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When People Cared.....

Updated on May 5, 2021
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I have three children and seven grandchildren. I worked full time while raising my family. I have been there.

I will come over, but only if you have coffee. (This is Shadow)
I will come over, but only if you have coffee. (This is Shadow) | Source

Once Upon A Time

Everyone helped everyone else, once upon a time, and it was a pleasant world. A world where:

  1. People helped out during emergencies (and not just family).
  2. People took the time to say "Hi, how are you doing," and really wanted to know.
  3. Handmade Halloween treats could be handed out to pretend characters, and they were safe to eat.
  4. Neighbors said hi and really did have coffee together.
  5. Business people really did have lunch with their friends (and they didn't charge it to the business either).

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So What Happened

Did everyone go to sleep one night and wake up different? No, it happened gradually. There have been so many financial and political problems coupled with war and starvation that some people didn't even know where their next meal was coming from.

Is that what happened? Did we all just have so many bad things happen that we just couldn't care anymore? Or did we just stop caring because everyone else did? Good questions. I wonder if any of us can answer them.

These were the good old days. (My Grandparents.)
These were the good old days. (My Grandparents.) | Source

The Good Old Days

Cola over ice on the porch swing. Fourth of July parades and BBQ's everywhere you look. Christmas smiles and warm greetings from friend, strangers, and even foes. Bike rides to the beach for swimming fun with friends. Trips to the ice cream place for ice cream and a ride in the back of the pick up. Jumping into Autumn leaves and sharing a plate of cookies your grandmother made for you and your friends.

I know some of these, probably most of these, couldn't be done by some readers; but I bet you have some great memories of your childhood days tucked way back in some corner of the library of your mind (hint: look under the cobwebs, they might be there).

Was it hard to care? Was it hard to help?

Why

You watch the news and see fraud, murder, hatred, bombs, and people who are supposed to be caring for our country being sent to jail for taking our money. I believe that people have begun to feel like they have been used and abused all these years. Wages, work ethics, ever growing demands at work, lack of good housing have caused people to fight for themselves.

That means now people are self-caring. No more helping others. Help yourself because everyone else does. I see it all the time. We of the present can't seem to emulate those in the past. We can't begin to remember our manners. We can't seem to see the other side of things. We can't figure out how to help without asking for something in return. We have lost the safe, comfy, and happy life we once enjoyed. We are breaking down like the bridge below. No maintenance. No weather protection. No help.

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Past and Present

Past:

  1. When neighbors spoke to one another, and were actual friends.
  2. Neighbors actually had parties together.
  3. They actually helped each other out when things went wrong.
  4. Neighbors cared about each other.
  5. It was a wonderful world to live in when people cared.

Present:

  1. There are verbal arguments about fence positions and where the dog poo'd.
  2. Complaint issues about noise, cars, people, types of food, even the type of party neighbors are having.
  3. No more help, only complaints.
  4. No more caring.
  5. Now we see more neighborhoods collapsing, fights between everyone, and terrible behaviors.

But I Have Hope

I know there are lots of people out there who still care about their neighbors and help others out when things are tight and all that. It just seems these days that such people are few and far between. Not because they can't, but because they are afraid to be considered vulnerable.

So this is a formal call for all of you out there who care about others, who care about morals and justice (okay I don't want to get too far into it), just rise up and tell everyone who you are. Offer help to that little old lady. Watch the back of your neighbor taking in the groceries. Keep an eye on the kids that are out playing. Call the police even if you aren't sure its really an emergency. Help. Try to get back to caring about your neighbor without fighting over the little things.

Just A Quick Note

In many cases, our neighbors just need a little reminder that others can; and are willing to, help.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2011 Cheryl Simonds

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      Stephanie Das 

      9 years ago from Miami, US

      I get this hub...it does feel that way sometimes. It's like no one has time anymore to just hang out. My parents always used to have their friends over for drinks ad dinner when I was little, and now it feels like everyone is too busy. Also, I remember feeling so safe running around on my own as a kid, and now I'm a paranoid adult, convinced that everyone wants to rob me (not terribly uncommon in the DC area...) ! I think we have to set aside time for friends and family, and create a lifestyle that includes downtime, social time, and neighborly love!

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      Paul Cronin 

      9 years ago from Winnipeg

      I know what you are saying, as a kid our doors were never locked, we played outside without adult supervision, slept in our yards in makeshift tents. No one had home alarm systems and no one ever got robbed or hurt. I miss those days, they were the best especially as a kid, we had so much more freedom because there were no safety concerns.

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