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The Writer's Mailbag: Installment 257

Updated on May 20, 2019

It Will All Come Out in the Wash

That was one of those sayings from my mother when I was growing up . . . we all have them, right? Mothers are good at pulling out some words of wisdom which may, or may not, make any sense. This was my favorite from my mom. “Don’t worry, Bill, it will all come out in the wash.” I had some major concerns, and my mom wanted to talk about the laundry????

WTH?

She’s dead, now, so no way can I ask her what she meant by that, but I’m going to guess it means “chill out, dude, what will happen will happen, and all the worrying in the world won’t change that fact.”

Do you remember any from your mother? If so, please share in the comment section. I would love to hear about them. You might find this quotation amusing:

“When your mother asks, 'Do you want a piece of advice?' it is a mere formality. It doesn't matter if you answer yes or no. You're going to get it anyway.” Erma Bombeck That was my mom. I would hear that question and just shudder.

What say we get to the mail? It’s a light bag this week, so it won’t take long.

Welcome to the Mail Room
Welcome to the Mail Room

Work Schedule

From Mel: “Goo goo ga joob Walrus Bill. Question for you, which sounds more apropo now that you mentioned dropping out of the Farmers Market. I admire your work ethic and I want to know how you go about it. Do you adhere to a strict schedule in writing or do you wing it, writing when you have time. Could be overly intimate, but I would like to know how your daily schedule operates. Great work.”

Strict schedule all the way, Mel, and I AM THE WALRUS, thank you very much!

I write from 6:30-11:00 a.m. Monday through Friday. Monday through Wednesday I work on customer needs, making money to pay the bills. Thursday are for creative writing, novels, short stories, whatever, and Fridays are for billing customers, working on the Mailbag, and tying up loose ends.

The weekends are usually for the farm and other chores, but I will occasionally do some creative writing in the early morning, on Saturday or Sunday, if the weather is bad.

And that’s it! I can actually break it down to the hour if you want, but that just seems overly boring to me.

More on Points of View

From Shannon: “I just saw a writing challenge that challenged to use all of the points of view. Aren't her five? Though I can only think of three. I've also been instructed by general opinion that one POV per chapter, at least, of not the entire text is usually best. Supposed to be easier flow for the reader. I've seen excellent exceptions, however.”

Strictly speaking, Shannon, there are only three . . .first person, second person, and third person . . . but within the third person category there are three: third person limited, third person multiple, and third person Omniscient.

Do you want to know what those are? Third person limited means the narration is limited to only one person . . .he/she only knows what one character knows. Third person multiple means the narrator is privy to what multiple characters know, and third person Omniscient means the narrator knows what all characters know.

So there you go, Kokamo!

Maggie and her brother Tobias!
Maggie and her brother Tobias!

Maggie and Me

From Anonymous: “I noticed in your series of ‘Maggie’ articles that you will occasionally say ‘Maggie and me’ rather than the appropriate and correct ‘Maggie and I.’ Do you do that on purpose?”

Yes!

Next question, please.

Seriously, yes, I will occasionally break the rules, but it almost always has to do with the specific case and the tone I’m trying to establish. Saying “Maggie and me” seems more endearing and laidback, like a walk in the country should feel like. Walking in the country, clearing my mind, reflecting on life, and enjoying my dog, those things just feel relaxed to me, so I chose to relax the rules of grammar and be a rule-breaker.

Nice catch on that one and no, I’m not senile yet. LOL

Another Excerpt, Anyone?


How would you like a sneak preview of the memoirs (And the Blind Shall See) I’m currently working on? This passage is something I wrote about my mother:

"She was love in the flesh for me, hugging me, kissing me, holding me in her lap, tucking me in at night, and constantly telling me she loved me and was proud of me. I truly don’t remember a single person disliking my mom. She volunteered at the church, baked goods for the poor, made dinners for the parish priests, comforted the sick, and treated all of my friends like they were her extended family.

She also hated Blacks, Japanese, Germans, Italians, and what she called Chinks, an all-encompassing term which included all Asians. The Bible was her guiding light unless, of course, it did not align with how she felt about that trailer-trash that moved in two blocks down. The weekly church sermons were food for her soul, she could recite a rosary with the best of them, and monthly confessions were events of great importance, but it all rang hollow when compared to some of her actions and words.

