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My Darlin' My Contentious One

Updated on November 13, 2013


My darling how you rant and rave

Leading others to believe I just walked out of a cave

A man so determined to get his say

Putting conditions on all your ways

You and I both know

That I love you with all my heart

But you can be a pain, a flame, a spark

Turning me this way, that way, inside out

Making me doubt who you are, what you are about

Still I come back week after week

Tiptoeing my words, tweaking my tweaks

What more can a man do

When he’s dealing with the likes of you

Yes, I called you, “contentious”

But is so much better than calling one pretentious

Oh, I can only imagine what would have happened…

I mean come on guys

Help me here

This girl is crazy

And yet I can’t live without her

Give this chick an anti-crazy pill

Before she drives me mad

Sends me right over the proverbial hill

One minute she’s all sweet

And loving me for me

Next minute she’s jealous

Roaring like a mountain lion

Some days I want to scream and cry,

“Get with the program girl.

Quit asking why!”

And yet she haunts me like no other

Creeping in my dreams

Slipping under my covers

What is a man to do

With a girl so fretful, fractious and cruel

Yes, I created a plan

One she should have loved

But instead buried in the sand

I’m telling you the girl is crazy

She invents all kinds of things

Making her life and mine

Foggy, Cloudy and Hazy

Misinterpreting most of the time

Some days I think that I should just put her across my lap

Give her a good whooping and see how she likes that

There’s no reasoning with her when her mind is made

She says she’s the realist and I’m the charade

Let me tell you she has more times than one

Got mad at me when I was just having fun

So let her go off on her contentious raid

Pretending to be all jealous of some beautiful woman

I happen to know

As though some other woman

Could take her place in my soul

I’m telling you one and all

This girl is manic, frantic, and transatlantic

She shows up everywhere I go

Expects me to stop everything

Scoop her up in my arms and never let her go

A man’s got to make a living

He can’t give his every moment to her every whim

He must get out and work

Make a little cash for her and him

Why is she crabby, cranky and cross

I’m the one who is at a loss

What more can I do

Articulate more carefully so she will see

That she is all that but there’s also me

All I can say is that when morn comes around

And it’s time for goodbyes before I’m worked bound

I am going to take my little contentious one

Turn that frown upside down

Then I’m going to leave and head for town

Kissing her on her cheek

Spinning her around

So that hopefully by the time I return

My darling will have found no need to rant and rave

That our morning loving will have lingered as if to say

No need for such contentiousness-at least not today


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      4 years ago


      Thank you so much for all your wonderful comments and votes. I will be over to your hub soon. Your support is greatly appreciated.

      Many Blessings to You,


    • torrilynn profile image


      4 years ago

      Wonderful indeed. Thank you for the read. Up and interesting

    • ocfireflies profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from North Carolina


      Your kind comments mean a lot for you are an awesome writer. I always enjoy my visits to your hubs. Thanks for the vote as well.


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      Mike Robbers 

      5 years ago from London

      Kim i love your hubs, have i told you that? I love your style, your writing...

      Voted up

    • ocfireflies profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from North Carolina

      GRL and Eddy,

      Thank you ladies for starting my weekend with such kind words, votes and shares. Wishing you both the greatest of weekends and lots of rest, time with your loved ones and all the best.


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      5 years ago from Wales

      Truly wonderful Kim; voted up, shared and wishing you a great weekend.


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      Gypsy Rose Lee 

      5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and awesome. Great look into relationships and how they can affect us.

    • ocfireflies profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from North Carolina


      I look forward to reading your preliminary analysis.




      Telling me that I am "meant to write" is one of the nicest comments anyone has ever said to me, and coming from such an awesome writer as yourself makes it even more meaningful. I have learned lots from reading your hubs and not just incredible useful information, but what excellent writing looks like. Thank you for your support and for being you.

      Many Blessing Dear Friend,


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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 

      5 years ago from Lincolnshire, U.K

      Kim fascinating! Is there even a definitive male or female perspective? In love and relationship some men are just as needy and contentious as are some women. We're all a little crazy when we are in love, and that goes for both the male and female of the species.

