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IF THEY CAN....b. Malin
WHY OH WHY CAN'T WE...
The other evening, Lover Man and I were taking our after Dinner Walk around the neighborhood, when we came upon the above scene. A cat, and at least three to four Seagulls, hanging out. Actually the above picture does not show this, but this lawn also had two other cats as well as an array of different birds eating the mixed seed that the owner had provided. The two other cats were eating their food along side of them. They were all just getting along and enjoying each others company as the Sun slowly set in the east. We stopped to watch and Lover Man snapped some pictures. For some reason the scene I described did not come out, but these two pictures did. So, if THEY can all get along and live in Peace and Harmony, why, oh why can't we?
Don't get me started on Families, because we know we can't choose them. But what if just for the Hell of it, we were to treat them like we treat our "Friends". Oh how Careful we are in what we say and do in the name of Friendship... RIGHT? Oh come on, you know what I'm talking about. I remember the first time I actually looked at my own Father and saw him as a Man, warts and all. He Loved women, but just didn't know how to get along with them...and FOUR wives later, he hadn't learned. But before he left this Earth, he and I were Friends. And my Mother, she was the "Original Auntie Mame", so ahead of her time...And such a rough time she had, and so she escaped, into her Mind, for many years. But thank goodness we formed a Wonderful Bond later on, when I was almost grown...and a 25 year Friendship was born, that left me with many Happy Memories after she was gone. My sister and I, are very different from one another, I've accepted that fact, I'm not sure she has, and as we grow older, we seem to be going through a Rough patch right now, but we'll make it through it, because she is (most of the time) my friend as well. And Friends do disappoint us every now and then.
And our Politicians and Government, and President...Oh why, Oh why can't they all get along for OUR SAKE...Us, the ones who elected them to work for US. How up side down our World has become. How disillusioning. I don't have the answers and now we know THEY certainly do not as well...But Hopefully they have a Conscience.
So, when I look at our Birds and Cats and any array of Animals that we'd never think would get along...I think to myself, If they Can, come on... WE can too!
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So very true Barb, so very true! Good collection of thoughts presented, oh "wise woman"!
Very heartwarming and inspirational , voted up and awesome have a great day:)
WHY CAN'T PEOPLE GET ALONG LIKE CATS AND SEAGULLS?! I don't know. I don't know why I can get a spoon when I order a hot fudge sundae. I'm tired of washing my hands after I eat one.
I'm beginning to look forward to your evening walks with Lover Man and the way you reflect relationships through your observations of the animals whose paths you cross.
I am reminded of the song, Somewhere Over the Rainbow, where Judy Garland lamented, "If happy little bluebirds fly above the rainbow, why oh why can't I?"
Why indeed? Of course the answer is we can if we change our own mindset.
When it comes to getting along with our families I do like your advice to treat them as friends. With some relatives that works very well but, alas, not with all. There are times when the only solution seems to be to accept relatives as they are--- and then, for our own sanity refuse to engage with them emotionally, verbally, and sometimes even physically, depending on the level of dysfunction and verbal or physical abuse.
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Hi Cheryl, yeah the "Birds" and "Cats" got me Thinking...Thanks or liking my thoughts!
Hi Jami, Thank You very all your Lovely Accolades!
Ah A.A. Zavala, you've got to learn to say...MAY I PLEASE HAVE A SPOON, practice, practice, practice...you are too Much! So glad you stopped by with your words of wisdom!
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Thank you Happyboomemurse for enjoying our Evening Walks, they do seem to give me Inspiration. On a more serious note, you are so right about Families, but I keep hoping for the best. I know a lot of times we are more CAREFUL with our Friends and that's the point I was really trying to make. But some Family members are really Toxic...Believe me I know that. Thanks again for all your wonderful comments, I look forward to them!
I don't know that it is that we are more careful with our friends than with our families so much as it might be that we feel we OUGHT to feel certain things (and/or say or not say things) and then feel guilty if for whatever reason we do not or cannot when it comes to family. Chosen family, the three or four people in my life who are more than friends and yet not family (by any definition but my own), get the same brunt of my personality and it's quirks as my family does, but they feel no guilt in telling me I've screwed something up. I'm far less likely to say something to a family member if I believe I "shouldn't" than I am to any of my chosen family. I know the chosen family loves me because they can, not because they have to. I know they'll forgive me if I mess something up because they want to, not because they have to. Fear is the horrible, hateful twin to Hope. Both can cripple you and tear out your heart and neither seems to ever reward your best efforts to combat them.
Oh, and I'm glad "Loverman" still loves photography. We'll have to trade portfolios sometime. I've had the opportunity to take some amazing photos over the years.
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Shari thank you for all your deep felt thoughts on this subject...You've said a lot I agree with. We all have to do what makes us comfortable and sometimes it's hard to come to a balanced place...I know I'm working on it myself.
