Why Do We Get Mad ?
Stranger Than Fiction
I can think of know other reason
There is no purpose in it
It never solves any problem
It just makes everyone all riled up and aggrivated
We often say things we don't mean and can't take back
Someone ends up in tears and the other person ends up yelling in someones ear
Our emotions are out of control
We keep saying things back and forth
Trying to get in the last word
You think we would of learned by now
After being in hundreds if not thousands of situations
Where we have used the same skills
It is time to change all this
Let me take you to a place where I have been
Come along for the ride and see if you see what I see
A problem starts with a difference of opinion which is good
As long as we talk it out like two adults should
Then it gets heated as one person does not agree
This is where it gets tricky
Now it is like a bomb and the fuse has been lit
We can keep going and say some nasty things
Sooner or later the bomb will explode
Kaboom!!!!
We know the outcome is never nice
Lets stomp on the fuse together which many times won't happen
So at least throw the bomb far from here
Let it explode and now we have to pick up the pieces
No one got hurt and that's a good thing
Now lets pick apart the problem and see where the pain lies
What I said was.. and what was so wrong with that
It's not what you said but how you said it
You were yelling in my ear
You started first
I was making a point
You made your point clear when you started slamming things
Why break something then we both have to pay to get it fixed
That's not smart
Well I have told you before and you still don't listen
Every time you get in a mood you get real mad and all you see is red
I asked you to stop nicely you didn't
How could I when you act the same way as before
Nothing has changed and I don't have an answer to your problem right now
You want a quick answer and there is none to be found
You should of stopped what you were doing and the continue what you were doing later
When you have had time to cool down
You insisted everything has to be done now !
That is far from the truth
It is your way of compaining and if you don't stop I try to walk away
You say I AM TALKING TO YOU DON'T WALK AWAY
I have been here too many times and you only get upset and anything else said adds more fuel for the fire
You go one way and I go another
Nothing gets done
We hugged after and both said we are sorry
After awhile we don't even know what the problem was
Why were we fighting ?
I said this and you say that
We were we both fighting for the cause
Have we been trained over the years never to give in
Don't give up right or wrong
That's a sad thought that we had lost control
Even worse that we could hurt the one person we love so much
Are we really trying to drive each other crazy ?
Then hours later together acting as if nothing had ever happened
That is bizzare and not right
Until the next fight
I think we have to dig deeper so this problem doesn't come up again
My wife thinks we should just burry the hatchet deep in the woods
She says later and I know soon it will be forgotten
I think it is like eggs that go bad
They soon spoil and until the smell gets out of control
Then you both agree they are wrotten
No one lifts a finger and then it is too late
We repeat the cycle all over again
I will wait a few days and see if we can talk about it once more
Maybe once and for all we can close this door for sure