But I loved her! I loved them! They were the two that saw something in that blind, malnourished kid, and they were the two who engulfed him with love, so their shortcomings were largely ignored as I was growing up.

Do we, however, really ignore what we see and hear during our formative years? I don’t think so. I think we are sponges. Some of our surface absorbs better than other parts, but it is all taken in, sorted through, and either used or discarded. So it was for me. I can see a great deal of my mom and dad in me today, even though the DNA markers say that is impossible. There is also a great amount of them I have labeled as a bio-hazard and tossed away for good. And I have no problem with any of that. We are complicated creatures, we humans. I pray my son has discarded the worst of me. Otherwise he’ll be crippled for life, and I’ll be in the afterlife feeling guilty as all hell. At the same time, I now realize there is a great deal of good in me, and I would hope my son recognizes that fact as well. So I have no problem giving my parents a free pass on certain issues. In no way does that mean I condone their behavior, but I certainly do understand it since I, too, am riddled with imperfections."

It's all about me!
It's all about me!

Until Next Time

That’s all I’ve got for you today, so you’ll just have to find something else to do with your time. Thanks a bunch for stopping by. I love our little get-togethers each Monday, and I’m grateful for your friendship, each and every one of you.

Have a great weekend! Do something good for someone this week, please, and while you’re at it, do something nice for yourself. You deserve it! Time is short, folks. Give yourself a hug and the permission to be human.

2019 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

“Helping writers to spread their wings and fly.”

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    • billybuc profile imageAUTHOR

      Bill Holland 

      9 days ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Lawrence! You are always appreciated here in the Mail Room!

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      Lawrence Hebb 

      10 days ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Bill

      This hub might be a short one, but it's full of Golden nuggets we can take away and shape to what we need.

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      Bill Holland 

      3 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Hooray! Thanks for the great news, Sis!

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      Paula 

      4 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      ATTN HP Buddies:.....Got a 3-sentence email from our little Miss Linda Sue (Sunshine) herself!! What a beautiful sight! She's working hard at getting stronger. Of course she is! The woman is a Hero!

      Happy news for all of us who love her!

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      One would think that's the way it would work, Rajan. We can always hope for that kind of understanding among us all.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Eman, that is a beautiful saying. I have never heard it before and I love it. Thank you!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      4 weeks ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      We all have our own imperfections, my friend. That should make us more understanding of others, isn't it? A very enjoyable and educative mailbag.

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      Eman Abdallah Kamel 

      4 weeks ago from Egypt

      Thanks for this interesting article. My mother taught me not to underestimate the things I do not like. For the thing which I do not love, many others love it. This is what I teach my children as well.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Sis! Linda is a great person, and I'd love to know how she is doing. Keep me posted, please.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Liz! I'm sure you will wake up in the middle of the night, soon, and words from your mother will greet you. lol

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      Paula 

      4 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Bro......Good question, as well as excellent timing. I just recently put a call in to one of Linda Sue's daughters. It seems no one we know has seen an update. I know the girl's are continually busy with caring for their Mom, but I'm hoping Michelle will have 5 minutes to respond to my Voice mail. When & if that occurs, I'll certainly share my findings. !! We all miss her, don't we. Sis

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      Liz Westwood 

      4 weeks ago from UK

      Now you have put me on the spot with sayings. My mind has gone blank, but yours certainly rings a bell. Thanks for sharing your work schedule. It's interesting to see how others order their work. I really appreciated the excerpt from your memoirs. It is a great appetizer.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Happy Memorial Day, Genna! Sorry I'm so late in responding. Heck yes, break the rules. I start sentences with "and" and "but" all the time, and love doing it!

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      Genna East 

      4 weeks ago from Massachusetts, USA

      My grandmother loved that saying...about how it will all come out in the wash. I'm embarrassed to admit that I could never quite understand what she meant. Now, thanks to you, I do. I admire your writing schedule, Bill. Thank you for that explanation of the third person...especially, omniscient. I'm still learning so much about writing. And I like to break the rules once in awhile as well, such as beginning a sentence with "and" or "but." Sacrilege, I know, but it's fun and helps with emphasis on occasion. Happy Sunday, and good wishes on Memorial Day. :-)

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Sis, you slay me. I knew you'd be lurking in the shadows just waiting for me to comment. lol Have a great weekend....hey, how is Linda doing? I haven't heard a thing about her condition.

