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Writing About My Own Experiences

Updated on March 20, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Writing clears the mind from funny thoughts

Do you Enjoy writing about own Experiences?

I have written of my experiences on hubpages and, have decided to write about my move from South Africa to Croatia. A different idea to share about my challenges in a foreign country.

As much as you have read here about my own experiences there is so much more to discover beyond the little details I shared on Hubpages.

I want people to know what happens when they choose to marry a foreigner. You can't help who you fall in love with and that shows in any marriage.

I knew I couldn't escape it!

Writing is from the heart and I know that from my experience in writing for Hubpages. The most difficult decision made when I had to move to Croatia. Everything disappeared from what I knew in my past life.

I now have the opportunity to tell my story.

You think it is nice and rosy to pick up your packed bags to leave your home country. It is not a good idea if you fail to do the research your host country.

To live in a foreign country that you haven't visited, or heard a lot of, and to start all over again is challenging.

The many obstacles can break your relationship or bring you together. Off-course you will experience issues in any marriage. Intercultural marriages requires more attention, communication, and understanding to know your partner well.

Raising children in different cultures can be an issue in the host country.

Most couples fail to adhere to these issues.

The good moments don't stay forever there is reality you know, and that is something many couples ignore in their relationships.

Writing came to me at a young age and I never chose to be a writer, I try to deliver what holds the attention of a reader's eye.

I write what I know and has affected me.

I took the plunge to write and release my thoughts and ideas and realized how much writing has helped me through all times. Because I wrote no matter how I felt whether, angry, sad, or upset about something I still managed to continue to write.

I cared for me to know more and to read more about myself. I do what I enjoy and love best that is to write and clear my mind of any troubled thought.

I didn't care about what people would say about my grammar, or the way I presented my work. I wrote to be heard and not to be looked down at as a writer. Critical views are welcome I need to learn about my work and from anyone with an honest mind.

My story is important in the way I told it and presented it out there.

I wrote and relived my experience altogether and that encourages readers to read more of what I penned on paper.

I wrote my story to share with you.

People have their fair share of troubles and interesting lives too as mine is to me.

I made sure not to be only descriptive but also prescriptive in my writing. My advise is to think long and hard before marrying a foreigner. Living away from family is a tough choice.

The challenges affect the family lifestyles in many ways.

The title: What Happens when you fall in love with a Foreigner is interesting, advisable and guides those who are interested in marrying a foreigner.

Writing has made me more positive and taught me many ideas and of new topics. My focus is on various topics but many are seldom explored.

I knew when I took on the responsibility of writing a book, it would be a lot to take on and to let others know of my move from one country to another.

To create a book and tell everyone of my rare experiences in my lifetime is not for every writer, unless you have something valuable to teach your readers it would be a good idea.

Would you write clearly, in discretion and redemptive?

A writer must write in all three at the same time.

I encourage readers to live again and to be positive in their dreams. To make readers believe in themselves and to have new choices in their lifestyles.

Village life is not about everybody's assumptions. I created my life in the village to be happy and free of stress.

I chose to walk daily and enjoy keeping fit. When I first started walking daily others looked at it as if it is a silly idea. It is strange for people to take daily walks in these areas. It didn't bother me because keeping active daily is important. The mindset of the local people are different to mine. Walking daily is not on their agenda.

Lately, I noticed the locals have picked up my healthy advise and have started walking daily. Just little strolls but it is interesting to see how they have picked up my habit of walking.

I had to put up with many types of behaviors in people and have ignored what did not affect or hurt me.

What others say and do if it doesn't concern me, then I don't care.

Sometimes everything feels as a never ending struggle. The pressure gets higher people go on gossiping about their acquaintances and think nothing of their harsh words.

Often, I wonder how is it that those people go to sleep at night with such horrid thoughts.

They show their false side to people when together and in need of a favor and turn their backs on each other when they got what they needed from that person.

People are the same every where!

Over the years, I learned of the behaviors of many people and realized nobody can change the mindset of others.

If they choose to change their thoughts and ideas then good for them too.

Whether you love each other or don't, and no matter what happens, or how much you love each other change is not for everyone.

