Love Vs. Arranged Marriage
Love or arranged marriage is still a debatable topic in countries like India. Love marriages have become common in almost all the societies of India, but they are still considered inferior to the weddings arranged by the parents. Just a comparison on this never-ending debate.
Eyes speak first in love marriage.
Parents speak first in arranged marriage.
Bio-data gets exchanged in arranged marriage.
Biological data gets exchanged in love marriage.
In love marriage, hearts first think and then the head comes into picture.
In arranged marriage, head first thinks and the heart obeys.
Relations get together to put you in a relation.
Relations get out together when you are in a relation.
You get a license to make phone calls with your love when you get engaged.
You lose your license to make any calls when your parents find that your phone is always engaged.
You fix a meeting point and time to express your love.
In arranged marriage, it takes time to fix a meeting point in your love.
Money is not a matter when you are in love.
Money matters, because they arrange marriage.
You play hide and seek with others when you are in love.
In arranged marriage, most of the time you have to hide your match(stick) to seek your match.
You register and get others approval in love marriage.
Others approve and then you register your marriage when it is arranged.
Understanding each other matters the most in love.
Coming to an understanding is what matters in arranged marriage.
In love marriage, “I love u” gives the meaning there is no I without U.
In arranged marriage, the same suggests that there is no U without I (me).
In love marriage, love blossoms first and status decides marriage.
In arranged marriage, status decides first and love blossoms later.
In arranged marriage, families mingle.
In love marriage (if not accepted), family is single.
“Love is blind” is the statement you hear from others in love marriage.
In arranged marriage, they say that you are made for each other.
In love marriage, there is a chance of return policy.
In arranged marriage, products once sold cannot be taken back.
There is so much argument about love and arranged marriage. But only thing that is common about both is the argument after marriage. Arguments are always not harmful. Arguments when healthy, makes the relationship healthy. All marriages are happy. It's the living together afterward that causes all the trouble. How well you manage is what matters!!
Marriage, love or arranged, is a beautiful concept.
Marriage teaches you commitment.
Marriage teaches you how to compromise.
Marriage teaches you how to apologize.
Marriage teaches you the patience.
Marriage teaches you to speak and understand the most difficult language in this world – SILENCE.
You succeed when you enjoy the silence in your marriage. Hope this saying would help in making you enjoy your silence – “In marriage, each partner is to be an encourager rather than a critic, a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts, an enabler rather than a reformer.” No idea about the thought that marriages are made in heaven, but can surely assure that it’s in our hands to make the married life heavenly!
