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The Virtuous Woman ~ Book Review

Updated on February 24, 2015

Shattering the Superwoman Myth

Being a Virtuous Woman wasn't on my list when I was a young bride, how about you?

As a matter of fact, washing dishes with no dishwasher, doing laundry by hand (sheets are a no-no) and cooking 1,095 meals a year are just too much pressure.

Before I was married I would watch how my sister was in keeping her house. She seemed "obsessed" to me and wouldn't even leave the home unless her entire house was in order. How can a person love mopping floors every day? It was unnatural to me.

When I got married I made sure my husband knew I was married to him and not the house. Now don't get me wrong. I keep a pretty good house, but it's not the main thing in my life.

So when did this need to be a Virtuous Woman creep into my thinking?

How would a woman like me with my mind set, fulfill Proverbs 31 in my life?

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Not Another Book

I first came across The Virtuous Woman by Vicki Courtney, accidentally. While in a Bible book store I saw it in a sale aisle. As a woman, this got my attention, but the minister and counselor part bought the book ... so I thought. Reading through the Table of Contents I came to realize the commonality I have with other women.

Vicki Courtney shares her feelings and destroys the myth that God wants designer, cookie cutter, super women. He has set a virtuous woman inside us all; we only need to look at His wonderful creation.

The Virtuous Woman: Shattering the Superwoman Myth

How do you feel when you think of the Proverbs 31 woman? Does it overwhelm you, make you feel guilty and like a failure?

Christian women have gotten the wrong concept when it comes to being the Virtuous Woman God really wants.


The Virtuous Woman: Shattering the Superwoman Myth


Chapter by Chapter ~ A Few Highlights

  1. "There is no such thing as the perfect wife" (Chapter 1) or the ideal woman. Measuring ourselves by the world's standards and not God's, gets you into a heap of trouble, guilt and self-doubt. Being a Virtuous Woman begins from changing our hearts (Hosea 10:12 see book p 22).

  2. Chapter 2: Discusses "Finding self-worth" based on who God says you are (Proverbs 31:10b). Deep inside every one is a need to feel loved, worthy and valued. God says we are worth more than precious rubies to Him, so why do we want to measure up to the world's standards if we are already precious gems?

  3. Chapter 3: Proverbs 31:13-18 talks about a woman who is very aware of her time. We often waste time trying to be more efficient. The Virtuous Woman is organized and efficient, but in the ways of God.

    When she does things His way, her own house falls into line. His way brings relief and ease. Learning to say no and stop over scheduling takes the pressure off of being a world's woman. I have learned that if I give my time to God, He works in everything I need to do for that day.

  4. Chapter 4: Being a virtuous woman won't be easy so, "wimps need not apply." (Proverbs 31:16-17) Saying yes to God, when the world is shouting no, takes godly strength. Sometimes the only encouragement we get is from ourselves. King David often had to do this and so will we if we are to keep our sanity.

  5. Chapter 6: (Yes, I skipped Chapter 5) Is there a joy stealer in your house? (Proverbs 31:25b) What steals your joy? Learn to recognize the robbers in your life and take back the joy God gave you as a gift from His Spirit (the Bible in Galatians Chapter 5:22-23).

Virtue doesn’t emerge from a

to-do list ... it begins in the heart.

— Vicki Courtney

Other topics included in this book:

  • Gaining wisdom to apply knowledge.

  • What exactly does it mean to be "good"?

  • How does respecting and honoring your spouse effect your being virtuous?

  • Allowing God to rule your emotions.

  • Quality vs. quantity of a Virtuous Woman.

  • Leaving a legacy that matters. The crowning glory. (What will people most remember about you?) I had to ask myself this question: Can I be the Virtuous Woman my mom was?

Image Courtesy of Vicki Courtney
Image Courtesy of Vicki Courtney

About Vicki Courtney

Vicki Courtney is the founder of

Virtuous Reality Ministries an online magazine

for women and girls.

She is a speaker and best-selling author.

Internationally known, Mrs. Courtney has made appearances on television shows, CNN and Fox News, with special radio broadcasts as well.

Vicki lives in Austin, Texas with her husband and three children.

Visit her website.

Vicki Courtney Books & Study Guides - Look for more items by this author.

It's ok, put the mop away!

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      Camden1 5 years ago

      The start of the New Year always makes me think about the kind of wife, mother, friend and woman I want to be. Proverbs 31 sets a high goal to aim for! (Although surely I can substitute "buying clothes" for "sewing clothes" in these modern times)...

      It sounds like The Virtuous Woman would be a very helpful read in my quest to better myself.

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      Fay Favored 5 years ago from USA

      @Anna2of5: You're not alone in trying to succeed at being the Proverbs 31 woman. Thankfully the cross took away any short comings we may have, and we can enjoy being the woman God meant us to be. Appreciate your visit Anna.

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      Fay Favored 5 years ago from USA

      @Glenda Motsavage: I agree, we're always trying to do more when God just wants us.

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      Fay Favored 5 years ago from USA

      @EpicFarms: Thank you I appreciate it.

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      Anna2of5 5 years ago

      It looks like a good read and if it can help me to deal with the Prov. 31 problem then yes! Prov. 31 has always been a daunting one for me. I have tried to keep up with her schedule and man, if I I wasn't before that Alone could do it. She's up late, up early, drags the food back from far flung places, sews knits/makes tapestry/banners, is a good businesswoman, a part time farmer, Has money enough to by good cloth for her clothing, and her children's warm things, feeds her maidservants, so she must be able to pay her maidservants or they'd Leave. Prob good at negotiating, does a lot of this with her man at the gates and not there with her...the list goes on and on, its terrible to try to keep up with that when I had No role model at all. Yeah it's a toughie. Maybe the book tackles some of that? maybe? Hope-hope

      Sincerely, Anna2of5

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      Glenda Motsavage 5 years ago from The Sunshine State

      Thanks for the great review. One of my favorite (and most challenging) passages in the bible. I always strive to be a "Proverbs 31 Woman!" Blessings!

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      EpicFarms 5 years ago

      Yes I did; I'll definitely have to check out this book. Nicely done lens (and I voted for it, too ;o)