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Living Simple: Five Steps Towards A Simple Life Installment Seven

Updated on November 1, 2012

OVERVIEW

There are many articles floating around the internet that will tell you how to save money on this, and save money on that, and I am all for those articles because I am all for frugal living and saving money.

This series of articles, however, is not so much about saving money as it is about improving your overall life. Consider it a written meditation for your mind, an attempt to alter your way of thinking as you go about your frenetic pace in today’s world.

Hurry….Hurry….Hurry! For those of us who are embracing a simple lifestyle, there is no hurry! I know that seems like a fabrication, but I assure you that it is, in fact, the truth. Imagine a life where things slow down considerably. Imagine a life where worry is lessened and peace of mind is increased.

If you can imagine it you can achieve it, but it takes a rewiring of your brain and its thought processes. The year is 2012, and the pace at which most people live is supersonic compared to the pace of life lived fifty years ago. Why is that? Have you ever given that some thought? Most who are reading this can either remember from personal experience the simpler times, or have talked to someone who lived during simpler times. When were those simpler times? Well, certainly during the 30’s, the 40’s, and the 50’s, life was less-hectic, but there seems to have been a gradual increase in activity and pace since then, and I suspect it is because of a number of factors.

Technology has advanced, the buying power of the dollar has decreased, people are running to and fro with seemingly no direction, and the phrase of the decade is “credit debt.” Divorce has increased, job security has decreased, pressures mount and self-confidence declines. There seems to be no time for anything of substance; we are a convenience society that lives with spiritual inconvenience.

And so some of us have said ENOUGH! Some of us have realized that we simply cannot keep up with this pace, not and live a long and happy life.

Some of us have embraced Living Simple!

What do I need?  Love, shelter, food....period!
What do I need? Love, shelter, food....period! | Source

PRACTICE MODERATION

How much is enough? As the holidays approach, this is a perfect time to ask this question. How much is enough? How many presents does it take to show one’s love for another? How much spending is required to display our innermost feelings?

How many possessions does one need? If we can all agree that possessions do not measure the value of life, then how many do we really need?

How many cigarettes are enough? How much booze and how many sweets?

How many chores do we really need to do, and how many errands are necessary? Compare all of that to how many minutes do we need to spend with loved ones, and then find some balance and practice moderation where it is needed.

My personal spending trigger
My personal spending trigger | Source

AVOID SPENDING TRIGGERS

Spending triggers differ for each of us. For some it might be as simple as a trip to the shopping mall to just “window shop.” For others it might be certain memories from years gone by. This calls for some self-reflection, but each of us can pinpoint situations that trigger in us the desire to spend.

For this writer it is something as simple as browsing ebay. I cannot seem to drift through that site without seeing something I am quite certain I need. Foolish of course, and to combat that foolishness I don’t allow myself the luxury of “window shopping” on ebay.

If it all came down to willpower, and we were properly supplied with ample willpower, then we would all buy what we need and leave the rest, but that’s just not the way we are wired. Thus, we must learn to avoid those situations, those triggers that ignite in us a desire to purchase that which is in no way necessary.

CULTIVATE A CONTENTED LIFESTYLE

Yes, life was simpler back in the day! Was it more contented? That seems to be a question that is rather subjective. I know our family lived a simple lifestyle when I was growing up; I’m not sure, however, that I would describe my mom and dad as contented. They were always trying to work more, earn more, obtain more, as if the joy in life was found in the quest of buying itself.

On the other hand, this writer lives a contented lifestyle. I lack for nothing. I name my own working hours and I spend quality time with the love of my life. I do not constantly strive for more of anything, and by not striving for more I in fact gain more….satisfaction!

What will it take for you to be contented? Again, it calls for a subjective answer, and the answer will differ for each person to a certain degree. Perhaps we need a definition to work with; according to dictionary.com, contentment is:

“thestateofbeingcontented; satisfaction; easeofmind.”

Now that definition puts a more focused slant on things, doesn’t it? What would it take for you to have ease of mind, for without ease of mind you can never live a simple lifestyle.

THINK SMALL

No, I’m not talking about small as in height; I am referring to society’s belief that bigger is better.

All bigger really means is you have more upkeep on whatever it is you have that is large. Big home? More cleaning! Big car? More gasoline and more expensive maintenance! Big and more possessions? More clutter! Big ego! Well, more headaches for sure!

