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Updated on June 18, 2013
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A Measure of Time

I heard myself say “no cost”, when I was asked what the cost was for my husband’s memorial and committal services. I knew the minute I said it I was wrong but, I didn't correct my statement. There was a cost. A cost that is buried with him. A cost that many will not share or understand. A cost that can’t be recovered or recouped. A cost that he and others bear for years or a cost that is paid prematurely.

What is the cost of a soldiers funeral? The cost is time. And, what does time cost? Ask a child who never knew their parent or couldn't understand how final a good-bye could be. Ask a spouse who is left with only the memories of happier times. Ask a parent whose dreams stop when time stops too early. Ask a friend who spent time in pointless arguments or postponed moments of friendship.

And sometimes the cost is not in death but also in living. What is the cost of being a soldier? The cost is still time. Ask a soldier, who pays the price of time, the cost of: not seeing their children grow and achieve their “firsts”; spending time away from spouses; not being there for their parents; and seeing friendships fade. Time does not stop.

When a soldier spends time in war, time doesn't always heal all wounds. Soldier’s physical and emotional wounds can be attended to, but not all are healed. Time doesn't always erase memories and time past can interrupt time present and reappear in the future times. Time of the past can dominate present and future time. Time does not erase all things and can be a burdensome yoke.

The cost of a soldier's funeral is Time - very precious time.

I was fortunate to have had time to share with my husband beyond his service to his country. He carried the pain of the time of his service that could only be understood by those who bore the same yoke. A price that he was still proud to pay.

I know I will spend this Memorial Day more appreciative of the price of time.


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    • sweethearts2 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Northwest Indiana


      Thank you so much for the up vote and taking the time to comment. Time is such a thief for those who serve our country. Time is something that they can never recover and yet they freely give it. Praise and thank them and their families every chance you get.

      Have a nice day, Sharon

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      Thomas Silvia 

      7 years ago from Massachusetts

      This is such a beautifully written hub, with a very awesome message !

      Well done and vote up !!!

    • sweethearts2 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Northwest Indiana

      Victoria Lynn - Thank you for your kindhearted comment. Blessings, Sharon

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      Victoria Lynn 

      7 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      That's a beautiful message and so well written. Take care.

    • sweethearts2 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Northwest Indiana

      Jennifer - thank you for taking the time to read and then follow with a comment. It is most appreciated.

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      Jennifer Stone 

      7 years ago from the Riverbank, England

      So sad! I'm very sorry for your loss, but thank you for sharing this with us! A beautiful piece of writing! All the best, Jen

    • sweethearts2 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Northwest Indiana

      neeleshkulkarni - thank you for taking the time to read and comment. It is much appreciated

    • neeleshkulkarni profile image


      7 years ago from new delhi

      so true and a pain only a soldiers spouse can understand.


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