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      Paula 

      4 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Bro.....And let's just LOOK at how successful I was with you!! When you guys learn to LISTEN to women, the whole world will be magnificent!!

      (Easy with the sexist remarks! I'm well aware I'm outrageous. It's uncontrollable )

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      I appreciate that, Linda! Hopefully I'll finish it in this lifetime.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Welcome to my world, Manatita....Sis was always correcting me when we were growing up. lol

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, I love it....my mom would say something similar, but I forget the exact wording of it. Argue with.....nope, not coming to me.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh God love it, MizB, I love that one. Never heard it, but I can just picture your grandma saying it. Thanks so much for sharing that one.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Hooray for you, Rodric. Well done with that blogging venture, and welcome back to the Mailbag. Answer coming Monday!

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      Linda Crampton 

      4 weeks ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Your memoir sounds like it's going to be very interesting, Bill. Thanks for sharing excerpts. I enjoy reading them.

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      Paula 

      4 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Manatita.....Just a quick lesson is "American English,"........"Baked Goods" is the correct term we use in referring to all products that can be purchased from a Bakery or Bakery Dept......meaning BAKED DESSERTS.....goodies....yummies.....Cakes, tarts. pies, cookies, doughnuts, SWEETS......"Baked Goods" is used specifically for these types of munchies! The term does not apply to any meals nor food in general......

      Now you've become more Americanized....hope you don't mind. Peace, Paula

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Bill, the other night as I watching watching The Voice finale, I remembered something my mom used to say to me all the time when I was younger: "Shauna Lynn, you'd argue with a sign board if you painted it yourself!" Most of the time I was Sha Sha or Sha, but when I was in trouble or exasperating my mom, I was Shauna Lynn.

      I was quite the questioner (arguer) when I was growing up. The nuns hated when I questioned them as much as my mom did!

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Manatita, as always, you have given me much to ponder and reflect upon. Love the dirt left behind after wash...great line, that one.

      Let's laugh at life indeed, my friend!

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      I love that one, Bill, although I'm not sure of its meaning. lol Thanks for sharing!

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Mel! Bounces off the tongue...I will take that compliment gladly, my friend,and yes, it helps to know the rules.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, you probably aged her five years that day. :) But a lesson learned: don't get caught next time. lol Thanks for sharing.

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      Bill De Giulio 

      5 weeks ago from Massachusetts

      Hi Bill. I remember very well my mother’s favorite saying, especially as we became teenagers. “Nothing good happens after midnight.” To this day I find myself repeating that phrase often, whenever appropriate.

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      Doris James MizBejabbers 

      5 weeks ago from Beautiful South

      Bill, I plumb forgot the mama sayings in my comment. My mama never cussed, but when she was under stress, she'd say "Oh, Lordy!" But otherwise, she was a very judgmental Southern Belle. The expression I remember her saying the most, when someone got into a situation, was, "She (or he) made her bed, now let her lie in it."

      We lived on a farm with my grandparents during my formative years. My grandma was the most loving person I ever knew, but she never said "I love you." She always patted us grandchildren on the cheek and said, "Oh, God love it."

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Brenda, it's nice of you to join us. We always welcome new members. One day I'll teach you the secret handshake. :)

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh my God, Sis, I remember my dad saying the same damned thing. Not that I was cute, cuz I wasn't, but I would try acting cute occasionally, and he would pull that one out of mothballs. LOL...and yes, they were correct, damn it all to hell!!!!!

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Chitrangada Sharan...my mother said something similar...Let go and let God!

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      manatita44 

      5 weeks ago from london

      You and I, Bill … you and me, Bill, (Lol), we'll continue to break rules and actually, I see a lot of writers now using 'Maggie and me.' To tell you the truth, it seems to be more impactful, putting a comma after 'and', sometimes. This is a game-changing century, as it should be, in the spirit of self-transcendence. Ha ha.