Living Simple is exactly that…living simple! There is no need for big; there really is very little justification for big. When you begin the process of thinking small you begin the process of ridding yourself of added responsibilities.

My parents never had a big anything, but that didn’t stop them from wanting bigger, and that desire directly affected their level of contentment. That, my friends, is a shame!

Something to think about

Are you feeling contentment in life?

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EVALUATE YOUR LIFE

This is a biggie! I am of the belief that you reap what you sow in modern society, and I am also a strong believer in choosing to be happy.

If you do not feel respected then respect more. If you do not feel loved then love more. If you do not feel you have received your just due then give more.

If you are not happy then choose to be happy!

I know people who don’t have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of, and they are happy and contented in life. I have also known people who were wealthy and possessed all a man or woman would ever desire, and they were miserable.

Living Simple is about quality of life. If you do not like the quality of your life then change it, but remember always that happiness is an inside job! You cannot blame circumstances or other beings if you are unhappy. The bottom line is that you have chosen to be miserable and you hold the key to ending that misery.

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FINAL THOUGHTS

I remember as a teen during the 60’s witnessing incredible acts of horror and cruelty, hatred and vileness. I recall being shocked by it all, and wondering what happened to common decency and compassion.

I am more shocked by what I see today in the year 2012. Today I see fear; today I see indifference! Today I see an economic system on the brink of collapse and I see national leaders failing to lead. I see distrust on the most basic of levels, and I see millions of people searching for answers in all the wrong places.

I am convinced that the only solution is to simplify life and return, both individually and as a culture, to some very basic values.

What do you say? Are you ready to at least consider a simple life?

2012 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      SG, I think that's' fantastic; what a great lesson by example you are teaching your kids. Maybe they are a bit slow learning those lessons, like my son is, but they are learned. You should see our home; all used furniture, but we don't care. We don't owe and we are living a good life. :)

      Thank you my friend, and have a great week in Oklahoma!

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      Sheila Brown 5 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      I wish more of us thought like you do. Life was much simpler back in the 60's. We did't seem to want as much as we do now. Everyone is trying to keep up with the Jones. I drive an 8 year old car, that we paid $1,000. cash for! I still have most of the furniture I had when I was first married. If it works, why replace it? We can pay our bills every month and have money to put in savings and travel when we want. My kids are learning how to be frugal, but they still have a lot to learn. I love your hubs on living "the frugal" life. It all just makes so much sense! Voting up and awesome! :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Yvonne!

      I have allowed this to sit for several hours until I had the time to give it the time it deserved. Now is that time!

      Excellent points, all! Yes, I am in complete agreement, that there are those who are medically incapable of being happy, and for them there is no choice. I understand your point and stand corrected on that.

      No, I think greed is exactly the word that you should use when referring to wars. It was a rare war indeed that was not about greed in one form or another.

      I come from an interesting perspective. I have been in that dark hole where I could find not happiness; it was a repeating cycle that had no end, or so I thought. During that period of my life, it was most likely impossible for me to be truly happy. I had to reach the point of almost dying before I was able to start the process of re-wiring my brain and changing my thinking....and I know of no other way to describe that process other than choice. I could have chosen to remain in the darkness, or I could choose to start over and never return to that darkness. It is a choice I make every single day. I have not vanquished the monster; he sits patiently in the background waiting for me to allow him out again......so far I have not allowed that to happen.

      I greatly appreciate you taking the time to comment about something you obviously feel strongly about. It means a lot to me when someone does what you did, and it validates why I write in the first place....to make a human connection and to exchange ideas.

      So I thank you!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dianna, thank you for once again weighing in. Yes, sadly, some simply do not know who to be happy. As Yvonne pointed out, some are unable to be happy, and that truly makes me sad. This was aimed at those who have a choice in the matter but for whatever reason choose to see the negatives in life. I've been there, done that, and I'm not going back again.

      Thank you Dianna!

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Living a happy life is subjective. Some do not know how to analyze life for meaning, some don't care. Your series is making people think about what it will take to make them happy. I agree that we must return to the simpler way of life, it is peaceful and meaninful.

