CRAZY Blinding Love...ENDURING LOVE

I started this hub as an answer to the question "When you first know you love someone which comes first respect, trust or the love you have for them?" by fellow hubber Diane Woodson. My original answer was "I SAY LOVE...BLINDING, TRUSTING, CRAZY LOVE." then I added...

"WHICH DRIVES YOU TO DO EVERYTHING EVEN RESPECT --WETHER DESERVED OR NOT...LOVE. "

As I further read the details of her question which had to do with helping people have an enduring relationship, I decided to add this to my answer.

"however, it will not endure if not properly nourished and protected."

There is a difference between the love you feel when you first fall in love and enduring love.

When I talk about Love in this article I am referring to the kind of love that happens when you first see someone and you get completely spun-out-of control by crazy, amazing feelings and sensations. I am talking about love AT FIRST Sight, not the kind of love that grows slowly over the years of knowing someone--it simmers and rolls over the road of experiences together.

I am talking about HOT, PASSIONATE, SENSELESS LOVE! the kind of love that burns, starves, and keeps you up all night-- thinking about the object of your obcession. Did I say obcession? I sure did...It is obcessive and jelous. It does not want anyone else touching or looking at what is so precious, and rare and desirable to you. This LOVE strikes immediately and without warning. You can't help but know you are in love, because it isn't about logical awareness...it is about overwhelming feelings that you've never felt before.

And there lies the ASWER to the question. The answer being LOVE...when you feel that kind of love, it encompasses trust and respect. The wonderful feelings, emotions, and sensations OVERPOWER logic and reason. You trust with all your heart that the one you love will never hurt you, you respect whatever they do and say no matter what, even to the point of it possibly being harmful to you, BECAUSE you are in LOVE...CRAZY BLINDING LOVE.

It is like the beautiful flower in its splendor and youth when it first blooms.

and like that flower...over time, through the storms of life, it may wilt and die.

ENDURING LOVE can start as either CRAZY BLINDING LOVE or slowly growing-over-time Love. The key word is enduring. The original feelings of crazy love will usually dull and fade over time, whereas ENDURING love will usually increase and get stronger over time based on all of those things people have mentioned in the answer to Diane Woodson's question. Those things being mutual, unbroken trust (notice the words unbroken and mutual), mutual respect, mutual good communication, mutual financial agreement and stability, mutual agreement in raising children, shared interests, shared faith or beliefs, etc.

To those things I would like to add some things I've seen couples do that work to create enduring love and when not practiced will lead to dying love. I will write another hub...stay tuned.