      What any mother says to a son is meaningful in its own way. Still, I decided to do a bit of practice on that one. Since the clothes will come out clean, then the dirt will be left behind. This can mean anything, really, from the hate of the spite-monger, to the anger or ignorance of humans.

      So I go to bed at night with my cobwebs, which is soon illumined by the radiant dawn (It all comes off with the wash) Ha ha. Funny, eh? Let's laugh at life, Bro.

      Another brilliant piece of writing. It is 'succulently' beautiful, although I paused on the word 'goods' after 'baked' in your memoir. I see the need for diversity, but perhaps 'meals' or 'food' would be better. What do you think? Cute sticky tongue at the end. 'Cool!'

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Venkatachari M. Most people do not now about the POV information, so I'm happy I included it in this mailbag.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Too funny, Flourish and no, no inspiration from Josie the cat. She is a demanding little wench. lol

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      I appreciate that, Lori. Thank you so much.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Naturally, MizB, now that you mentioned all that, I don't think I'll get the latest in the Maggie series done in time. My best hope if for next week. I was too busy building a fence this week and just didn't get to the Maggie Chronicles in time. My bad!

      Stay safe my friend. Those tornadoes are just one reason why I love the Pacific Northwest so much.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Verlie...love your name by the way...it is poetic-sounding. Appropriate and fitting, me thinks.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Always a pleasure, Dora, and thank you as well. Blessings to you always.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      John, thanks a lot for sharing your schedule with us. I will be howling at that last statement by your mom. That is a classic!

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Dr. Bill! Yes, I am convinced now we all had the same mom...weird how that happened! lol

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      Rodric Anthony 

      5 weeks ago from Peoria, Arizona

      I have been so busy with my new website and the next book I have not seen your words in a few weeks. I miss your familiar phrases. Reading this brings me back home. I finally started blogging. So, thanks for that encouragement a while back that I did not take because I was not interested in doing that at the time, the blogging. Now that I am blogging, how often should I do it? I know once a week is standard, but if I want to get readers to read my stuff, should I do it every other day in the beginning for a while to get the crowd going?

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      Mel Carriere 

      5 weeks ago from San Diego California

      Maggie and me is of course better, because it is an alliterative expression that bounces off the tongue. Within reason writers have to break the rules and wax poetic sometimes. But in order to break the rules you have to know you are breaking the rules. The DMV (department of mangled verbiage), doesn't issue a poetic license to just anyone.

      Thanks for the response in the mailbag. Your writing output is so voluminous I swore you were at it from dawn to dusk. Great stuff.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      5 weeks ago from Southern Illinois

      I will never forget the day my mother caught me smoking. ( I was probably sixteen, ) She used a fly swatter on my backside and believe me the indentations stayed around for a while. Her favorite saying was " Didn't I tell you not to do that? " Poor Mama, I miss her so.

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      BRENDA ARLEDGE 

      5 weeks ago from Washington Court House

      Thanks for an insightful piece of work to help me get through my day.

      I loved the references you used regarding sayings...it remined me of all the superstitions I was taught during my early years.

      Though not many people in my inner circle believe in them...i always seem to have one to tell.

      Wise tales, folklore, superstition, whatever you want to call them were part of my life as early as i can remember. I still look to the moon to see if it will rain.

      Thanks for an enjoyable, refreshing read.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Aww thanks, William. My two dogs are quite pleased with your kind words.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      LOL...Sha, I'll be laughing the rest of the day thinking of those two lines of wisdom.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Alyssa, hello again! lol I love that saying...can't isn't a word....great piece of advice in four words...or is it five? six? darn contractions! Have a great week!

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh God, Pop, I heard that one too. lol Never liked it back then, but now I can admit it's kind of clever.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Shannon! My mom said that too, and I wasn't buying it at all. lol

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      Paula 

      5 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Bro...."Sayings" form our parents.....Oh Lord, can we talk? They are an obvious part of our inheritance, right? I'll admit they are for me! So ingrained are these things, I repeat them all, at some point or another to this day!! While so many of these famous sayings have hung on for numerous decades, passed on from one generation to the next, most of my favorites are the "originals," my crafty parents created themselves......by necessity or perhaps they just wanted to show off! LOL. My Dad was a pro.

