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I Am Who I Am, And That.

Updated on December 21, 2014

Live Life The Way You Want To Live

Life is about creating myself, not justifying my decisions or seeking support from others. My life is mine alone. Others do not decide on my behalf. They accompany me in my walk through life, they try to persuade me on things they feel are right, they try to make me look at things their way, but they simply have not been able ever to take decisions on my behalf. I am not scared to walk alone. I make my own path which I feel is relevant to what I want and where I wish to be. I really do not care about others who judge me on things that I believe firmly. I am what I am. If, in the course of my walk through life, I have affected anyone, it’s their problem, not mine. I am unaffected by them.

I am aware that I am completely alone in this world. I simply rely on myself and my judgments, nobody else’s. I have friends and family who I feel will support and help me when I need them, but I do not depend or wait for them to do such. I realize that I have come alone and will go alone some day. I also realize that my friends and families have lives of their own, where I am relatively unimportant. I have thus framed my life in a way where I can exist without any support system.

I have been created to survive on my own. I am aware that the choices I have made in my life have sometimes been a matter of great curiosity to others. At times, people have gone to the extent of asking me to explain my decisions. I am unfazed, for those are the choices that I have favored. I have never felt them to be anybody else’s business. I have always believed that justifying things or my decisions forces me to not being myself. I have my own desires, ideas, and experiences that are very personal and sacred to me. I am aware that if I live my life the way I am expected to by others, I merely exist and cease to live.

Here are some of my beliefs that have made me what I am. I do not ask you to follow me, but living for myself and not others is a better option than living for others and suffering all through this journey of living.

“Never let someone be your priority, while you remain their option.” ~ Anonymous
“Never let someone be your priority, while you remain their option.” ~ Anonymous

I Am My First Priority

Michelle Obama during a TV interview in 2011 was asked why she had openly admitted that she herself was her first priority. The First Lady had responded, “No, not at all. It’s practical…. a lot of times we just slip pretty low on our own priority list because we’re so busy caring for everyone else. And one of the things that I want to model for my children is investing in themselves as much as they invest in others.” I need to be true to myself and be aware that not everyone will be true to me always. I have prioritized my own needs into my daily life. Then comes the others. I am always my first priority.

I Need To Express My Emotions

If I am angry or hurt, I am not ashamed at expressing such. I do not apologize for being emotional or sensitive. I am not afraid to show my inner self to others. I firmly believe that expressing my emotions is a sign of my inner strength. I also believe that people who judge me for being human and not being diplomatic enough, or modest and emotionless are the ones who are hiding themselves in a canopy of untruth and an unnecessary facade. They are the ones who suffer more since they are unable to control their own inner conflicts.

I Don’t Owe Anybody Any Explanation For My Living Situation.

I really do not need to explain to anyone about how I live. I may not share a very close relationship with my spouse or my children, but then that’s my problem, not theirs. I may have decided to move in with my parents or rented a place for my own use, That’s a decision I have taken consciously. I am completely aware of my living situation and have my own reasons for doing so. It is really no one else’s business.

I Do Not Owe Any Explanation To Anyone For The Priorities In My Life.

I have my own ideas on things that would make me and my family happy and comfortable. I again do not owe anyone any explanation for my priorities. It is my own decision and business and no one else’s.

“A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.”  ~Gandhi
“A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.” ~Gandhi

I Need Not Say Yes To Everything That Others Say.

I have the right to say no wherever and whenever I feel so. I prioritize the situation, and if I do not like something I have the courage to say no. I appreciate kindness and concern, but I am unafraid to say no to something that takes my focus away from my priority. The day I started saying no to things that I did not like, I felt more at peace with myself and my surroundings.

I Do Not Apologize To Others If I Am Not Truly Sorry.

If I don’t care much for forgiveness from someone and do not regret whatever I have done or said because I have felt that they are wrong, I do not apologize. I pity those who apologize too quickly to try and heal a situation that is not yet ready to be healed. It only complicates matters more. I really do not need to apologize if I do not feel doing the same.

If I Require Alone Time, I Need Not Explain To Others Why I Want To Be Away.

I really do not care if people call me rude when I wish to have time for myself. If I need to read a book, play a game of golf, or simply wish to unwind, it is my personal decision. I do not owe anyone any explanation for my time alone. It is my time, and I spend it the way I want to.

I Do Not Need To Explain To Anyone How I Look The Way I Look.

I am short, dark, fat, have a receding hairline and eyebrows. It is my business about how I look. The choices I make on the clothes I wear are mine alone. I know my self worth is not determined by the way I look. I am unapologetically me. I need not mask myself by wearing heels or a wig to camouflage my looks. I am what I am, take it or leave it. Choice is yours.

