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Poem to my son who was too quickly judged

Updated on August 9, 2014
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5 and rejected

My son who is 5 went to one day of kindergarten orientation and was already rejected from the school. Not because of academics, he can already read, add/subtract, multiply to 12, divide, and do fractions. He was not rejected due to bad behavior. He did not do one mean thing. It was because he didn't stay in his seat and didn't appear to be paying attention. Here is my broken-hearted poem of the situation:

My sweet little boy so easily misunderstood

If I could shout it out loud I certainly would

You're destined to be Something wonderfully great

Like Albert Einstein or William Gates

Like these brilliant men who lived before As a child you just don't fit in

Your story should be told

You're not a cookie cutter kid fitting a normal mold

Your behavior is not typical or so I've been told

All children must sit not get up from their seat color in the line

Use all the colors nice and neat

Laugh at other kids jokes and play what they play

Ignore what you like always listen to what they say

Don't be who you are forget about your gift

Do as the others do and don't cause a rift

If you're not just like them you'll ruin the class

You must have a diagnosis go get one one real fast

Then once that is done you're not welcome here

This school isn't for you this causes me to tear


I'm sad because I know you were made for a reason

Not to be passed on from season to season

My sweet little boy you're mommy is here

I'll never give up don't you ever fear

I still don't know what we're going to do we'll figure it out sleep now my dear

© 2013 HeatherH104

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      Claire 3 years ago from Surrey, Uk

      That is great news :D

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      HeatherH104 3 years ago from USA

      Thank you Elderberry Arts!

      We ended up sending him to a new school that has been exceptionally brilliant to him. They give him extra work to challenge him and have a plan of what to do when he's having trouble sitting.

      I'm glad to hear homeschooling is working so well for you. I would have given it serious consideration if the new school didn't work out. I have heard wonderful homeschooling stories.

      Thanks for the comment, have a great day. :)

      Heather

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      Claire 3 years ago from Surrey, Uk

      My son is the same (he has autism) He started at school but the system and environment didn't suit him at all and since we started home schooling he is so much happier and doing well academically. I was always afraid to home school but now I wish I had done it sooner with all my children as I have found it easier than expected and it really works for us. It sounds as though you have done a great job at teaching him so far with all he already knows :D

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      HeatherH104 3 years ago from USA

      JPB0756 - So true! Some teachers like everything one way and you must conform to that way. Everyone is different. I would love to homeschool, it might be something we explore if things get bad again. So far his new school is wonderful at accepting and challenging him.

      Thanks for reading and commenting! :)

      Heather

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      Robert A. Joseph 3 years ago

      Keep loving your son, only way to be; I applaud your actions! Kindergarten? Ha! Conformity starts early. Again, great Mom.

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      HeatherH104 3 years ago from USA

      Just Helen - thank you for the compliment. He is so precious to me. :)

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      just helen 3 years ago from Dartmoor UK

      It sounds as though his main education takes place in the home! I believe parents are the most important educators in a child's life.

      I have a violin pupil who was home ed until the age of 11, and she is very advanced academically, bright and interested in the world around her and what makes it work.

      By the way, I love his photo. He is SO beautiful...!

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      HeatherH104 3 years ago from USA

      Thank you Just Helen. About 2 months ago we pulled him out of this school and put him in public school. His new school is going out of their way to keep him challenged academically. His new teacher nurtures him and his gifts unlike the previous teacher who nit-picked him to death. It's much better for him, but I am having trouble coming to terms with someone treating my 5 year old so terribly. Someone at a private school we paid a lot of money to claiming to challenge kids academically (they never wanted to do anything to challenge him). I have ideas in my head to share about this in another hub, just have to get it together.

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      just helen 3 years ago from Dartmoor UK

      What a terrible story Heather. Your poor, clever, beautiful son, so badly treated. I share your pain. I'd be mad if he was my child.

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      HeatherH104 4 years ago from USA

      Thank you rohanfelix! That means a lot to me.

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 4 years ago from Chennai, India

      And a day after reading, I still feel touched, so I've decided to post a link to this poem on my own hub 'Childhood Ice Cream Memories'. This poem is genuine love, with nothing commercial in it, and that makes it even more appealing to me.

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      HeatherH104 4 years ago from USA

      Thank you for your kind words and vote up rohanfelix. Always wanting the best for my son and not always knowing the right answer. It's a tough job being a mom! :)

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 4 years ago from Chennai, India

      A very touching poem from mother to son and one of the best I've read in a long time. I love the fact that you believe in providing the freedom for him to develop into someone different and great. Voted up.

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      DreamerMeg 4 years ago from Northern Ireland

      With bright kids, I now prefer to extend their social skills and do other things with them, other than academic, such as music, painting, exercise or learning to use the computer.