      I love that you wrote from both point of view. You were meant to write so don't be put off. :)

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      Max Havlick 

      5 years ago from Villa Park, Illinois

      Do as you wish, Kim, for only you can know what you need and want, and I wish you nothing but the best in whatever literary endeavor you choose.

      As for me, my aspirations focus on becoming a better writer as the person I undeniably already am. My “writing muscles” get good enough stretching trying to write well from my perspective as the heterosexual American male I have always found myself to be when I went to bed at night, and when I awoke the next morning to a new day.

      My new play already stretches me to the limit. Just as few female roles exist in Richard II and III, so also in Richard the Fourth, because in 1970-74 America, as in England 1398-99 and 1483-85, as well as in Shakespeare’s England with a Queen in the 1590s, male perspectives dominated almost every aspect of public and political life.

      I’ll be writing a hub soon giving my preliminary analysis of R II as dramatic art. Thanks again for your encouragement and friendship.

      Max, Thursday evening, Nov. 14, 2013

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      5 years ago


      You make great points. I appreciate your kind words regarding my little attempts at poetry, and if you have the time, please edit the pieces and send them via email.

      Naturally, I am honored to have been an inspiration for your Richard the Fourth project, but as you point out the dominant male's response will be for mostly male points of views. And I do not want to take you away from this project.

      However, the challenge is about writing from one's opposite sex.

      Perhaps, you will need a break from time to time, and if so, maybe you can try your hand at writing something from a female's point of view just for the heck of stretching your poetic muscles as a time out or change of pace.

      Per always, you completely amaze me by how much you know. I wish I was half as smart as you.

      Wishing you a great evening,


    • ocfireflies profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from North Carolina

      Hey Max,

      I decided to take a break from my writing gig tryout and saw where you had written a response. I was hoping for a poem from the man's point of view. Smiles.

      Again, I challenge you to write a response using a man's voice. And while I am not advanced enough as a writer to pull off writing from the male perspective, there are some women who have done so and done it well. I will be revisiting these works for perhaps I can gain some understanding into how it can be done.

      For instance, though she used a pseudonym, Mary Ann Evans (who wrote as George Eliot) wrote Silas Marner, from Marner's perspective.

      Agatha Christie has quite a large series of mystery books and stories with a protagonist who is a man; namely, Hercule Poirot.

      Mary Shelley wrote Frankenstein and the title character (and the creature) are both "men."

      S. E. Hinton wrote The Outsiders: a novel still taught in classrooms all over the country.

      Looking forward to reading your response to "Goodbye Little Dreams" so that I can learn how to be more authentic the next time I try to experiment with perspective.

      Best wishes to you as well,


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      Max Havlick 

      5 years ago from Villa Park, Illinois

      No, Kim, all you write is great about your perspective; I wouldn't change one word of it. I can't rewrite someone else's voice, or even tell them what to write. My response only says I don't think your poem is a man's voice. Whether, theoretically, you can do that, I don't know, but I doubt it.

      But as for me, I'm always glad to see your irreducible woman's view of things. I think Nature got it right insisting that men and women are fundamentally different, and thus need each other not just to survive, but to enjoy life to the fullest.

      So I cherish the fact, Kim, you are such a good woman and so capably share your delightful perspective of a good woman toward her man.

      Best wishes to all,

      Max, Wed. morning, Nov. 13, 2013

    • ocfireflies profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from North Carolina


      Thanks for saying that you believe I was able to speak from a man's perspective. And as always, thanks for just being one of the kindest people I know. I do not have words that express just how much you mean to me.


      Your response does not surprise me for you warned me that I would not be able to pull off this exercise. Perhaps, you can write a response that does capture the male's perspective using the same poem, "Goodbye Little Dreams" as I did. That way I can see how it should have been done.


      I can't tell you how wonderful it is to see you. You have always been so kind. Thank you for describing the piece as "So real." Your comments mean the world to me.


      A recent writing job possibility came through yesterday, and I am working on meeting the deadline which is tomorrow. Thus, please know after I complete this submission assignment, I will return to HP so that I can visit all of your hubs.

      I am so blessed to have the support of so many great writers.

      Thank You! Thank You!