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      Yvonne Spence 5 years ago from UK

      Bill, there's a lot of wisdom in this hub. I've had it sitting open since yesterday because I wanted to write a response that does it justice. I particularly like that although you suggest living a simple life you don't pretend your parents were content. Far too often people hark back to a bygone era as if it somehow was way better. But people have wanted more and bigger for centuries. Most wars have had greed involved at some point - or maybe greed isn't the right word: maybe it would be more accurate to say wanting, a sense of lack. Without that sense of lack, there would be no need to want more.

      I also think SilverGenes' point is a valid one: sometimes the lack is painfully real. A few days ago I read a newspaper article about families in the UK in poverty. There is a belief that people scrounge benefits (and some do) and then there are working families living on a £7.70 (around $12) a week after they have paid their rent.

      I think there's much to be said for Maslow's theory that only when a person's basic needs have been met can they progress to meet their needs for self-actualisation (personal growth etc.) But how that happens possibly varies from individual to individual. Maslow noted that our society rewards achieving the needs of esteem (success, independence etc) rather than self-actualisation, and so few people reach this level.

      It does, as you say require a different way of thinking. I've written about this before, about noticing what we really want all the material goods for - and of course it's so that we will feel happy, good about ourselves. Seeing that does make it easier to let go of striving I think.

      The one point you've made with which I'm going to respectfully - disagree isn't the right word - question perhaps is closer - is where you say that we can choose to be happy. To some extent that's true, but we can only choose that when our minds are clear enough. I have a sibling with mental illness who could no more choose happiness than choose to fly to the moon. Her thought processes and beliefs simply don't allow that choice, at least not for more than occasional moments.

      And, I still have times when happiness eludes me, when the choice seems impossible - and then something releases and I am peaceful again.

      I suspect that when we value happiness above all else it can be as big a trap as any. We humans have a wide array of emotions, and while happiness is the most pleasurable one, if we achieve that by suppressing other emotions it is hollow. In society's pursuit of happiness I suspect that we actually create more unhappiness because of suppressing other feelings. My experience is that when I stop trying to be happy, and simply allow (or even love) the less attractive emotions, they transform. And I seem to need to learn this lesson over and over and over because I still find myself resisting the supposedly negative emotions.

      As you can see Bill, this hub got me thinking! (I have never written a comment this long before.)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beckie, I believe that to be true for sure! I know I respond quite well to pain; it is often my best teacher. Like you, I hope others don't have to experience pain and loss before learning.

      Thank you my dear; sending you peace and happiness today, and all days.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cloverleaffarm, simplify for sure! I live without stress for the first time in my life, and it is because of my lifestyle. I wonder how many other people can say that they live without stress? Not many is my guess.

      Thank you, my friend, for the visit.

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      Shining Irish Eyes 5 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Billy - A fine addition to your informative and insightful series. While I was reading this article, the thought kept coming back to me that although it is a difficult and soul-wrenching experience, an individual that suffers multiple loss in a short amount of time receives a hard but valuable lesson in what really, at the end of the day matter. Losing loved ones, you home, your job forces you to put your life in perspective.

      I hope many come to this realization after reading this hub rather then having to experience traumatic conditions to gain the same perspective.

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      Healing Herbalist 5 years ago from The Hamlet of Effingham

      Wonderful hub. Simple is better. It is less stressful, and you are correct, one doesn't need to have most of what they have. Our motto here is "Simplify". Thanks for a great article. Voted up!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Bill! It seems to me that because you live frugally you can afford to travel, and to me that is money well spent.

      Have a wonderful weekend my friend, and thank you again.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rajan, for some it is very hard to break habits formed over a lifetime. I understand that; I'm just trying to convert one person at a time.

      I greatly appreciate you, Rajan, so thank you for the sharing and have a wonderful weekend.

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      Bill De Giulio 5 years ago from Massachusetts

      Yes, I am ready. I really don't need much in life. I drive a 16 year old car, live in a modest house and rarely buy much for myself. Basically I am pretty frugal. The only thing I really indulge in is I love to travel.

      Thanks for another great hub. Have a great weekend.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Hi Bill,

      Very useful pointers to achieve simple living. If only we care to follow these as much as we can we would be so much happier in life.

      Great read as always.

      Voted up and awesome. Sharing this with the hub community ,my friend.

      Have a great weekend.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Love you too, Sha, and I'll always be in your corner.

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      Shauna L Bowling 5 years ago from Central Florida

      Thanx, Bill. I so appreciate you thinking of lil ole me!