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      HeatherH104 4 years ago from USA

      DreamerMeg - I've never heard of flylady but I'm definitely going to check it out after I finish writing this comment.

      I've been tempted on this journey to ditch the school too, it would save us a bundle it's an expensive school but unfortunately the other options are worse. I hate talking about it because when I say this most people just automatically think I'm an exaggerating proud mom, but my son is very intelligent and loves to learn new things. In kindergarten he's been tested to be reading at a third grade level, math skills exceed multiplying, dividing, fractions, decimals, algebra, etc. Part of his problem is boredom and part is not knowing how to relate to his peers. If we teach him at home he won't have to deal either of these issues, which are life issues he will have to face. When new math skills (new to him) are being introduced he is still as can be. He wants to learn. I feel so sad for him, I wish I knew what the best answer is.

      Thank you so much for your comment and letting me know about flylady. I am going to check that out.

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      DreamerMeg 4 years ago from Northern Ireland

      I find it totally unbelievable that a kindergarten should judge a child on one day's behaviour. As an adult, when I go into a new place, I want to look around and see what is happening. He is better away from that place - it would stifle him. I see he is being "allowed" into school - you might want to look at the Flylady site for help with ADD. This helps to provide structure for children and gives them a checklist of things they have to do, like "take off coat", "hang on peg", "put away lunch box", etc and by providing an easily followed structure, helps them work their way into the school's way of going. They also get a tick for each item completed, which helps them develop good habits and gives them a reward. Flylady is at flylady.net Her site is one for helping to organise people who are born disorganised and a lot of people have posted useful helpful tips based on her system. College students with ADD use her tips too, for instance, they might have an "office in a bag" with all their supplies on one side and a list of what has to be done.

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      Ben Blackwell 4 years ago

      No problem. Good luck with your situation.

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      HeatherH104 4 years ago from USA

      Thanks Ben. My son is very bright, and honestly I'm not just saying that as a proud parent. His mind wanders when going over stuff he already knows and that is mistaken for needing some sort of diagnosis. The teachers don't know what to do with him. We met with teacher/principal and for now he's allowed in school, I hope he can stay there. I know homeschooling is an option, I'd just like for him to get the school experience.

      Anyway, thanks for the great comment!

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      Ben Blackwell 4 years ago

      This is a cool poem, and it is augmented by the explanation in the beginning. The combination of prose and poem seems to be very powerful.

      Also, in a way, this reminds me of my own childhood (though I was never rejected from a school). Nice hub.

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      HeatherH104 4 years ago from USA

      Thank you James, I agree with you! We talked with the teacher and principal and for now he's still in school. I'm hoping it will stay that way...I don't really have a backup plan!

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      Tijani Achamlal 4 years ago from Morocco

      Oh my God!That was horrible.How can they reject a child for that? are they crazy??I am an Elementary teacher of the first levels.I let my kids to act as if they are at home and sometimes I play with them too.They are are bundles of energy and we shouldn't curb them,They need in their age to play more than to study.Those who rejected him are unprofessional!

      In solidarity with your you and your son!

      James

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      HeatherH104 4 years ago from USA

      Thank you aud99. Five years old is too young to give up on a child in my opinion. Thank you for sharing about your nephew. I have a feeling I'll be saying the same thing about my son.

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      Audrey 4 years ago

      It is unfortunate that the system or society is as such that everyone is expected to conform, especially kids. My nephew was once rejected by a kindergarten too because he also didn't fit the definition of a "normal" kid, whatever normal means. Now, he is already 16, and doing well at school. Go figure!

      Anyhow, I wish you and your son all the best!

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      HeatherH104 4 years ago from USA

      Thank you whonu. We're exploring our options. This is from a private school we chose because of academics so unfortunately they can reject him.

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting! :)

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      whonunuwho 4 years ago from United States

      I suggest that you go to the superintendent in your school system and demand that he get to the bottom of this situation. There are provisions for hyperactive children and teachers should be able to adjust. There are usually aids in most early classes such as your son may attend. Special education may be the best answer right now and the director of Special education in your system should be able to help you. Please do not give up or feel desperate. There are answers and they should be waiting. Thank you for sharing this special and poignant work. whonu

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      HappyMikeWritter 4 years ago

      I trully understand you. Is always hard to see that teacher who supposed to be the one who understand kids most has a problem to keep them all happy and satisfied. Is not about your son but unprofesional approaching of the school.

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      HeatherH104 4 years ago from USA

      Thanks Mike!

      I'm so disappointed in our schools and attitudes toward kids who don't quite fit what's "normal".

      Thanks for the nice comment. :)

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      HappyMikeWritter 4 years ago

      Wow. What a touching and fully hearted poem. Once he get older he would be so proud of you. Is amazing and I vote it up