Holiday's are here, so Wheres the Cheer?
Is it the cheer or the beer?
Tradition sets the stage .
Thanksgiving day now over and now the true hustle and bustle starts. Our society has named it "Black Friday". How incredibly accurate. Personally I have never been out shopping on this day. The stories I have heard and read about were enough for me to be completely content in my own dwelling.
For many years now I have noticed how Christmas time and the spirit of the holidays have been gradually moving closer to Halloween. In my late 20's I remember saying " one day in the future we will see pumpkins on our Christmas trees. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to fully understand what our business/society are doing, however for many the holidays bring sadness and depression and to encourage the spirit is often dragging out the feelings of hopelessness .
On the flip side of that point, Christmas is now lumped in with Halloween and Thanksgiving. Not giving proper respect to Christmas or Thanksgiving. Although Halloween and Christmas are both considered pagan holidays and Thanksgiving a day of thanks and yes these are days on our calender to celebrate as well as New Years Day, Valentines, St. Patrick's , among so many more. So yet another dollar spent on our created commercialism .
This time of year so many are very much caught up in "Traditions". The problem with that is each year as we grow older so do our parents and children. So now we are either forced to change ours for another or stress others out to try as best they can to meet our expectations of "Family Tradition". Yet another reason to feel stressed and if we allow it, depressed.
The facts are that many have lost a parent , child or loved one and this will be the first Holiday without them ( not taking away from the many that are spending yet another holiday without their loved one/ones as well). Truly a very hard time for families. Divorce with or without children is yet another reason some are so completely down at the holidays.
There is also the group of folks that have seasonal depression and Holidays are a season and a reason also for so many to feel very alone. Christmas time should always be remembered with Santa, Frosty and Rudolf and loving family that enjoy breaking bread with everyone .... at least that day anyway.
However our memories may be full of what use to be and now can't be (for various reasons) or filled with memoirs of just sad filled holidays for no apparent reason. No matter what someones reasons are for be depressed, sad or simply having a bit of the blues, I feel we as friends and family should (without being too inquisitive) try to understand and graciously invite them over or ask to bring over a bit a cheer. It truly is about the company of which we keep that is the greatest gifts on earth. With that being said although, if you know someone needs a coat, food, shelter or just a gift card to purchase small items for others, and you have extra....... Now is a great time to share your wealth and if what you have to offer is your time...... what a superb gift as well. So many could use an ear or an oil change. Whatever one can give will be appreciated as long as there is loving thought within.
On a side note, my greatest gifts this year thus far...... my best friend gave me a place to live, my mom made her home-made soup and brought to me (3 hours away) for my Birthday, my daughter (8 months pregnant) came to my small Thanksgiving lunch, my eldest daughter called me on my Bday and I love them all so very much and very grateful for their love as well.
So very much I wish each and everyone a wonderful, safe and most of all..... A Happy Holiday and many times to make it happy means to help others find a little happy too:)