      Love Ya Lots!

      Sha

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cris, I could say the same thing. I could not be trusted at the Mall when I was younger....I had to have everything. Not so today and I love it.

      Thank you Cris!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Vellur, thank you my friend. I am, indeed, contented.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Martin, thank you my friend! I do not know your situation, but you keep referring to it so I think I have some idea. I greatly appreciate you following me daily.

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      CrisSp 5 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      That's why I tend to walk pass the Duty Free Shop every now and then, because there's a lot of temptations out there and I do avoid going to the mall too, if not necessary. And, if I go I must have my list with me. So, I'd be sure to pick up only what I need. I am more disciplined now compared to my younger days. Lol! Embracing a new lifestyle, satisfied, contented with just enough and loving it.

      You bet, I enjoyed this hub billybuc, as always. Thanks.

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      Nithya Venkat 5 years ago from Dubai

      Cultivating a contended lifestyle as you say is very important and thinking before buying really helps. Great pointers and thoughts. Great write. Voted up and shared.

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      Martin Kloess 5 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for encouraging us to look at our lifestyles. For me there is nothing left but make it to the computer.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I agree with you completely, Ruby! We all have our rewards that we have earned over the years, and that is as it should be. You work hard and you enjoy the fruits of your labor. I do have a problem with excess of any kind, and as you said, in not sharing the excess.

      Thank you my friend for the excellent comment.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I see nothing wrong with having what you want after working and saving. What I do see Is people who refuse to share with others. Giving is a wonderful feeling. More should try it. There are many places that are legit. The Red Cross is a wonderful place to give to help those in need.. Cheers my friend..

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, thank you and I do cherish you as a friend....remarkable since we have never met, but the truth all the same.

      Yes, I had to learn the hard way, but like you, I am blessed that I finally learned. Better late than never!

      Thank you again, and I hope you are having a wonderful evening in sunny Florida!

      bill

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, you said it quite well. I'm going to keep pounding this point home and try to win one convert at a time. Not lofty goals, but I think realistic.

      I've been giving a lot of thought about your financial situation and the living simply thing....another Hubber with similar circumstances wrote to me.....there will be a hub about it in the near future as soon as I organize it in my head.

      love to you my friend,

      bill

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      Patricia Scott 5 years ago from sunny Florida

      hi Billy

      This whole learning to live simply hit home for me about twelve or thirteen years ago when my grandson became ill and was reaffirmed nine years ago when my daughter became ill. Everything that had been importantly quickly fell away and was of little importance.

      Our lives can be filled with so much baggage that we lose sight of what to value. I found out the hard way but am so blessed that I did.

      Your words will reach many and offer them alternatives to the rush rush mentality. Voted up++++ Bless you my Friend, ps

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      Shauna L Bowling 5 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill, most of us know how to provide; it's a natural survival instinct. Each of us needs to be honest, go inside ourselves and determine what it will take to make our hearts happy. It has nothing to do with titles or possessions. Once we realize that, we can work towards feeding our souls. That's what life is all about. The soul continues when we die. Our possessions disintegrate and fade away. Is that what we are working towards?

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well, shoot, Liz, you said it better in three sentences than I did in 1500 words. That's discouraging! LOL

      Thank you young lady!

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      Liz Davis 5 years ago from Hudson, FL

      Distraction and materialism are the drugs of choice for so many people today. But happiness comes from within, and if you can't be content with less, you can never be happy with more. Thanks for another inspiring hub, Bill!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cyndi, you said it all in that one sentence....the life of a writer. :) Many writers are hermits; at least you and I get out once in awhile. :)

      Thanks lil' Sis! You are appreciated by little old me.

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      Cynthia Sageleaf 5 years ago from Western NC

      Well, you know how I feel. In fact, sometimes I wonder if I've gotten a little too simple. Sometimes I'll go for days without seeing another human being other than my husband...and interacting with my online friends. LOL. Ah, the life of a writer. Simple pleasures. :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Stephanie! I remember the first time a friend told me that if I wanted love I had to learn to give it...duh! My dad was the one who taught me about respect. Some lessons come hard to me but they do eventually come.

      Happy November to you and yours, Steph!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Shelley, that is sound advice! It is all common sense, which probably explains why so many people don't do it. :)

      Thank you my friend; keep singing the praises of frugality and maybe you and I can convert some people.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, I agree completely! At this moment I can't think of a single thing I am worried about. :) Life is good!