      The bitter pill we may have had to swallow through the years, is that our parents were nearly 100% correct, 97% of the time! Now, when I open my mouth & loudly & clearly hear one of my parents.....I can smile and think to myself, "Believe me child, one day you'll know I was right!!"

      I especially liked one of my Dad's......being strict about education, he would say, "Listen kid...."cute," will only get you so far in this world. After that, without smarts, it's a damned struggle to the finish!" There's no argument for that one!

      Thanks for the great mailbag!

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      5 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Bill, I grew up with so many sayings. My mom was born and raised in Missouri, so the lingo is quite fun.

      Two of Mom's sayings that stand out in my mind are: 1) Shauna Lynn if you didn't have hands, you wouldn't be able to talk!; and 2) Sit still, you're squirmier than a worm in hot ashes!

      :-)

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      Alyssa 

      5 weeks ago from Ohio

      Hello again! haha! I love that saying. I can share one from my grandfather that I do my best to live up to each day: Can't isn't a word. One of the best pieces of advice I have ever gotten and one that I've passed down to my son. :) I love that you break grammar rules to suit the tone of your writing. I think it's important to take creative liberties and not stick so rigidly to form all of the time. (within reason, of course.) Have a wonderful week!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      5 weeks ago from New Delhi, India

      It’s good to read about your mother in the first paragraph.

      When I think of my mother, or myself as a mother, I agree with you. Mother’s words are always to be treasured, whatever our own age.

      My mother always says, ‘Do your best, (Karma), be sincere in your efforts, and leave the rest to him (God).

      Thanks for sharing another useful set of questions and answers.

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      William Kovacic 

      5 weeks ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Thanks for the explanation of the POVs, Bill. I have a hard time breaking them down sometimes. Loved the picture of Maggie and Tobias, too!

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      I appreciate that, Miebakagh! Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Mary! Your mom had a 50/50 chance of being correct on that one. lol

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Blessings always, Ann!

      bill

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Flourish! We excel at interesting questions here on the Mailbag.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Pamela! I disliked that particular saying as well.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Never heard that one, Linda! You must be older than I am. lol

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      Venkatachari M 

      5 weeks ago from Hyderabad, India

      It's one more interesting mailbag with that POV question and your reply enlightening us with those 5 points of views. I knew only three. But, now I came to understand that the third person had three different views of writing. The glimpse from your memoir is also very interesting.

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      Miebakagh Fiberesima 

      5 weeks ago from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA.

      Noted.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 weeks ago from USA

      I don’t know if my other comment went through but I was here! bTW those dogs are cutie pies. Do the cats not inspire you? I thought you had at least one cat. Not a mailbag question, just wondering. Cats smell discrimination here LOL

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      Lori Colbo 

      5 weeks ago from Pacific Northwest

      I am thrilled you're doing a memoir. I will love to read it when you're done.

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      Doris James MizBejabbers 

      5 weeks ago from Beautiful South

      Really, really good mailbag this week, Bill. I really enjoyed the preview into your memoirs. I think we all have to take the good they did for us and do our best not to become our parents. I think there's a commercial about that (becoming our parents).

      About the grammar, it's grammatically correct to say Maggie and me if it's preceded by a preposition like "it was a beautiful day for Maggie and me to take a walk." So no sweat. But a little bird told me they saw you write somewhere "for Maggie and I." Not the best. Bad bird for tattling.

      I've never had any formal creating writing classes other than magazine and newspaper writing, so the POV was enlightening. I knew only the regular three, 1st, 2nd, and 3rd person.

      If we don't get blown away tonight (tornadoes heading our way from Oklahoma again), I'll look forward to reading your next installment of "Maggie and Me."

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      Verlie Burroughs 

      5 weeks ago from Canada

      Me, me, me. I, me, mine. Just like the George Harrison song (great song, by the way, I would link it here, but I'm not sure if we're allowed to link...lol). Your work schedule! Holy cow! And what is this about dropping the Farmer's Market? Really? Happy Monday Bill, thanks for the great resources you throw our way each and every week....

