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10 ways to make a great first impression on your future In-laws.

Updated on December 13, 2011

Meeting your future In-Laws for the very first time, can not only only be nerve wrecking, but it can also be hard, because it is the moment where you make your first impression on your boyfriends family.

Couples like to focus on how to make a great first impression together. From introducing each other to the immediate family members first, to giving each others parents a sentimental gift that comes from both of them.

While meeting the future In-laws for the first time can be hard because there are just so many things that people think about: what do I wear, how do I act, how do I communicate with them. the most important thing to remember about that moment is to just be calm, and be yourself.

When meeting the future In-laws for the first time there are some things that you can do to help.

  1. When meeting the mother of your other half, its all about the compliments. Make sure you compliment the mom. There is nothing sweeter and more kind heatedly than giving your future mother In-law a compliment. This shows her that you care enough to talk to her, and it's also a sign of respect. In many cultures, giving a compliment is very much like giving the family a gift.
  2. Take interest in your In-laws life. Don't be afraid of talking to your future In-laws about their life. This is a great way to get to know them more personally, and for them to see how well you can handle yourself.
  3. Join in on the family fun. If you are meeting your future In-laws, then it means that you are going to be a part of the family soon, so don't be afraid to join in on their family activities. You can be friendly with the family, and you can also join in on the family fun when is needed. There is no reason to alienate yourself from the family.
  4. Respect their Home. This is a big rule when it comes to meeting your In-laws for the first time. There is nothing worse than having house guest in your own home that do not take care of your furniture, or wash their dishes after they are done eating. If you don't like that, then don't do that in your In-laws house. Respect them and they will respect you in return.
  5. Dress for the occasion. Show class, yet be a bit formal. Unless you are meeting the parents over a picnic, dress up a little.
  6. Talk to the family. Conversation is incredibly important when it comes to the first meeting. This is the time when the family can see what you are all about, and can also see first hand all of the wonderful things that your other half has been telling them about this entire time. Don't be afraid to impress them either. This is the time when you should show them who you are, and what about you made your other half fall in love with you.
  7. Bring gifts. In many cultures, bringing gifts is a form of respect. The gift(s) doesn't have to be expensive, it just has to be thoughtful. In many cases a simple basket full of muffins, or a gift for the house is often appreciated.
  8. Do your Homework. Before going into your future In-laws house, be sure you know a little bit about them. Talk to your partner, and ask them about their parents' so you can get to know them better. This way when you meet them, you can talk to them more, and bond with them with more ease.
  9. Don't forget to talk to your Boyfriend or girlfriend while you are meeting your In-laws. While the focus of the first meeting is on getting to know your future family, you should also pay attention to your beau. This way the family can see why your boyfriend/girlfriend fell in love with you.
  10. Be genuine. There is nothing wrong with getting a bit nervous and trying to impress them, but it is also wrong to be someone that you aren't. Just be yourself, and do not try to put up a wall, or pretend to be "just like them". This doesn't work.

If you are still nervous about the first meeting, don't be. This doesn't have to be the most nerve wrecking thing in the world. This is supposed to be all about having fun, and getting to know your future family. Just remember to have fun, and relax!


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      5 years ago

      using all this tips.....this weekend...ope they work!

    • monicamelendez profile image


      6 years ago from Salt Lake City

      Great advice! Hopefully I can stay married so I won't have to do this ever again. It was definitely nerve racking the last time!

    • Jessi10 profile imageAUTHOR

      Jessica Rangel 

      6 years ago from Lancaster, CA

      Kathleen Kerswig: Thank you so much for reading my Hub. You're right, being genuine is extremely important. Too many people focus on trying to impress one another, and end up losing who they are in the process.

      iefox5: Thank you for your comment! I hope my hub helps you one day!

      shalycriston: Thank you for your vote!

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      Shaly Criston 

      6 years ago from USA

      Great Hub on informative topic, Voted up...

    • iefox5 profile image


      6 years ago

      Bookmarked this and would read again once I have a girlfriend, thanks :)

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      Kathleen Kerswig 

      6 years ago

      Being genuine works in every situation. If I can be myself and always respect those around me, then all is well. Thanks for sharing these great ideas. I know it always helps when I take an interest in other people and what they are doing with their lives. Good hub!

    • Jessi10 profile imageAUTHOR

      Jessica Rangel 

      6 years ago from Lancaster, CA

      No Problem! Glad you enjoyed it!

    • Ayanewylde profile image


      6 years ago

      Thanks for the advice!

    • Jessi10 profile imageAUTHOR

      Jessica Rangel 

      6 years ago from Lancaster, CA

      Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it!

    • alocsin profile image


      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      This is excellent advice applicable to both men and women. voting this Up and Useful.


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