However, some people think they can change others this is not a happy experience for the one forced to change their habits.

You can have admirers and feel that person likes you but once your back is turned they start their gossip about you.

Would you feel guilty to have gossiped about another individual?

How do they see themselves in the mirror once the person has left their home?

False conversations are under great pretenses.

Pretenders show their false behaviors to like the other person while they are together at a function and talk about them when they leave the function.

I had that happen to me a few a couple of times.

I attended functions and on my way out over heard the woman of the house gossiping about me. She had no idea I was just out the door where I could hear her gossip. People like this are not friends.

I did not confront her just left thinking what she thought of me. In a way it was good to hear it.

Gossip can be good or bad about someone and in my case it was good gossip.

Is gossip good or bad for your friends?

True people don't gossip bad stuff about their friends.

No matter what you write or what you have written don't give up on writing.

Every day has a new lesson to be learned.

You can make use of that lesson or don't pay attention to that lesson at all.

The powerful step to start the moment you have the idea discuss further on similar topics.

The downside in promoting my book is living in a non-English speaking country. Online marketing is helpful though not to my satisfaction. I shared my feelings in writing and of people's behaviors.

The people I met have showed me their personalities in false and in truth. I believe in an honest view from you.

We have our own skills in everything we do. What makes us happy won't make everybody happy in the same way. Be your true-self and live happy for each day.

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      Devika Primić 2 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Audrey Hunt I appreciate your comments. Best wishes to you.

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      Audrey Hunt 2 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Thank you Devika for these lovely thoughts. I find that writing about my personal experiences is therapeutic. It was through writing poetry about the loss of my beautiful son that helped me through those difficult times. I'll always be thankful to HubPages for this.


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      Devika Primić 5 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi I started writing about my experiences since my move to Croatia. Before that I didn't take writing seriously. I realize that writing is my way of keeping positive and off-course making my life a positive one by focusing on a less stressful lifestyle. I appreciate your comment. Thank you

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      lovetherain 5 months ago from Untited States

      I write about my personal experiences all the time.

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      Devika Primić 24 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Peggy W thank you for an encouraging comment and you know exactly what I mean here.

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      Peggy Woods 24 months ago from Houston, Texas

      You have to be true to yourself no matter where you live or what the circumstances happen to be. I think that many of us write about what we know including our personal experiences. Keep up your positive attitude!

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rajan jolly thank you very much for commenting always good to read your opinions.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 2 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      I agree one has to carry on doing what makes one happy irrespective of what others think about it if it does not hurt them. To keep oneself happy is of utmost importance if one is to remain in a positive frame of mind. Glad your writing too reflects this thought of yours.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      swalia thank you

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      Shaloo Walia 2 years ago from India

      All the best for your upcoming book!

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora thank you very much I am excited and positive about my work. All my best to you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Beata Stasak thank you very much.

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I glad that some of the local people have copied your idea of taking a daily walk. What a wonderful habit to pass along to them!

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      Dora Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, you seem to have all the basics on how to enjoy life despite all kinds of adversities. Thanks for sharing from our own experience. Hope your book is successful. I like all your quotes on writing.

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      Beata Stasak 2 years ago from Western Australia

      Good luck my fellow huber, may all your dreams come true and may my ancestors in Croatia bring you good fortune:)

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Beata Stasak, I moved to the southeastern part of Croatia fourteen years ago. My new book coming soon about my experiences from South Africa to Croatia. Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring thank you and so kind of you to stop by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ericdierker thank you and so glad you came by.

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      Beata Stasak 2 years ago from Western Australia

      Very interesting Devika so you have moved to the land of my ancestors:) Hope you enjoying living there:)...B

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I think in reality people are pretty much alike. I have told my life story and then moved on to write poetry and fiction. I love to write. Writing about personal experiences is like a catharsis..

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      A wonderful hub. I think I pretty much always write about my experiences. It is just the kind of writing that I do.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      hI billybuc thank you for the constant support.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      When you wrote people are the same everywhere there was great truth in that. I have written often about my life and it has always been well-received, for that very reason.