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      Dora Weithers 

      5 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks for your explanation on POVs and on the endearing phrase, "Maggie and me." thanks for sharing yourself.

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      John Hansen 

      5 weeks ago from Queensland Australia

      A short but interesting mailbag, Bill. Whether you have many questions or not you always make it worth the read, my friend. “Maggie and I” as a title, just doesn’t do it for me. “Maggie and Me” is much more informal and more aesthetically pleasing with the two words beginning with “M.”

      As far as schedules, I usually spend the first hour after waking checking HubPages and reading other people’s writing, replying to comments etc. then get all my regular household jobs/chores done in the morning by about 10 or 11, then the rest of the day is to devote to any writing until around 4pm when I do yard work, feed animals, put hens to bed etc. Tuesday is usually town and shopping day, and f course we have to work around unexpected or unplanned events. I don’t tend to write a lot at night unless I can’t sleep or my muse is prodding me with an idea.

      I love where you memoir is going...what you have shared so far is such an enjoyable read. As my mother used to say, “Your brother was not brought here by the police. Stop telling him that. We are his mother and father!”

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      William Leverne Smith 

      5 weeks ago from Hollister, MO

      Observations on mothers so right on the money. Did we all have the same Mom? There must be something instinctual about being a Mom. I have notices with Facebook posts of a number of cousins and nieces with new borns and young ones... how much they are really all alike at core. Amazing and wonderful, me thinks!! Guess those are Mother's Day comments a week or so late. Good job, to all you Mom's reading this!! ;-)

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      breakfastpop 

      5 weeks ago

      My Mom loved to say "lie down with dogs, wake up with fleas!

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      Shannon Henry 

      5 weeks ago from Texas

      I think perhaps this excerpt of yours is one of your best reflections yet!

      One thing my mother said often that I absolutely abhorred was "because I said so." I vowed I'd never use that phrase with my kids, but of course, I have when they relentlessly bug me for a "why" even after I gave them several reasons why.

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      Miebakagh Fiberesima 

      5 weeks ago from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA.

      The writer's mailbag is always interesting to me, and others. It is an inspirational tool.

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      Mary Wickison 

      5 weeks ago from Brazil

      Hi Bill,

      Thanks for that video about memoir writing. I have a friend who wants to write theirs and I think it will be helpful.

      I remember my mom saying, "be nice to your sister, she'll be bigger than you one day." Mom was right.

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      Ann Carr 

      5 weeks ago from SW England

      Yes, Linda! It was too complicated to explain!

      Of course you're smart, bill!

      Ann

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 weeks ago from USA

      Sometimes you have to break the rules, including the grammar and punctuation rules. Interesting question by Anonymous.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      5 weeks ago from Sunny Florida

      My mother had several sayings, but the one I disliked was "Do as I say, not as I do." I'm not sure anymore why I disliked it so much.

      You are very disciplined with keeping such a tight schedule, but in some recent rsearch I did having a schedule produced positive thoughts and results. You have accomplished so much in recent years my friend.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, my dad drilled that into my head...look them in the eye and shake....it's' as good a lesson as any in making a connection with someone. I for sure taught my son that one...and so it goes!

      Thanks for having my back with Maggie and Me...and I can't believe I knew something about POV that you didn't. I'm feeling quite smart today.

      Happy Monday my friend

      bill

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      I love it, Peg! That is classic! Do you understand me? LOL My son still says some things he heard me say when he was growing up. Hey, at least I know now he as listening. lol

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      For the love of God, Eric, get back out to that rainbow. Who knows how many more you'll see in this lifetime.

      Thanks buddy...it's always a blast hanging with you.

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      Linda Lum 

      5 weeks ago from Washington State, USA

      A note to Ann Carr--there is no doubt a generation (or two) that will not understand the phrase "keep your fingers out of the mangle." Unfortunately, I'm not that young.

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      Ann Carr 

      5 weeks ago from SW England

      I hope the questioner realises that 'Maggie and me' is permitted if you are both the objects of the sentence; e.g. 'They were speaking to Maggie and me.' No doubt that's the case but the niggle in my head just wanted to clarify!

