ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Transitioning From A Stay-At-Home Mom To A Full Time Working Mom

Updated on September 3, 2012

I never knew how hard it was to spend so much time away from my family. My oldest daughter is 7 1/2 years old and I have been around all her life. Granted I had a job there for a little while but I was always home before the hubby got home from work. In Italy I had a full time job as well but it was doing Family Child Care out of my own home so I was always with my kids and hubby when he was home from work. This working all the time and only getting to see the kids an hour and a half before they have to be in bed is a lot harder then I thought it was going to be. With that being said, here's how we have learned to get through the new transition.

Our morning routine had to change since I now need to be to work by 630am. We get the kids up earlier and all have breakfast together since I don't normally get to have dinner with the family. The girls get on the bus at 640am so Daddy now gets to take them to the bus. When he has to be into work by 630 I can take the girls in to work with me and there is a van that will take them to school but with all the changes right now we want to keep as much the same as possible.

During the day the girls are at school and the boy gets to go to school now too. He doesn't like it. Not that he doesn't like going to school, he doesn't like being away from Mommy so much. I must admit I don't like it either. So when I am able to get out of work at 9 or 10am I normally pick him up and bring him home with me 2 or 3 days of the week. That way I get that little extra time with him since I know it is the hardest on him. I take him back to school around 2 and then get back to work!

Once the girls get out of school the van brings them to my work. It's really hard for me to have them in my class every day because I can't be the mom I am at home. We have to follow the lesson plan at my job and that isn't always something they wanted to do. Before when they got home I would always do something fun with them. A craft, project, read books, play games, something. So this too is taking a toll on my girls. At work I have them help me more. I let them pass out things we need for the other kids, plates, markers, etc. And by the time we are ready to go home at 630pm they have helped me sweep, vaccuum, clean the tables and chairs, even clean the toys. We make it "us" time and I really think they like that.

Some days Daddy is able to get off work before I do so he will come and pick up the kids so he can spend more time with them as well. With me working it seems we both get more one on one time with the kids which is nice but also sucks for spending family time together.

At night when I get home from work a little before 7pm the kids are already fed and running around. I get the fun parts of reading to them and getting them ready for bed. Doing baths, showers, cleaning of rooms, etc.

It's not until 830pm that I finally get to sit down on the couch with the hubby and just breath. This has been super hard on me because I've always been home with him when he is home. With his job and him being gone so much I've always cherished every second I had with him. Now it is even more precious since I'm not home until later now either. How have we come through this so far? Well, we talk a lot more. He likes to help me think of ideas for my class room and how to help make my days better. We are planning more stuff on the weekends as a family, that might mean the 5 of us sitting on the couch cuddled up in a blanket and watching a family movie. Any time I get to spend with my family I cherish even more now then I did before.

My advice to you if you are going through the same thing - take it one day at a time! It is beyond hard at first but it does get better and your family will get back into the swing of things. Remember that your hard work is getting paid for (if money is an issue) and that too will help you. Do the little things with your family that you didn't do before. Love your kids and your spouse no matter what. Don't let the little things ruin your day. And above all, smile, it really does make you feel better!!!

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment
    • CassyLu1981 profile imageAUTHOR

      CassyLu1981 

      7 years ago from Spring Lake, NC

      Thanks Jeannie! Somedays I'm not sure how I manage but I wouldn't change my life!

    • profile image

      Jeannie 

      7 years ago

      You are a very strong women cause i'm not sure i could do it alone alot and a mother your great i seen it myself. Cass your doing a good job raising your kids and you have a strong family relationship keep up the good work..

    • CassyLu1981 profile imageAUTHOR

      CassyLu1981 

      7 years ago from Spring Lake, NC

      Now if we can make it as many years (and more) as you and your hubby have, Thanks for the comment Tiffany!!

    • profile image

      Tiffany 

      7 years ago

      You are an awesome mother an wife!!

    • CassyLu1981 profile imageAUTHOR

      CassyLu1981 

      7 years ago from Spring Lake, NC

      It has been rough but it is definately getting better!!! I hope I can help someone with my experiance. Thanks for the comment and stopping by!

    • B. Leekley profile image

      Brian Leekley 

      7 years ago from Bainbridge Island, Washington, USA

      This is a well told and helpful by good example sharing of your experience.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
    ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)