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      Martin Kloess 

      5 years ago from San Francisco

      Fascinating perspective. So real. Congratulations.

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      Max Havlick 

      5 years ago from Villa Park, Illinois

      As poetry, fascinating, Kim, with your beautiful lyric style and innovative verbiage, and I like your energy, your effort, and you.

      If only I could get you (and the rest of the world!) to read an objective book based on scientific research about the legitimate differences between men and women.

      This beautiful poem isn't a man's point of view at all, but a woman's -- poor sweet lady, so misunderstood, etc., until he needs something to eat, or a few kisses to make his day go right! What many women think men want, and what many women wish men were like: go to work, bring home the money, listen to her feelings for dinner, etc.

      Oh, but how awful he should profess love and even think about looking at another woman! Shame, shame, shame! "What could she possibly have that I don't have?!"

      Well, for one thing, she is still trying to get him interested in her!

      Happy man-woman relationships to all,

      Max, Wed., Nov. 12, 2013, 1:30 a.m.

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      Faith Reaper 

      5 years ago from southern USA

      Really interesting one dear Kim! Kept me reading for sure. It is difficult to get inside a man's head for sure, but I believe you sure did get there with this excellent piece, written in a style that is difficult, but you sure did pull it off in my book! Awesome writers are able to do so, and you are one no doubt about it.

      Up and more and sharing

      Blessings to you and yours,

      Faith Reaper

    • ocfireflies profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from North Carolina


      You are so special. I appreciate you. Thank you for your ongoing kindness and support. You always know just the right thing to say.


      Thank you for the "Wow" and for your willingness to read and comment on my work. Best to Roscoe and Bella.

      Many blessings to you both,


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      5 years ago from Alabama

      Wow, a great job on this.

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      Jamie Lee Hamann 

      5 years ago from Reno NV

      Keep them coming Kim. I enjoy the conversational tone of this poem. It is difficult to work with a conversation but you did a glorious job. Jamie

    • ocfireflies profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from North Carolina


      Well, I tried really hard to see things from the guy's perspective, but you make an excellent point: If she IS the love of his life, then why does he have this need to have all these other women around?

      I agree that the best thing would be to lock these two crazy people in a room and let them work it out like crazy couples in love often do.

      Thanks for saying you "enjoyed both poems."


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      Suzette Walker 

      5 years ago from Taos, NM

      I read the other poem, so I understand where this one is coming from. Good response, although, I still tend to lean toward the woman's side of this. If she's the one and truly has his heart, why is he with other gorgeous women? Trying to make her jealous, perhaps? That's manipulative.

      Put them both in a room and throw away the key and I bet they'll be making love before too long. LOL I really enjoyed both poems!

    • ocfireflies profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from North Carolina


      This piece was an attempt at stretching my poetic muscles. I had written a poem called "Goodbye Little Dream" that is from the female's point-of-view. From your remarks, I see I need to stretch even more. Thanks for reading. I will continue to work on improving as you suggested.


      Thanks for your encouragement. I am glad you could see some tie to modern relationships. Thank You My Friend.


      Thanks for showing such support and calling this piece a "Nice one."

      My goal as I noted earlier was to take a stab at writing from the man's point-of-view.

      Thanks to all for reading and commenting,


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      Sally Gulbrandsen 

      5 years ago from Norfolk

      Oh the lives of others! You could be expressing the feelings of millions of men out there. Perhaps each one of them should re-write this and give it to the darling in their lives. It might give them the re-assurance that they are so desperately seeking for, love without all the strife!

      Nice one, ocfireflies

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      Bill Holland 

      5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kim, I think you just took a spin through about a million households in America. LOL Seriously, this hits to the core of modern relationships....well done my friend.

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      Marie Flint 

      5 years ago from Jacksonville, Florida USA

      Writing with a feminine voice from the woman's perspective would be more genuine. More imagery would also be nice. Essentially, the words come off as a conversation one is having in his head.

      Both men and women can be over demanding. People who truly love each other express a natural balance of give and take. Often, people with the same problems attract each other. Then, of course, the problems become augmented. "And yet she haunts me like no other" tells me this man isn't centered, either.


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