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Love Without Disguise

Updated on October 11, 2012

This is a response to a posting on facebook that is what I believe is meant to be inspiring but yet I find incomplete and subjective.

"Family Is Not About Blood....It's About Who Is Willing To Hold Your Hand When You Need It The Most."

Of course, blood does not make a family. If blood is the prerequisite: extended and blended families would never thrive; adoptions would hold no purpose; and extending one’s hand would always be trustworthy and have no pretense for the act. A family is not made by blood and holding one’s hand is not always done with integrity. The world is full of people willing to hold your hand when you need it the most because they have a need greater than an authentic act of amity.

Families and friendships are alliances that have a rhythm in our lives and each fulfill a need. Are they always perfect? Do we always appreciate the benefit of each? Are families and friends always trustworthy? Do we always extend our hands when they need it the most? The answer to these questions is ABSOLUTELY NOT. Do we sometimes sacrifice one for the other? Do we sometimes not allow them to hold our hands in our times of need? Do we sometimes think our needs are greater than theirs? ABSOLUTELY!!

What is the rhythm families give our lives?

The answer can be found in Ecclesiastes 3.

For everything there is a season and a time for every matter under heaven:

A time to be born and a time to die;

A time to kill and a time to heal;

A time to weep and a time to laugh;

A time to mourn and a time to dance;

A time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing;

A time to seek and a time to lose;

Al time to keep and a time to throw away;

A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;

A time to love and a time to hate;

A time for war and a time for peace.

Our families are sometimes our security. Sometimes our families are our source of apprehension. This is the rhythm of families.

Family is a rhythm....a flow of love without disguise which we are willing to accept and share in times of great need and great delight.


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    • sweethearts2 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Northwest Indiana

      Thank you for your comment and I'm glad you found something worth your time spent here. The older and wiser we get (I hope that's the way it works), we do see our families differently and our appreciation and definition of family changes.

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      Insightful Tiger 

      6 years ago

      Well said! and Here here! :) I can say you helped me to see my family in a new light and I think that was the point of your hub. Thank you for sharing.

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      Joanne M Olivieri 

      6 years ago

      Your post holds so true with the rhythm of life. No matter the relationships especially between family members, there is a love and comfort that is always present. Loved your post.

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      6 years ago

      You are such a profound and soulful writer giving a reader like me plenty to think about - so thank you for engaging my mind and making me think and feel.

      I sit here with my last cup of coffee for today and my 2nd bagel with cream cheese gazing across at the almost frozen lake on this snowy day - and I am send you my warmest wishes and good thoughts from Colin, Little Miss Tiffy and Mister Gabriel at lake erie time ontario canada 12:40pm

    • sweethearts2 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Northwest Indiana

      Cris Sp,

      Thank you for your vote and sharing. I always appreciate when hub family stops long enough to leave a comment.

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      6 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      So true and very well said... straight to the point. I enjoyed the wisdom and the co-relation between family and friends shared in this hub.

      Voted up and will absolutely pass along.

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      Alyx Kemp 

      6 years ago from Herkimer, NY

      Very true. Family definitely is not all blood. But I believe we are meant to find these people we consider our family. I had a brother(before he died this summer) who wasn't blood. And while I was a long way away from my family and my brothers, I felt more like family to him at the time. We were really close. That's what family's all about!! Beautiful. Thanks for the words. :)

    • sweethearts2 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Northwest Indiana


      I always appreciate the perspicacity you bring in your writing and in your comments. Thank you for your comment and return.

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      Robin Grosswirth 

      6 years ago from New York

      Sometimes friends become family members. Kindred spirits can be called family, they don't necessarily have to be consanguinity. It really takes a loving human being, family or friend or just a humane spirit to walk in at the sign of trouble and not walk out as others might.

      As for rhythms, I believe that life is comprised of many rhythms. Different energies flowing at different times, bring in different experiences. After all, the universe is set within a system or for a better word as you astutely put it, a rhythm system.

      Lovely as always. Thanks!

    • sweethearts2 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Northwest Indiana


      I'll look for Family Of Man, thanks for the reference. I do know and enjoy "Turn! Turn! Turn! (To everything there is a season)". Always thankful for your suggestions and comments.

    • sweethearts2 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Northwest Indiana


      There is a lot of hand holding with this hub family for which I am greatful. Thank you for your supportive comment.

    • sweethearts2 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Northwest Indiana


      Thank you for reading. I always enjoy you stopping in.

    • sweethearts2 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Northwest Indiana


      I often turn to this verse to help me through the seasons/rhythm of life. Thanks for reading and the comment.

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      6 years ago from Kentucky

      Three Dog Night, years ago, released an album called the Family Of Man. If we would all practice this concept, life would be so grand. The Byrds also released a song called "Turn! Turn! Turn! (To everything there is a season)". It coins Ecclesiastes 3 well. Great hub!

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      Randi Benlulu 

      6 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Beautiful and true! When I see postings like that, I often wonder myself. I appreciate your putting it so eloquently. My family (blood tie or not) are the ones I want holding my hand! Thank you!

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      6 years ago from Wales

      Very clever and thanks for sharing.


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      Linda Crist 

      6 years ago from Central Virginia

      What a nice analogy between my favorite verse from the Bible and families. Yes, their is a rhythm to families.


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