful women!
Hugs love,
Cat
This is beautiful... you have so much love for your daughter. It's very admirable. She sees it too, though she may not know how to show it yet.
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