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Communication in Relationships

Updated on July 9, 2008

The Importance of Communication

We have all heard how important communication is. Talk show hosts, radio speakers, and all other types of individuals who deal directly with the media tell us every single day that in order for us to make certain that our relationships are healthy and productive, we must first learn the importance of communication.

So, what's so big about talking anyway? Is communication just talking? Is that it? I mean, do people really have an issue with talking? I found myself perplexed by communication in relationships...I mean; everyone is making such a big deal out of it and making it seem complicated. Maybe I was missing the big picture. I set out to research this topic, and would like to share with you some of the information that I discovered.

The Problem

In talking to some people that I know personally, and others that I know only as acquaintances, I did in fact discover that there are some problems caused by the inability to talk to others that they share relationships with. For one, communication is not just about talking, it is about listening too!

I found out that a great deal of people do not have a problem with the "talking" aspect of their relationship, but that they have a problem with the "listening" aspect of the relationship. When someone is in a relationship, and they do not feel as if the other individual "listens" to them, it can cause a lot of problems.

This applies to Every Relationship

Now, I discovered that this does not just go for intimate relationships. It goes for relationships with family members, friends, coworkers, neighbors, and all the other relationships that we find ourselves involved in. If there is a problem when it comes to communication, all of these relationships can be broken down in many ways.

Why You Need effective Communication Skills..

In order to increase the productivity of all of your relationships, it is absolutely essential to ensure that you develop effective communication skills. The following lists some wonderful methods that you can use in order to increase your effectiveness as a person who communicates well and is receptive to the communication levels of other individuals:

An Important Relationship Communication Skill

1. Now, when you talk to another person, it is important that you keep your attention focused. There are some things that you should work on.

Let's start with body language. It is important to ensure that you do not only listen to the words that another person is speaking, but that you also look at how they are saying them. Observe their body language, and their facial expressions. This will allow you to get the full scope of what they are saying.

Listening skills

2. The next thing that you want to do is actually listen to the individual that is talking to you. Do not allow your mind to move on to what you want to say next, just relax and cross that bridge when you get there. Try not to allow yourself to become defensive, irritated, and above all, never interrupt. This way, it is quite possible to hear everything that is being said, and understand it.

Relationship Communication Skills- Reflective listening

3. The next step to effective communication is natural reflection. It is important to reflect back what someone says to you. Not only does this show that you truly heard what was said, but it conveys an understanding of what was said to the other person, as well as yourself.

When communicating, it is important to try to put forth the effort to completely understand what is being communicated. Ask questions, clarify, reflect - all of these elements will ensure that you are able to communicate with another person easily.

Be Aware of How Your Answers Will Affect The Result

5. When engaged in communication, it is important to avoid the temptation of using "you" statements. Instead of saying something like "You just don't listen", rephrase it to something like "I feel as if I am not being heard appropriately". This helps to take the edge off of any potential conflict.

Concluding Thoughts...

In conclusion, I have discovered that all that talk about communication is true - VERY true. You really should focus on the elements that are part of interacting with another....... talking..... body language..... facial expressions...emotions....words - everything! If you take the steps listed here and you apply them, it is very likely that you will succeed in all of the relationships that you are part of.


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      DeBorrah K Ogans 7 years ago

      Evelyne Draper, Nice Hub! You have made some very good points here! Communication is important! Thank you for sharing, Peace & Blessings!