I have understood over time that the best investment that I can make of my limited time in the world is to spend it with people that I care about. I do not compare the progress I have made in life relative to others. Wherever I have failed, I have found that an opportunity to start afresh and be more careful than before. At the same time, if I have regretted something that I have done in the past, I have moved on without repent and have not held on to memories. I eat the way I like, I dress the way I prefer, I socialize with people I like, I call friends over to party whose presence unwind me. I do not need an ovation since I have nothing to justify. I care more about who I am to myself and less about who I am to others. I can so look any man in the eye and tell him to go to hell if need be, since I care about myself first and then others. Believe me, it helps!


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    • Dip Mtra profile imageAUTHOR

      Dip Mtra 

      3 years ago from World Citizen

      Hi Paula (fpherj)! Thanks for reading this. I try and live the way I want to, not the way others want me to. It's not quite smooth though, but at the end I am at peace with my inner self and am accountable to only myself.

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      3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Dip Mtra.....BRAVO!!! I am 100% in favor of your attitude and belief system. I have lived with these very thoughts my entire adult life. I am happy & at peace and have wonderful relationships with my loved ones. How I live & what I say & all directed by me.

      There are those who have harmed me UN-forgivably in my life and I have never agreed with "We MUST forgive others".....I can forgive when I choose, if the person has requested forgiveness. I can forgive myself and I forgive my children unconditionally. Others? Maybe, maybe not. I owe no one explanations.

      You are WISE and I agree & approve. Thank you for sharing this with your readers. UP++++ pinned & tweeted

    • Dip Mtra profile imageAUTHOR

      Dip Mtra 

      3 years ago from World Citizen

      Thanks Bobbi for reading this. Thanks for sharing this as well.

      Life gets much easier when we start living for ourselves rather than others. We are no saints to sacrifice lives for others but are normal commoners trying to eke out a living in a world where we are measured all the time.

      Have a great weekend!

    • PurvisBobbi44 profile image


      3 years ago from Florida

      WOW! What a great hub. I hope all women have a chance to read this and to put it in practice for their own happiness.

      You have a wonderful weekend and I am sharing with Twitter, G+, pin it on my re-pin board and H+.

      Bobbi Purvis

    • Dip Mtra profile imageAUTHOR

      Dip Mtra 

      3 years ago from World Citizen

      Thanks everyone for stopping by and your kind words. Much appreciated.


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      Patsy Bell Hobson 

      3 years ago from zone 6a, SEMO

      What an admirable declaration of independence. Voted up, IU, tweet.

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      Audrey Hunt 

      3 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      You are true to yourself and your hub states this well. I voted up and will do some sharing. Thanks for the follow.

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      Dana Tate 

      3 years ago from LOS ANGELES

      I like your style and I love the honesty of this hub. You and I are very similar in our attitudes. I have come to learn through many trials that this journey in life is mine alone. We are connected yes, but separate in our destinies and life purpose. At the end of the road I have to be accountable for the choices I made. So therefore I am unapologetic. I try to be nice about if but as you say I am who I am. Thank you for being true and sharing that with others.

    • Dip Mtra profile imageAUTHOR

      Dip Mtra 

      3 years ago from World Citizen

      Thanks Devika for stopping by. I believe in myself, just like you do. I read your article on envy, and understood that causes of envy are universal.

    • Dip Mtra profile imageAUTHOR

      Dip Mtra 

      3 years ago from World Citizen

      Hi Devika! Thanks for stopping by.I will follow your hubs as well.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Life is what you make of it. You show that and more in this interesting hub. Thank you for following me.

    • Dip Mtra profile imageAUTHOR

      Dip Mtra 

      3 years ago from World Citizen

      Thanks Eric. Its after all our lives that we need to live. Remember the security drill in aircraft on oxygen masks? They ask you first to take care of yourself and then others.

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      Eric Wayne Flynn 

      3 years ago from Providence, Rhode Island

      I like your spirit and also feel and conduct myself in a very similar manner as you do. Here is to knowledge of self, Happy New Year.


    • Dip Mtra profile imageAUTHOR

      Dip Mtra 

      3 years ago from World Citizen

      Thanks Jodah for stopping by.

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      John Hansen 

      3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      It seems that you are comfortable with life and how you live it. We all should live our lives the way we think best. Very interesting and honest hub.

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      Dip Mtra 

      3 years ago

      No. I really practice what I've written. That's me above. Unabashedly. Thanks peachpurple for reading.

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      3 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      you are being cool to yourself, hardly for me. cheers!


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