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      Stephanie Hicks 5 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      Excellent again, Bill! I am struck by several straight-forward thoughts that many of us get too busy to "remember." If you want love, then love more. If you want respect, then respect more. Gosh, I wish more people lived by these rules.

      As for clutter of the home and the soul, I think the easiest memory for me to tap into is how I feel when I clean out a closet or a drawer down to the essentials. That is how we should all live. It will free us to love and live the way intended.

      Happy November! Steph

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      Shelley Watson 5 years ago

      I always enjoy your good sense and advice. As you know I believe that frugal living with its simpler lifestyle really sets you free.

      During the year, I always over pay on those regular such as electricity, water, phone and internet bills, etc. When Christmas comes, I have that little extra to give at the end of November and December, as I don't have to pay those bills, because they are in credit.

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      Deb Hirt 5 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      A simpler life is truly what it boils down to. Then you will have less to worry about, and that makes all the difference in the world as far as happiness is concerned.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Aurelio, oh, that stuff! Where does it all come from, eh? LOL Been there and done that myself, buddy! Good luck whittling down that pile. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, my heart does ache for you; you understand this philosophy oh so well, but in your case, you can't even get what you need.....maybe Olympia buddy? Give me a call when you want to chat.

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      alocsin 5 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Excellent suggestions and am glad to say I practice most, if not all of them. But I still have all this stuff -- trying to slowly get rid of them while working toward a simpler life. Voting this Up and Useful.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Michelle! If we could just get about one billion people to understand the need vs want concept, I think the world would be a better place. :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Danielle, thank you for the compliment, and I love your outlook. Hey, so many people don't have a cute cat. :)

      You seem to understand priorities quite well; carry on and I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bac2basics, thank you for sharing that sad story, and please accept my heartfelt sorrow for you and your loss. How horrible, to make those plans and then to lose them.

      You recited a story very familiar to many, the working constantly to make ends meet, and the constant challenges, and how in the world do you ever get out from under? I honestly wish I had the answer, but there is only so much one person can do.

      I send best wishes to you, and a Hub hug of friendship as you go about your day.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, it is so nice to see you pop up on a hub again; you had us worried for awhile, but all is well in Hubland again. :) Thank you my dear, and I applaud you for having a holiday account in the bank. That is some serious forward thinking on your part. Well done!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hey Kelly, I always smile when I see you; I hope you had fun on Halloween. You are right of course; who knows what is ahead, and it is always wise to be ready for anything. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Linda, I am seeking contentment as we speak. :) Just finished with customers for the day, and now we'll see what's stored in my brain and waiting to escape. Thank you my dear; you and I, we are going to keep pounding values at the internet until someone listens.

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      Mark G Weller 5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      I agree totally with this article Bill. For myself, all I need to be content is enough income to survive without worrying about the roof over my head and food to eat. Unfortunately in modern society these basic things are not always available. Great job Bill,

      Mark

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      Michelle Liew 5 years ago from Singapore

      It's all about buying what you need, not want, and wasting money. Thanks for the advice Bill, which I keep and share too.

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      Danielle Heckman 5 years ago from Astoria, New York

      This is incredibly well written and I agree with what you're saying. When I actually am able to take a step back in life from all the money issues and things I need, (mostly just want) I really am content. I have family, friends and a cute cat. I may not make a lot of money, but I have my health and love around me. And in the end, that's all you really need.

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      Anne 5 years ago from Spain

      Hi Billy.

      my husband and I moved to Spain to simplify our lives. We never did crave all the trappings in the UK. True we had a nice home and a decent car, nothing flash or huge mind you, just nice. We holiday´d mostly self catering in our caravan, but still felt trapped in the rat race, hating not so much the jobs we both did, but the management who ruled over us, and so we moved to Spain. Life was supposed to be so much easier here, and true it is more of a life than a mere existence, but unfortunately my dearest died just 2 years short of us moving here and now I have so much work to do just to keep making a living I sometimes feel it´s overwhelming, ( there was supposed to be 2 of us remember, not just me on my own). I am not fortunate enough to be able to pay anyone to help me most of the time, I just have to keep working, and it´s not for a luxurious life style, that really doesn´t interest me, but I have to survive and pay my bills, and so the simple life we and now I alone crave, gets more difficult as the years go by. I do agree that what we think governs how we feel, but there are times when it´s very difficult to remain positive in the face of all life throws at you.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      So true Bill about the triggers and admit I will be harder during the holiday season with small kids. Kevin and I don't need much, but know that in the end I will be spending a small fortune on my kids. Luckily I did plan and even have a holiday account separate in the bank. But such good food for thought and as always you truly inspire me!! Have of course voted and shared all over :)

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      Kelly Umphenour 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      I have to say I'm pretty content....I don't have to be so frugal now but I try because who knows what's in store up ahead right??