As for Lover Man, most of my pictures are one's he's taken and I find I can build my Hub stories and Poems around them. I'm sure he'd Love to see your Portfolio as well. LOL.
You've made a lot of great points in this hub, b. Malin. Friendship is sorely lacking in this world. If people tried to be friends with other people, or if countries tried to be friends with other countries, I think that there there would be so many benefits. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Coincidentally, my cat is just observing a mother mourning dove and two of her babies on a fence near the screened patio door! My cat is fascinated and the dove isn't too concerned even though she is just five feet away...guess she figures the screen is a safety feature. It seems so trusting of her...just like the seagulls!
There certainly is a message in there...thank you for writing on this subject, unfortunately the world has too many distrusting people and a whole lot more that don't deserve to be trusted. Sad really. However, like you say, perhaps we do need to change our minset...expect the best of others and just maybe they will live up to the expectation!
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Alicia, Thanks for Sharing Your Thoughts as well, you've made some Excellent points too!
Scribenet, Animals can Teach us a thing or two about how to get along...They are Amazing. I couldn't agree more with your other comments, but Maybe, just Maybe in our Life time, things will change for the better.
the scene also shows us how to live in the moment.the cats and the birds wre happy tolerating each other since they had all the food they wanted. there was no thought for what would happen if there were no food tommorrow.would birds be tastier than the food they had is what the cats never thought, nor did they think of how it would look to the otehr cats if they saw them eating out with birds and so on.
typically human tendencies these and we never learn to voercome them and be satisfied with what we have.
good one malin.
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I Love your Comments and Analogy of my Hub Neeleshkulkarni...You have given such Wonderful Thoughts for us to think about too.
Perfect Analogy, thought provoking and fun! Voted Up & Rated Awesome~
Hi b. Malin, as always your hub has everything, humour, inspiration, heartwarming, if only everyone would just make a bit more effort....I am concerned about A A not getting a spoon, now if someone out that made a bit more effort that would never happen! rated up!
Well said, I'm glad that I was able to drop the end I held and my Pop and I became friends, that seems insignificant but it made all the difference in the world in the time we spent and all topics were up for grabs instead of hiding behind the curtain of deceit that shadowed the ability to get past, past thoughts, thanks, 50
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Why Thank You Powerpoe, so glad you agreed with my Analogy. I try, I try. And thanks for the Rating as well!
And I'll bet the person who waited on A.A. said "NO Problem" before she forgot to give it to him! Movie Master Thanks for the Accolades you sent my way, they are so appreciated.
That was Wonderful to read 50 Caliber of you and your Pop coming together, while there was still time to enjoy one another. Two Thumbs up to YOU!
You put a lot of thought in your words and yes they hit home too. Thanks and excellent writing my friend.
Well said. We have so much going for us and sometimes we can distinguish 'the wood for the trees'.
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Why Thank You Frog Princess for Noticing...Yes I do put a lot of Thought into my words. I want you to Enjoy, and thanks for doing so and your Compliments.
Such True Words Chspublish. I hope you Enjoyed!
Love the pics your lover man took, b. Malin. Good thoughts too, but unfortunately, it does tend to be human nature that is at fault for not always getting along. Some of us do try, but it has to be a two-way street. : ) Thanks for the share...well thought out!
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I will let Lover Man know that you liked his pics. I liked your Comments Shygirl, very truthful in nature...and so glad you Enjoyed!
I love how u write, your hubs are so interesting! This was rated up, useful, awesome and beautiful!
Well said! I've heard people say that you can tell lots about a person by the way he/she treats his/her family AND waiters at a restaurant.
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Hi Ladyt11 Thanks for Loving my writings and a Big Thank you for al your Accolades, they are so appreciated! It always Makes my Day!
I agree it is how you Treat your Family Sally...But sometimes Waiters at a Restaurant CAN be Obnoxious and make your Dinning experience one to Forget ...I'm sure you know what I'm talking about..LOL.
The one biggest reason I keep reading your hubs is because I always learn a valuable lesson. And I have a passion for knowledge, especially now that I'm older...want to pack it all in while I still have time :)
So, b., my wonderful friend, thanks for being my teacher and keeping my brain young. Just love'ya !
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Vocalcoach and You are MY Teacher as well. I thank you for being a Friend and I look forward to many more Wonderful Hubs to share. LOL right back to you!
Some wonderful observations and great thoughts for us all to ponder. I loved this.
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Thank You Bobbi I really appreciate your comments. So Glad you Loved this one.
Excellent message here B - nicely done!
Another awesome work. Voting it so, and Up.
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Sharyn, I just now see that you were here...I sometimes don't get my e-mails. Anyway thank you so much for your Excellent Comment too!
Hey Alocsin, Thank you my friend for thinking this Hub Awesome and of course, your vote!
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