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It's Not a Sex Thing. It's a Natural Allure

Updated on January 3, 2017
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Dear Hubpages Editor Team and To Whom it May Concern

Your team has brought to my attention the fact that you feel this hub is either spammy, not enough word count, or without a poll. It is none of the above, and I cannot fix problems that do not exist.

As I look over my work, I see nothing that would draw any of your conclusions to why it is not featured, so I will go with my gut on this one and be truthful about where you fail to be. In reality, I believe it is the subject I discuss here that turns you away. However, I feel you cannot say that it is a distasteful display of words. It is not. It is simply bringing focus to something that I have found very hard at times to deal with in my own life, while using other people of celebrity to show what I am talking about. It is not about having sex. It is about having a natural sexual allure that is uncomfortable to live with until the person that has it can figure out how to use it to benefit their lives and not be ashamed.

As far as my poem; it is about a sexual encounter, but it is not to be seen as dirty or with a pornographic vision. It is meant to show the beauty in sexuality between two people in love.

Therefore, as I was asked to look over and change this piece; I have no clue what I am supposed to change at this point. This letter/note could have been sent through an email, but I felt it important to post with this hub, not only to give you, the editor, a sense of why it was written, but also, others who read it and may take offense. This is not privy to try and down play your knowledge. It is only written and placed here to explain mine. Thank You!

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My Views on A Natural Sexual Allure

Do sex and seduction have to feel like a dirty sin? I ask this because, I know some in this world possess this natural allure. It’s like it’s built into their DNA. It’s true, you can tell when someone has this type of animal magnetism to their personality. Without even knowing, sometimes they can seduce a person just by their facial expressions. How do I know this? Frankly, I eventually figured out that I’ve had this feature myself since I was a young girl. How do I know it’s natural, and some don’t even realize they have it at first? Because I was the shyest person in the world. I never talked to anyone, yet boys and men would naturally want to flirt with me for some odd reason.Talk about confused, I was a confused little girl up into my teen years, and that’s when I finally saw exactly what others were seeing. I noticed the way my eyebrows would lift when I talked sometimes, or the way I unknowingly had a habit of biting my bottom lip. Unfortunately, or fortunately, whichever way you want to look at it, I also inherited a big bottom, so my walk was already full focus to all, and a great topic of positive and negative conversation; practical topic for the males to discuss, and a judging pessimistic one for the females to talk about.



The videos I chose show images in a very alluring and seductive tasteful way.

I'm Not a Seductress. I May Have Some Featured Habits of One Though. You Could Too...

Why am I writing about this? Why would I feel the need to out myself as a seductress you may be asking? Well, I don’t, and I’m not per-se trying to out myself. That's just it. I don't really see myself as a seductress. However, knowing I have a feature like this, I think people judge me in this way. I lived with the way I was treated because of this type of feature all my life, and I’m still noticed for it. Even though, I am now a lot older, and much thicker; I’m also a mom and still a very nonchalant laid-back person. It became apparent to me when I realized I had this trait that I had to come to terms with it, and that it’s a natural part of who I am, and it doesn’t have to be negative. It doesn’t have to be dirty. I could have this trait and be classy. I don't have to listen to people who think I look certain ways on purpose. It would only take me, myself, to come to grips with the fact that I have a trait like this, learn to like it instead of loathe it, and learn the correct way to use it in my life.

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A Few Examples of Who I Feel Has the Natural Alluring/Seducing Quality

Marilyn Monroe; I really need to start off with her. I would be foolish if I didn’t. She is the epitome of seductress. However, I don’t believe she set out to be this way. She was born Norma Jean Mortensen, into a very unstable household with a mental mother and an absent father. After several years of bouncing from foster home to foster home, she ended up living her remaining childhood years in an orphanage. Marilyn later would reveal she was sexually abused as a child. I feel so bad to know Marilyn lived with this abuse, because as a child, I’m sure she was unaware why this was happening to her, and we all know it shouldn’t have happened to a child, or to anyone for that matter. Even so, Marilyn possessed an allure that could not be denied, and as it tortured her in her childhood, I believe she got the mindset to use it to benefit her future. Was she wrong in doing so? I don’t think she was at all. I think she realized something she had that she could not hide, and she used it with class and dignity to become the most world-renowned actress and sex symbol of all times. She was very intelligent. You could hear it in her words, and she never seemed like a tramp, but she learned to have fun with what she could not deny or cover up; her seducing natural animal magnetism. I believe in the end it wasn’t her sexual persona that sent her over the edge. I believe it was her unfortunate luck through life with personal issues. However, I believe, Marilyn Monroe took her natural ability to seduce and use it in a fun way. She benefited all of us in doing so. She was a great talent, and a loving and caring person, and now she will live forever in our hearts.



