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"Testing Ourselves" by Rolly A. Chabot

Updated on August 23, 2012
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Welcome

Good evening from sunny Alberta where we had a light show late into the night that lasted 6 hours. Flashes of lighting that would light up the sky followed by rolling thunder. It was constant all night.

At 1:30 this morning the power went out and I was thankful for the app I had downloaded to my IPad. At least I was able to make my way to bed in relative safety. It is amazing just how quiet the house can get when all the electrical stops. We get used to the noise on a daily basis. Here it is three large fish tanks and all the other appliances running around the clock.

The night was long and there were several lighting strikes which touched down in the area. Strange there was very little rain but Quigley was very restless last night. As long as Dad is around she intently sits and watches but once alone or the old guy is sleeping it is a different story. It seems the bed which is generally off limits became the safe place to be.

Gather around and lets just pass over a few things I have been observing of late and maybe someone can shed some light on the why... !

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We are all Different

Each writer here on Hub Pages or any of the many sites that are out there where they write, stand out because of their own style and form in which they express ideas. We are all uniquely different and over time we can and will change to a certain degree to attract readers.

The issue is I have been seeing a growing trend for relatively successful writers coming under attack through forums and or being flagged for what is being called inappropriate content. The same content they have been producing for their entire writing career. The question I have I suppose is why are they being singled out. A very dear friend has come under attack and I find it upsetting it would happen so quickly and easily. Please remember we all have a voice not just a few.

Personally I think it may have something to do with getting involved in the forum world. I have been there a few times and it is like entering a den of angry people bent on taking down any writer who writes about something controversial. Yet does not everyone have the right to have an opinion. I mean I would never try and force what I believe in down your throat with threats and intimidation.

The few times I have visited forums and not necessarily Hub Pages I have been jumped upon immediately because of why? Not sure but it appears like the more noise you make the more people see you. Is that the reason to spit venom at another to gain something for yourself?

Please do not get me wrong as a general rule people are amazing. What they write has a profound impact on our daily lives. I have watched some amazing writers grow over the years and I have nothing but the utmost admiration for them.

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The Sandbox

I suppose when you play in a sandbox of many people such as some sites you are bound to get some sand in some personal areas that irritate. Maybe that is the reason why some people get so upset.

This takes us back to an age old quote "Play Nice" but I do think this picture is so true of the mentality we see today. It is all over Social Media and many of the sites. Friend someone and all is good as long as you both agree and yet step out of line and in a matter of seconds you are tarred and feathered and banned. Worse yet you are forced to leave the place you have invested so much time into.

The solution I think is to call a spade a spade and tell people to simply grow up. Talk about school yard bullies. Here we are later in life and I see no school children here and yet look at us. Has anything changed from the dreaded days of getting picked on in school. In those days the only way to beat the bully was to teach him a lesson. Well in most cases that is hard to do because I can tell you I will not be flying anywhere soon to teach a lesson. Silly child games and all because I think the ones being bullied are a threat on the bullies turf.

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Are We Not

Are we not a community here and on the many sites a community of writers all with a need to express our thoughts through the words we produce. Can we not simply follow those we love and stop following the ones who we do not agree with. Could it be that simple?

I have watched a migration of many a great writer move from one place to another and eventually move again because of the conflict. I have watched Face Book pages created with fancy names with all the same people flocking over and before long the fight starts there. What is with that, Can we just not agree to disagree and leave each other to craft what we do in peace.

We have all been wounded in life and then on the Internet through words spoken or emails we have taken the wrong way. Maybe the best way to stop it is to address the issue and if it is not dealt with accordingly then move on. It is so sad to see families fighting over the simplest and stupid things for years when if a few words were spoken at the time it would have ended. I mean apologies if you are wrong and if forgiveness is not granted then move on and leave people to wallow in their own self pity and abuse.


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Lets Change

We need to change. I have seen far to many people hurt on the many sites. Some to a point where they have stopped writing all together. What a shame that is. The words they have on their hearts is so important to all. Take the time to stop, read and listen to the silent cry they are expressing for love and encouragement.