      My Mum always told me, when I was introduced to people, to 'look them in the eye and shake their hands firmly'. It's stood me in good stead. Lots of my family have the 'it'll all come out in the wash'. I've always taken it to mean that the situation will become clearer and unravel itself, all to the good. But then I'm an eternal optimist! You just have to keep your fingers out of the mangle...!

      By the way, thanks for the explanation of the various 3rd persons. I've never come across the categories before.

      May you have a mind-bending Monday, bill (in a good way)!

      Ann

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Melissa, good morning and yes, right now, that's all the time I have allotted for creative writing. I'm sure I'll change that schedule in the next few months. Did you get the notice? The Shadows book is available as an ebook now.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Good morning Zulma! Toby is approaching the age where he can follow instructions and not be a major pain in my butt so yes,soon.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Linda, it's just a slow time for questions and interactions, I guess. We have periods like this, but we soldier on, my friend.

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      Peg Cole 

      5 weeks ago from Northeast of Dallas, Texas

      Hello Bill, Mom-isms are so great. Whenever we would ask her if we could do something, perhaps an outing to the local pool or whatever, she would answer, "We'll see." Usually it meant we had to do chores first.

      In her last few years of independent living, well into her eighties, she would ask me something and I would answer, "We'll see." Oh, how she laughed at that.

      "What goes around comes around," she would tell me.

      I enjoyed reading the excerpt. It is interesting when we grow to the point of seeing inconsistencies in our parents. And those of our own making. I remember seeing my 6 year old shaking his finger at the dog and shouting, "Do you understand me?" It was eye-opening to watch.

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      Eric Dierker 

      5 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I am dealing with good rain here. Us desert dwellers like to catch every drop for our gardens. Wet and fun and a rainbow to boot this morn.

      But I sit back and relax with my cup and am pleased to share a few moments with you. Thanks for spending your precious time with me.

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      Melissa Propp 

      5 weeks ago from Minnesota

      Happy Monday Bill! So if I understand you correctly, are you saying you get all your novel and short story writing done via 1 day a week? With an occasional weekend morning tossed in? That is amazing...and makes me realize I have even less of an excuse about not having enough time... lol

      Have a great and productive week!

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, that's a great one I haven't heard in a long, long time. A good reason for me to stay our of the kitchen. lol Happy Monday my friend.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Great minds think alike, Heidi! Thanks for taking the time from your busy day to stop by...have a great week.

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 

      5 weeks ago from United Kingdom

      People are complicated, no doubt. I understand what you mean about overlooking faults if there is more good than bad.

      My and my cousin's beliefs are as far apart on the spectrum as can be. She adores Trump and is pro-life, while I cannot abide the man and believe in having choices. Do I let this bother me? No. Because our differences are only skin deep. She is still a good person who loves animals and would help anyone in need. She's always been good to me so it's easy to let her political beliefs slide.

      Have a great week, Bill. I'm looking forward to our next walk with Maggie. Will Toby be joining us soon?

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      Linda Lum 

      5 weeks ago from Washington State, USA

      Good morning Bill. My mom (her birthday is today, by the way) I'm pretty sure was the one who invented "Just wait until you have children of your own." (I'm certain at that moment she was proud of whatever I had accomplished and hoped I would know the same level of joy LOL).

      Oh well, like you a stick to a schedule otherwise I would be an A.D.D. mess.

      Like your mailbag, my mailbox was almost echoing. (But you still had meatier questions that mine). Thanks for a good start to the week.

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      Janine Huldie 

      5 weeks ago from New York, New York

      Both my grandmother and mother said similarly to your mom. Plus, my grandmother's favorite saying was "Too many cooks in the kitchen!" So, there was that and you just brought me back this Monday morning thinking about that one. Great way to start the week as it made me smile more than you know. That said, Happy Monday and have a great week ahead now :)

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      Heidi Thorne 

      5 weeks ago from Chicago Area

      G'morning! Am I the first one in the Mailbag this week? Oh my! I'm catching up.

      Re: Work Schedule. Like you, I definitely have a work schedule each day. Some people think that's too rigid and doesn't feed our muses. I disagree. Without structure, I would get nothing done.

      Okay, now I gotta get to my work schedule. Have a great week!

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