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Angelina Jolie; is another undeniable natural seductress? Much like Marilyn’s story she had a turbulent childhood. Maybe not in the exact same way as Marilyn, but Angelina had a very famous father, Jon Voight, that she admits was never around much. Although she had a very loving mother, Angelina always found herself in the midst of rumors about her stability and sexual drive. I think she did rebel against it through her younger days, but for years now, up until this very day, she has learned to build on her allure, and use it to show off her strengths in all kinds of ways. She is a brilliant dedicated actress, mother, wife, and humanitarian for a slew of extremely worthy causes. She also has tapped into other passions of hers; director and producer of films. She will be an icon in every since of the word, and she is now having fun with her life. Even though Angelina was diagnosed with the BRCA1 gene and had her breasts and ovaries removed in preventive measures to better her chances of never getting cancer, she will remain a sex symbol because of her natural persona. Like I stated earlier, if you have this enticing trait, it’s natural, and it doesn't matter if you get bigger, smaller, or in Angelina’s case, lose your female counterparts, it will always be there. In my opinion, her bravery and dignity have made her alluring trait even more dominant. She's Beautiful!



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Concluding My Thoughts on the Subject

This type of natural trait doesn’t only exist in women. Some of the men whom we have seen through the years that have it also would be; Angelina Jolie’s better half; Brad Pitt, and also Tom Cruise , Chris Helmsworth, and some very tremendous actors in earlier years; Paul Newman, Robert Redford, Clarke Gable. These men are just to name a few, and will always and did always have that certain air of allure.

My point in this conversation is this; I wanted to come to terms out loud for myself about something that has sometimes given me a bad name. It has now and then made me seem narcissistic. And at times, it has been a very aggravating thing to defend myself over. However, I had to stop myself from the hate I had for my normal, at times, unknowing quality of seduction and alluring expressions, and learn to turn it around for positive influence. I hope I am handing down my advice to my teenage daughter and even to my young son, who actually has acquired this natural alluring trait. His little crooked smile, and daunting facial expressions confirmed it when he was just a mere toddler. You know what? He has no clue, and I hope he swings into the part of his life where when he does realize it, he will handle it with style and grace, not with a big head to woo the girls. I’m a little worried I must admit! Lol.



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      John Hansen 17 months ago from Queensland Australia

      A very interesting hub and point of view Missy. I do believe that certain people are born with a "natural allure", some realise it and take advantage of it, some just don't seem to realise. It can be the way they act around people (it can seem like they are flirting but they are just being their natural self), it could be, as you say, just the way an eyebrow is raised. It could also be in the way they look or walk.. just they shape of their mouth, full sensuous lips, bedroom eyes etc. It could be in their voice and how they intonate certain things, or their body language. It can't be pinned down to one or two things.

      I found your poem both beautiful and erotic.......but in no way tacky or bad taste. Thank you for sharing even more about yourself. Good work.

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      Missy Smith 17 months ago from Florida

      Hey John, thank you for just getting this one. I wrote it and put it together yesterday morning, and all through the day I would tweak things that I thought sounded too condescending and conceited for me to say. When I was writing it, I felt heavy with it, because I knew it was maybe going to be viewed in this arrogant way, but I really just wanted to say that I was not this way. I have had to deal with these types of judgments in my life, and I can remember just shutting myself off. I am really trying not to shut myself out of the world anymore. I'm trying to explain my journey of life, and the things I've dealt with and learned from at different stages of my life.

      I could have told many stories about my experiences and what made me come to this conclusion about myself. However, I thought it would be too much to tell about a very bashful 12-year-old girl who was getting advancements from 21-year-old men, and was confused as of why. Or, being the little girl who was so shy, but yet was being taunted by other little girls as thinking I was a miss perfect. I can remember things like that now as I write. I remember crying a lot when I was young. I did not understand how they saw me this way. I was scared a lot I think. I mean, I'm not kidding when I say I was super shy, and a part of me still is. You can imagine the total devastation I had when in third grade, I acquired the nickname Prissy Missy. I absolutely hated it! I didn't know why the other children saw me this way. I really didn't. If I wasn't being bullied with that, I was simply being bullied because I was shy and different in other ways. Oh Goodness...talk about being confused growing up. lol...