It is there all you need to do is get beyond yourself and the bitterness and look deep into the words of another. Years ago to get something published we had to go through a long drawn process before it would ever see the light of day. Today it is as simple as hitting the send button and it is out there for the whole world to see. Yes there will be critics, yes there may be some who will oppose. That is all part of being called a writer in today's time. Maybe we ourselves need to become a little less sensitive in the process of putting stuff out there.

But that is still no licence for someone to be so vindictive and angry as to slam and smear dirt all over anyone else. It has become worse than the drunken hit and run driver without a conscience. If all you are worried about is your numbers and stats then buy a calculator and play with it, rather than someones heart and feelings.

Just love please, encourage and give some praise where do.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi lifegate... well said I would rather be seeking the truth than what I have been a part of witnessing in any of the forums. Yes a great platform to express opinions but be prepared to be sliced and diced for what you believe in... I can be far more effective on ths side...

      Hus and Blessings

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      William Kovacic 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Great Hub! It's been needed to be said for far too long. I very rarely get involved in the forums for the reasons you mentioned. I can waste more time trying to be led into arguments that are not even relevant to the topic. Maybe some people are okay with that, but it's not for me. Thanks for speaking out.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Gypsy... hope this finds you well and enjoying the summer. Good to hear you stay away from the forums except to duck in and out... HP is a great community with many very good writers. Again some of the other sites have issues as we do here at times.

      Hugs and Blessings

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and interesting. We must be supportive of others that's for sure. I have left some replies on forums but I'm a person who likes to get along with everyone and be friends so I usually leave my opinion and get out of there quick. I think this is a special and wonderful community and we must all pass the love and friendship along by helping and supporting one another and if possible doing some cheerleading. Hugs from Riga. Hope you have a great weekend.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Always.... thought so as well until the first time ventured into them. Not a nice place to visit... trust all is well with you and yoirs...

      Blessings and Hugs

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I never go to the forums. I'm told it's not a good place to go because of the back-biting. I was under the impression the forums were for discussions and opinions but not so. Thank's for voicing your concerns. BTW, I agree. Cheers..

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi suzettenaples... thanks for passing through and saying hello. You are right in your assessment of things of things. As adults it is something that has been learned and almost acceptable to insult and be rude.

      I say stick to the Play Nice" part and well if some happen to wonder in to this territory they are welcome. That is until the toss sand then it is simple they get kicked out of the sandbox.

      Hus from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi rcrumple... you are right in hearing the music. It would be nice alright. It is not just Hub Pages where this happens, unfortunately it happens all over on every sort of social platform. I guess it is the sign of the times and shows just how frustrated people have become with life in general.

      Thanks for the valued comment ...

      Rolly in Canada

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      Suzette Walker 4 years ago from Taos, NM

      Amen! I agree with you totally. I love "play nice". It is so true and I think the reason for the venom is two fold. One, some people are just immature and insecure; two, we watch this 'in your face' attitude and role models on TV and cable. Then, people get on the forums and think this is how they are suppose to behave. It truly is childish. We just have to rise above it. Well, that is my take on things and my opinion . I'm sure there are people out there that will disagree - oh well!

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      Rich 4 years ago from Kentucky

      Rolly,

      Unfortunately, as I've said often, we live in a Huff Post comments era of the self centered, political correct clone that has no regard for others. I've only been on Hubpages for two months, but am amazed at the number of individuals that think this is a place to downgrade others for their ideas, instead of concerning themselves with the quality of the material and how the material was presented. When I go to the profiles of these individuals, it's not surprising to see no hubs published, or maybe a hub that resembles an advertisement. As writers go, most are very open minded and willing to hear the opinions of others. It would be nice if all would be the same. Great thoughts! Why do I hear the Beach Boys song "Wouldn't It Be Nice" playing in the background? : )

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi again Billy... there you are... I have some privacy settings here... sorry... I guess I should change them...

      Hugs to you again

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Billybuc... peace and happiness right back at you my friend. Forums all over the net have become playgrounds for people such as these. As often as not most of what they have to say are the standard one liners that have been sharpened with a sword of hated. Damaging they are and I think Tammy coined the phrase "Trolls" rather well... I just stay clear like you.

