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Updated on December 23, 2012

Love In its Youth

Young, Beautiful...In it's full splendor
Young, Beautiful...In it's full splendor | Source

When YOU First Fall In Love...CRAZY BLINDING LOVE.

I started this hub as an answer to the question "When you first know you love someone which comes first respect, trust or the love you have for them?" by fellow hubber Diane Woodson. My original answer was "I SAY LOVE...BLINDING, TRUSTING, CRAZY LOVE." then I added...


As I further read the details of her question which had to do with helping people have an enduring relationship, I decided to add this to my answer.

"however, it will not endure if not properly nourished and protected."

There is a difference between the love you feel when you first fall in love and enduring love.

When I talk about Love in this article I am referring to the kind of love that happens when you first see someone and you get completely spun-out-of control by crazy, amazing feelings and sensations. I am talking about love AT FIRST Sight, not the kind of love that grows slowly over the years of knowing someone--it simmers and rolls over the road of experiences together.

I am talking about HOT, PASSIONATE, SENSELESS LOVE! the kind of love that burns, starves, and keeps you up all night-- thinking about the object of your obcession. Did I say obcession? I sure did...It is obcessive and jelous. It does not want anyone else touching or looking at what is so precious, and rare and desirable to you. This LOVE strikes immediately and without warning. You can't help but know you are in love, because it isn't about logical is about overwhelming feelings that you've never felt before.

And there lies the ASWER to the question. The answer being LOVE...when you feel that kind of love, it encompasses trust and respect. The wonderful feelings, emotions, and sensations OVERPOWER logic and reason. You trust with all your heart that the one you love will never hurt you, you respect whatever they do and say no matter what, even to the point of it possibly being harmful to you, BECAUSE you are in LOVE...CRAZY BLINDING LOVE.

It is like the beautiful flower in its splendor and youth when it first blooms.

and like that flower...over time, through the storms of life, it may wilt and die.

Have YOU experienced love at FIRST SIGHT?

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ThroughThe Storms Of Life

enduring love makes it through the storms of life
enduring love makes it through the storms of life | Source


ENDURING LOVE can start as either CRAZY BLINDING LOVE or slowly growing-over-time Love. The key word is enduring. The original feelings of crazy love will usually dull and fade over time, whereas ENDURING love will usually increase and get stronger over time based on all of those things people have mentioned in the answer to Diane Woodson's question. Those things being mutual, unbroken trust (notice the words unbroken and mutual), mutual respect, mutual good communication, mutual financial agreement and stability, mutual agreement in raising children, shared interests, shared faith or beliefs, etc.

To those things I would like to add some things I've seen couples do that work to create enduring love and when not practiced will lead to dying love. I will write another hub...stay tuned.

A Dying Love

If not nourished love withers and dies
If not nourished love withers and dies | Source



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      crazymom3 5 years ago

      Thank you so much vrvmft. Glad you enjoyed it. I think you are right. I think anyone who has ever been in romantic love can relate to this and those who haven't have something to look forward to and compare it to.

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      Vernon Bradley 5 years ago from Yucaipa, California

      You certainly describe blinding love well--spun out of control. That is an interesting phrase when you look at it!

      I think there is so much about love that we still do not know, perhaps not even have experienced because of this awesome experience of attachment in the first nine months of life that many of us, because it is simply an imperfect world, do not experience to the fullest. No blame here. It's just how it is. But when one can become conscious of his or her attachment wounds and set out on a journey to heal, I think it then becomes possible to not only fall in love with all that blind passion but also to have and use the internal resources to keep it blooming through both wind, storm, summer, and winter.

      Thanks for a delightful hub and I like your photos.


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      crazymom3 5 years ago

      Thank You miss Brooks so glad you enjoy it. Love at first sight is scary yet exciting! Best wishes!

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      wow I love your did I miss this wonderful hub..? the answer to your question yes I have had love at first sight.. sometimes you don't want to believe it or scared of it but when it is real you just know it.'



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      Diane Minton 5 years ago from Evansville, Indiana

      Thanks for mentining my question, so sweet..I don't quuite describe love as an obsession, however the way you express it sure does sound like what I have had for years. I miss him so bad when he has to do work and is far away, even for the day and not out of town, so I have it, it drives you crazy almost, but its a good crazy?? Is this what you are describing, mad one minute, not the next, never upset with him for more than a nanosecond! I love being friends with you and this other girl who writes me a bit. You guys are so cool and I feel like I did when I got my scholarship at USI a few years ago at 50. Jeepers, Life is great with friends like you to enjoy writing here with!! take care...write as you like...happy hubbing and what a beauty this one is that you just posted!!!!