      Anyway, I have decided to be brave and bring all my thoughts out on the subject. As an adult, I decided to just get comfortable. I just wanted to get comfortable with everything about me. All the things in the past that made me feel ugly and different, I was going to put those in perspective for myself and for my sanity and just love me for all the things I was judged for and had to overcome. This is all I was doing here, and I think you always get me. So, I would just like to thank you so much for that. :)

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      Ian Stuart Robertson 17 months ago from London England

      At my stage of life, wife less and with no feminine companions (other than librarians at my library or bar staff in pubs) I've given up hope of settling down to a family, mortgage and rest of the grand plan. So what does one do to pass the hours of the day? As a 'red blooded' young adolescent i was infatuated with all of the Hollywood starlets of their era. I think the modern day celebrities with a few exceptions are over rated compared to those Hollywood diva's. Just on the quality of allure, many women are blessed with it as it is part of attracting a mate to procreate offspring and i can understand this! On the rare occasions that i see a 'drop dead gorgeous' woman with charismatic presence i think, there has gotta be a reason for it.

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      Missy Smith 17 months ago from Florida

      Hi limpet, yes, I know how you feel. I too am still single at a stage in life I should have been married and settled for many years now. It just doesn't work that way for some of us for whatever reason. Actually, that may be another good topic of conversation to delve into here. I think I did bring it up in one of my hubs now that I think about it. I'm sure I did.:)

      Anyway, I agree that the older Hollywood starlets had this natural allure more than this era does. I mentioned the one and only Marilyn Monroe; the queen bee of her time. However, there are some in Hollywood today that possess this trait and that's why I posted Angelina Jolie. She is one who has a natural alluring trait.

      Thanks for stopping by my page and reading this hub. :)

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      Word 17 months ago from Chicago

      Hi Missy, I enjoyed reading this hub, hearing the passionate music and taking in your poem. It was all naturally alluring (:-) and artistic. It's best to have attractiveness than not. It's alright to be understood. It's best to be yourself. You are very down-to earth and all that too has to be admired. You can't lose with what you use and you use what God has given you. Nothing wrong with that. You express yourself exquisitely. You pore out your heart yet, you protect it. You have a lot of goodness going on. And yes, you will marry when you have prepared yourself to be someone's wife and giving unconditional love that is also given to you. Thank you so much for sharing. By the way, what is your zodiac sign?

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      Missy Smith 17 months ago from Florida

      Thank you, thank you, thank you, Word. I really wanted someone to see this hub exactly how you just described it. I am so pleased! I get worried that people will not get me, so I am thrilled when I know that some do. :)

      The way you described me also makes me very happy. I couldn't ask for a better compliment. I am a Scorpio by the way. I bet you couldn't guess, right? (wink) (chuckle)

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      Shaloo Walia 17 months ago

      A very interesting hub and so different from the rest. I liked the poem in the end. So sensuous!

      And by the way, Scorpio females are secretive, intensely private and extremely sensitive.

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      Missy Smith 17 months ago from Florida

      Thank you, Shaloo. I hoped it would be sensuous.

      Lol...Well, I used to be a classic Scorpio then, because I used to be so guarded when it came to talking out or expressing my feelings. Hey, is it possible to be born in the sign of Scorpio, but change into another zodiac along the way? It seems I've jumped ship on Scorpio rules, I have learned to open up quite a bit. Thanks again! :)

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      Surabhi Kaura 17 months ago

      Well, hello my dear friend! Hah! Missy, what a seductive poetry there! You know, you are very honest to yourself and that is the best part about you as a poetess. You’re like an open book. Some people these days prefer to wear masks so as to not show their real side, but you are rare of the rarest, walking with your chin up – all shimmering with sweetness and broadmindedness.

      As far this hub is concerned, Art is Art. I commend you for this. It takes guts to write this, man! I appreciate your labour of writing this ‘cool’ hub. I agree with the paragraphs pertaining to the actors and actresses. By the way, do you know of Hrithik Roshan? Google him up. He is considered the world’s sexiest man, and a sex symbol in Bollywood. I’d say that with a wink. Lol! But then again, it’s about an open conversation, which I believe is normal.