      Hugs my good Man...

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Audrey... good to see you again and I agree with your comment. "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all."

      Most sites are the same and I frequent many and I see it over and over again and it is so sad...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Christy... thanks for sending it over. I did hear on the news and caught some footage of yours... awesome stuff if you like storms. I would have been sitting out on the balcony watching...

      What passed here lasted close to 6 hours and was amazing. The power is something that humbles you and makes you realize just how small you really are.

      Hugs for the advice of simplifying connections, mine are with those I love and care about...

      Hugs from across the big Rocks

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Jackie... I agree the bully needs to be stopped and sometimes they are but just find a new place to hang out. Sooner or later they are caught again. I see so many persona's out there and they are all different and yet pictures and methods of writing or commenting are all the same.

      It has been years since I woke up carrying that sort of anger and bitterness and care not to return to that place. Like you say life is far to short.

      Hugs my friend

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi coffeesnob... I still love that name and often think of you as I brew my Kicking Horse 454 in the morning... good to see you again... trust all is well with you and yours.

      You are so right when you say if only we could see into the others life. Far too often we forget. There is so much pain hidden away and sometimes it is but a single word that sets off the trigger of events that follow.

      Hugs and Blessings

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Where is my comment? I sent it an hour ago? does that happen to you?

      Now I am slightly peeved...but I'll get over it.

      Excellent hub my friend; this is a community, designed to support one another. I have no time in my life for negativity of any kind.

      peace and happiness coming your way,

      bill

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Carol7777 ... thanks for dropping by and following and the wonderful fan mail and this comment ."Lets all be kind to each other."... I so love that comment... thank you

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Tammy... thanks for stopping by my rant... smiles... Many people on social media have become great friends. Canada and US alike. I find I spend a great deal of time on the phone with people I have met and it is a blessing... I like your term "Trolls" maybe a site could be set up called "Trollville" ...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bravo my friend! I simply do not understand this type of behavior. I will not go on forum pages; I have been attacked several times in comments and for what reason? I joined HubPages because I thought it was a community of writers who would show support to each other...and for the most part that's what it has been....but then we get the few who speak venom and are almost hateful. There is no place in my life for that type of behavior.

      Great message Rolly; sending peace and happiness from Olympia.

      bill

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      Audrey Howitt 4 years ago from California

      I think this hub needs to be read by everyone here. I tend to be on the periphery as a writer here, but even I know that all too often people get singled out, feelings get hurt and people leave. Personally, I believe in the old adage--"If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." That being said--very well said--

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      Christy Birmingham 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You are wise to say that we really can simplify our connections to the people we care about. Hurting each other online is nonsense, really. You had the lightening that we had last week! Hope all is calmer now.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      The thing is Rolly; if no one stops the bully they keep going for everyone who they think is wrong or possible just making trouble from jealousy and by the time everyone sees them for what they are it may be too late. The longer they get by the braver they get. Surely anyone can see after so many attacks that this person or persons have to be looking for trouble. Strange that so many people offend them, huh? I never go to forums badmouthing people. Life is too short. I guess they are to be pitied really, they must wake up mad, don't you think?

      Great write, hope you reach someone. Anyone who has this problem.

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      coffeesnob 4 years ago

      Well Said, friend. I think if we could see into the soul of the person a little bit more, we might be more tender.

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Pretty powerful. It is so true..With new inventions and ideas come challenges and problems ..Like a new car with a gazillion gadgets..Something is bound to go wrong..Lets all be kind to each other..How great would that be. A wonderful hub with a great message. Vote UP.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Well said and so needed Rolly! The few psychopath trolls in the forums and comments sections really discrupt the awesome community here. I have been severely attacked and I have seen the most horrible behavior directed to others in the forums and through nasty and unnecessary comments. It seems when people stick together and let these trolls know the name calling, insults, personal attacks and trolling will not be accepted, they crawl back under their rocks. Great call for integrity in the forums and in interactions!