VACILLATING FOOLS

Hi Share!

I love this poem. It's so true! I know quite a few people like this. My husband for one. He's a Libra. Need I say more? hehe (:

I like to make up my mind right quick one way or the other (that doesn't mean I always make the RIGHT decisions though) and he ALWAYS takes several whole seconds (like...forever) to respond, even to the simplest of questions. It's so aggravating when I'm late running out the door to work and stupidly, forgettingly, regretfully ask him something and then he hem-haws around for what seems an eternity. aaarrrggghhh!!! (: I'd just tell him to call me on my cell phone when he's ready with his answer. I finally stopped asking him anything when I already feel rushed. It's much less stressful that way. (: Although, I should probably follow his queue and not be so quick in my decision making. I've made some real bad decision making "doozie's" lately. ...jeeesh.

Voted UP, U, F and A.

Take care, sweets,

Diana

Very good hub Sharon, you describe me and my decision making skills to the T, I often wonder about the decisions I'am faced with everyday and if I'm making the right choices.

Hi Sharyn. I guess it all goes back to "someone's old saying, especially when you add children in the mix. "Don't say anything if you cannot say something nice." So if you are giving a child constructive criticism, make sure it is nice.

I used to be a toastmaster and sometimes we had to critique someone else's speech. We were taught to sandwich. That is, say something good about the speech, insert a criticism that would be helpful and then say something else nice about the speech. Rarely was this a hard thing to do. I think we need to teach our children and each other in this way. It does build a self-confidence that is almost unshakable.

Great poem and good message. Being scattered in thought comes to all of us at one time or another. It is most helpful, however, to not make it a way of life.

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Sharyn - you really know how to make poetry relatable:). Gosh everyone must have times like this - I have and it's usually when I shouldn't make decisions for my self. Ambivalence!

Good hub!!

It's better to risk the embarrassment, than to wonder what might have been. Words to live by but sometimes hard. I try to let go of what others might think. But then I think screw them and wear to different brightly colored socks!

Wow Sharyn, you must have been a fly on my wall this last year..it is hard to know if a decesion is right or not..I guess we step out in faith, pray, and then pray somemore..I use to worry which nursing job to take then i realized it really didn't matter as long as my heart was right while i did the job. But as humans we worry..and sometimes it just is hard not to do..Going with our gut feeling is usually the right path. Building confidence is something that does not come easy for me..in time I hope I will have more..Thanks for a great poem with much thought..

God Bless,

Sunnie

Wow, Sharyn, this Poem could be Me...how well you describe most of us in, "Vacillating Fools...Two Thumbs Up...I think?? Can't make a decision, only kidding!

I can really relate to this Sharyn, we always hear "Make good decisions" but my decisions have usually turned out to be bad so I am always indecisive now, then my Dad tells me to "do something, then you will feel better" but what if it is the wrong "something"....very frustrating!

Thanks for sharing this and all these great comments everyone. Rated up and awesome and useful!

Sharyn, I can definitely relate! For every decision, I see both sides. You can definitely be TOO open-minded. You have expressed the frustration of indecision very well. Great poem!

Dear Sharyn,

Wow, this is an article I am super glad to be checking in on later; because, once again, the comments/ your responses are awesome, as is your subject matter! And I am very decisive about this!

I was exceedingly guilty of wanting to please the world before myself. It is surely hard to be a boss, a family member, even a member of society, when you are always last. Then one day, out of the blue, my world turned upside down and I almost died. A lingering effect is to maintain self care. When I focus on myself (and this by no means is selfish, I am good to a lot of people), I am able to make decisions effectively and efficiently.

I actually do a mental "Thelma and Louise" (last scene) if I am tempted to revert back to old habits, as I am only human. Being a woman and a nurse, I still want to cure world hunger!

Anyway, please be good to youself. You know what you really want so just do it! Love you, Maria

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Let the kids help in lesser family decisions - if they turn out wrong, OK, but no recriminations. Learn from experience. Give them gradually more important decisions. They'll learn. The important point: listen to them and treat them as important members of the family. Easy to say; hard to do. Love your poem!

Sharon, I know just what you mean! Er...I think I know what you mean. But what if I didn't understand what you said and just think I did? Then if I say I agree, does it sound like I think you are actually indecisive? Or that I am? Or that we both are and I'm just commiserating? Then how will that sound to others? Is it too exclusive? Does it forbid others to enter our inner sanctum of indecisiveness?

Kidding aside, how many of us go through that ridiculous process before we even do something as simple as comment on a hub? What a perfect poem you've written! Thank you for the inspiration to simply pick a direction and go without putting all the possibilities for every action under a 30X scope.

Sharyn, I think far more people can relate to this than you would ever guess. The decisive ones among us are just better at hiding these feelings! Nice work on this one.

We make life so much harder than necessary. I ask my son a question and he begins with a long explanation. I interrupt with, "You or no Buddy, it is yes or no."

This was good to read as I sit here looking out on a green dogwood tree. I shall ponder this for a while.

Oh Sharyn this poem is so true. Reminds me of me. I am the most indecisive person I have ever met. I can talk myself and talk myself out of something so easily. I am post marking this one, and claiming it as my downfall lol

Sharyn and others; I actually think that just being supportive, listening, hearing, truly caring about and taking children seriously during their developmental years is of ultimate importance. How many people are seen yelling and screaming at innocent kids just because they, themselves, are in a hurried, harried, short of time and temper? Kids are very intuitive and know when someone is not being true or honest; they can read phony expressions and words pretty easily; pretty quickly. to feel loved, cared about and important by parents and significant people in a child's life is so very essential. All is needed, in most situations (I believe) is for the parents to really have wanted the child and to really love that child once born. Of course, this isn't always the case and, as you have pointed out Sharyn; perhaps there are methods to instill self confidence and self 'liking' in young ones in a very natural way so that the child grows into a natural state of self appreciation and esteem. Earned! Yes! This comes later, when a child has the opportunity to begin to develop talents, abilities and expressions of individuality...as an older child and teenager.

Ps...I had fun w/the first comment...yes..it's a beautiful day in the neighborhood!

I have a co-worker who is like that...come to think of it, I know quite a few people like that. I love the way you put the words together. Nice!

Hi Sharyn. Oh, boy! Does this one sting! Yes, I am guilty of wondering "what others will think...," feeling unsure, unfit, unable! Add to that a big dose of procrastination and self doubt...mix in some insecurity and self loathing and...voila...what a STRANGE BREW has been created! Actually, not that bad but...sometimes...well, on the other hand; it's "kinda like this..." or not..let me rethink that.." "but, if you look at it from THIS side.." I'll get back to you..."

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Well, I really like your full on frontal attack on this subject :) but I do not believe you can teach self esteem in school by constantly telling kids how great they are. I see that a lot lately, every little single thing they do they are told how great it is. I say make them really accomplish something, something difficult, that's where real self esteem comes from and let them fail too. Make them solve problems and deal with big challenges.

Well, anyway that's how I see it. I happen to have three high achiever sons who do things like design the Biltmore Spas,hold executive positions at large corporations and open their own businesses. Their single momma cut them no slack.

To be or not to be? - BE.

Interesting Slant.