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      Missy Smith 17 months ago from Florida

      Oh, definitely, Surabhi!! Hrithik Roshan possesses the allure. lol..Wow! He is stunning!

      Thank you for your kind words. Thank you for just getting me as a person and why I like to write the way I do. I am always so astounded by your wisdom, because I know you must still be very young. You exude knowledge. You examine everything with open eyes and an open heart. You will do well in the legal field, and this field is very lucky to have you. We need more honest people defending us in this world. We are also lucky that you choose to come here and share your talent of writing with us. So, thank you again! Many, many, blessings I wish for you sweet lady!! :)

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      MizBejabbers 17 months ago

      Sorry I can't relate; I was the ugly duckling. When I was a child, I was called ugly even to my face, and even a cousin I loved dearly hurt me by telling a relative that " if I ever have a little girl, I hope she's just like Cheryl." Cousin Cheryl was pretty, but she was the meanest rotten kid in the family. I was surprised when guys heads turned and I got wolf whistles when I got a pixie haircut and some tight Levi's in high school. I guess that was my remake, lol, but it certainly did a number on my self-confidence. Some advice is to enjoy yourself, Missy. Some of the rest of us are just late bloomers.

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      Missy Smith 17 months ago from Florida

      Well, this one isn't about being the prettiest on the outside, MizBejabbers. :) well, not in the sense of how you explain your cousin was. That's why I mentioned Marilyn and Angelina, specifically, because I wanted the readers to relate to the type of allure I was talking about. Yes, they are pretty, but they carry a much deeper thing about them, and something tells me as little girls they were not mean at all. I certainly wasn't a mean child.

      I kind of think the late bloomer thing was an excellent way to be, and it had perfect timing. I didn't want all the attention I got as a child. It was uncomfortable, and quite frankly, depressed me. I would have much rather been left alone until my teens. Although by my teens, it didn't even matter to me anymore. I already felt like an outcast from being extremely shy, and the other thing just made me not want a boyfriend to be honest.

      I think the two Hollywood ladies had issues that stemmed from their early allure that took them down some hard roads as well. I wanted to bring attention to it and just say if you do have this, and it's uncomfortable, just find a way that makes it work for you, because it's not going anywhere. Angelina had major female surgery, and she's still seductive and alluring. I, myself, am a bit heavier and older, but I still get accused of being seducing. I've learned how to go with the flow of it.

      Thanks for stopping by and putting in a comment on this subject, MizBejabbers. I always love to hear from you. :)

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      Frank Atanacio 17 months ago from Shelton

      I did find this hub interesting.. different .. except for the poetry.. it has its own signature mark... :)

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      Missy Smith 17 months ago from Florida

      The poetry part was placed for the point I made about being seductive and alluring does not mean you are a bad, dirty being. I wanted the poem to grab the reader, but in a way that they finish reading it with not dirty thoughts about it, but a beauty of the art of making love in a beautiful, seductive way. I thought some would feel it was misplaced within this hub, Frank. I knew some would not get it. I think I pushed the publish button knowing the whole thing could blow up in my face, and there would be a chance no one who read it would see why I wrote it or get any of its contents. But, if you've gotten to know me just a little bit by now, you know I'm just going to go for it whatever the outcome may be. Lol... Thank you! :)

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      John Hansen 17 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Missy, I forgot to say that I enjoyed the sexy Enigma videos too..a good accompaniment to the hub content.

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      Missy Smith 17 months ago from Florida

      It's all in how you see things, right? Everyone is not going to see this with an artistic outlook.

      I think you are such a great friend, Jodah. You always see everyone's point of view and purpose. It's a great quality you have there, and that's why you are loved so much. :) Thank you again!

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      Deb Hirt 17 months ago from Stillwater, OK

      It is a form of charisma, like any other. There is nothing that you can do about it, but hopefully, turn it into a blessing. To some it was a curse, but perhaps they could not handle it.

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      Ian Stuart Robertson 17 months ago from London England

      and i've a hunch of it being unaware of !

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      Ian Stuart Robertson 17 months ago from London England

      and i've a hunch of it being unaware of !

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      Missy Smith 17 months ago from Florida

      I absolutely love that word to describe it Deb. Charisma!!! :)

      Thanks Limpet, for stopping by again. It's always nice to read your thoughts! :)

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