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Why Do We Get Mad ?

Updated on December 5, 2012

Stranger Than Fiction

I can think of know other reason

There is no purpose in it

It never solves any problem

It just makes everyone all riled up and aggrivated

We often say things we don't mean and can't take back

Someone ends up in tears and the other person ends up yelling in someones ear

Our emotions are out of control

We keep saying things back and forth

Trying to get in the last word

You think we would of learned by now

After being in hundreds if not thousands of situations

Where we have used the same skills

It is time to change all this

Let me take you to a place where I have been

Come along for the ride and see if you see what I see

A problem starts with a difference of opinion which is good

As long as we talk it out like two adults should

Then it gets heated as one person does not agree

This is where it gets tricky

Now it is like a bomb and the fuse has been lit

We can keep going and say some nasty things

Sooner or later the bomb will explode


We know the outcome is never nice

Lets stomp on the fuse together which many times won't happen

So at least throw the bomb far from here

Let it explode and now we have to pick up the pieces

No one got hurt and that's a good thing

Now lets pick apart the problem and see where the pain lies

What I said was.. and what was so wrong with that

It's not what you said but how you said it

You were yelling in my ear

You started first

I was making a point

You made your point clear when you started slamming things

Why break something then we both have to pay to get it fixed

That's not smart

Well I have told you before and you still don't listen

Every time you get in a mood you get real mad and all you see is red

I asked you to stop nicely you didn't

How could I when you act the same way as before

Nothing has changed and I don't have an answer to your problem right now

You want a quick answer and there is none to be found

You should of stopped what you were doing and the continue what you were doing later

When you have had time to cool down

You insisted everything has to be done now !

That is far from the truth

It is your way of compaining and if you don't stop I try to walk away


I have been here too many times and you only get upset and anything else said adds more fuel for the fire

You go one way and I go another

Nothing gets done

We hugged after and both said we are sorry

After awhile we don't even know what the problem was

Why were we fighting ?

I said this and you say that

We were we both fighting for the cause

Have we been trained over the years never to give in

Don't give up right or wrong

That's a sad thought that we had lost control

Even worse that we could hurt the one person we love so much

Are we really trying to drive each other crazy ?

Then hours later together acting as if nothing had ever happened

That is bizzare and not right

Until the next fight

I think we have to dig deeper so this problem doesn't come up again

My wife thinks we should just burry the hatchet deep in the woods

She says later and I know soon it will be forgotten

I think it is like eggs that go bad

They soon spoil and until the smell gets out of control

Then you both agree they are wrotten

No one lifts a finger and then it is too late

We repeat the cycle all over again

I will wait a few days and see if we can talk about it once more

Maybe once and for all we can close this door for sure


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    • DREAM ON profile imageAUTHOR

      DREAM ON 

      5 years ago

      Monis Mas I try to spend my life living and sharing all the best things in life.When bad things happen in my life and they do I try to work through them and find a lesson that I have learned and now get on with so many other good things in my life.Spending the time I have with the people that bring me the most joy.Either with family or friends.Time is to precious to waste and that is all I have to work with and the rest is up to me.Thanx for reading and sharing another day of my life.I hope this reaches you happy and healthy.Have a gret day.

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      5 years ago

      This is pretty powerful! Simple, but you have so much to tell here. "We often say things we don't mean and can't take back" - it happens to me way to often...

    • DREAM ON profile imageAUTHOR

      DREAM ON 

      6 years ago

      Emilyfed Life can be interesting or boring I choose interesting every time.I don't know where I will end up and I don't know where I am going.I do know my life is one long trip with a beginning and many stops along the way.Thanx for reading and sharing.

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      6 years ago

      Thank you DREAM ON for your heartwarming comment. Yes, I do believe each of us are different and we'll be the way they are. Just about to read your latest hub.

    • DREAM ON profile imageAUTHOR

      DREAM ON 

      6 years ago

      Gypsy Rose Lee I agree totally.There are situations where neither side wants to give an inch.Then I say come back later when there isn't all that emotion and try it one way then try it another.Both sides get to see which way is best.Thanx so much for sharing.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 

      6 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Anger is a very negative emotion and usually solves nothing but leaves bad feelings behind. I think the solution is to find a way to compromise or perhaps discuss without anger why it all happened in the first place.

    • DREAM ON profile imageAUTHOR

      DREAM ON 

      6 years ago

      Emilyfed Each of us express ourselves different.Your writings are fine just the way they are.I wish I could do what you do.I am just happy you could come around and read and have some fun too.To many more times and many more writings for both of us to share.Have a good night.

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      6 years ago

      Lovely, brilliant. Unlike me you've sat and made out the lines come out well. I just let mine flow out. You've racked your brains I see. But its lovely. Voted up and shared.

    • DREAM ON profile imageAUTHOR

      DREAM ON 

      6 years ago

      Eiddwen Life is too short to lose sight of what is important.Understanding why we get mad can help prevent this from happening again.If not at least we are aware of of the problem and we can slowly fix it.Thanx so much for reading.

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      6 years ago from Wales

      Brilliant as always;thanks for sharing and here's to a wonderful lead up to Christmas.

      I vote up and share.

      Enjoy your day.


    • DREAM ON profile imageAUTHOR

      DREAM ON 

      6 years ago

      shiningirisheyes I think if we can avoid the arguing and get right to how to make things better with the right amount of I love you's mixed in there would be no getting mad.Problem solved. I will give it a try.I will let you know.Thanx for the great advice.

    • shiningirisheyes profile image

      Shining Irish Eyes 

      6 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Great write about the emotions of human nature. Although we all argue and get mad from time to time it's the "I'm sorry" and "I love you" that counts.


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