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      Linda Crist 5 years ago from Central Virginia

      Basic values....isn't that the real key? It's the thing we lost that can bring us back to moderation, simplicity, quality, and conentment. As a society, the more we acquired, the more our values changed. We are just too blind to see it. This hub unveils the real issue and I applaud you once again. Great job Bill. Enjoy the day in contentment and love.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mr. Archer my friend....I won't call you by your real name unless you give me permission.....I have to find the Promised Land before I can lead anyone. LOL I think I know the general direction, but I keep running into detours.

      Thank you buddy! We all have that gene you mentioned, but fortunately there is a cure for what ails us.....common sense. :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, willpower is a toughie for most people.....we just keep truckin' and hope we are moving forward instead of reverse, right?

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nina, I guess that's not bad for this time of year; winter will arrive soon enough. We can always count on that, can't we? thanks again!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, anyone who thinks they can hold you down is an idiot! My money is one you every single day, and thank you my friend! You should get a loyalty award of some sort. I'll work on that. :)

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      Mary Craig 5 years ago from New York

      Can't keep a persistent lady down. Through Internet Explorer, I'm back....I'll figure out the rest later. So, I am now able to vote, up, useful, and verrry interesting.

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      Mr Archer 5 years ago from Missouri

      How very true. Simple, lacking in extravagence yet full of contenment. Wouldn't it be nice if we lived a life in that manner? Try as we may, we all seem to fall victim to the dreaded "See It Want It" gene. But we shall continue to strive to eliminate that from our life, and from our children's so they might have a chance, also. Lead us to the Promised Land, Bill!

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      Tillsontitan 5 years ago

      Well, first of all I'm having trouble signing in to hubpages...guess it doesn't remember me....second of call, Will Power does not live at this address, however, I am trying! The simple life and plain old simple morals are the only way to go Bill. So much wisdom in your words!! I'm going to try and come back later so I can vote!!!!

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      nina64 5 years ago from chicago, Illinois

      Billybuc, Our weather here in Chicago has been somewhat of a mixed bag. One day it's in the 50's, the next day temperatures might reach up into the 70's. At night, it usually gets down into the upper 30's and lower 40's. Keep those wonderful hubs coming. Be blessed.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nina, thank you and I'm glad you enjoyed this. No, we can't outrun modern life; I'm just trying to divorce it from my life. An amicable divorce but a divorce nonetheless. :)

      Thank you my friend, and I hope you have a great day in Chicago....is it getting cold there yet?

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Randi....I just got done with one of yours and enjoyed it!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, the irony was lathered on pretty thick with that mistake. :) Thanks again....how many times do I need to proofread something????

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      Randi Benlulu 5 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Great, great and true. I wasn't sure this subject had this many installments, but it does, plus! Thank you for clarifying and bringing more good ideas and thoughts to the forefront! Well done, as usual!

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      nina64 5 years ago from chicago, Illinois

      Hello billybuc, Once again, you have gotten my thoughts going in full throttle as I read your hub. I love your ideas of being simplistic in our modern society. Who needs all the high tech gadgets, big 70 inch plasma tvs, and fast cars? Big is not always better; if anything, you will have more problems. As I read your hub, I'm thinking of the space cartoon "The Jetsons" where the characters live in a futuristic society with every convenience available to them. But yet, they still encountered problems as well. Like you, I wish our modern world was more simple and carefree, but I know that won't happen anytime soon. But we can choose to make changes in our everyday life so that we can live a more simple and frugal life. Voted up.

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      Paula 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Oh the irony......read YOU title?? Amazing what one simple letter of the alphabet can do, isn't it?? I do back-watching for a living....LOL

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Alex, I have no answer for your question. It is the same here, and it is getting worse, not better, despite some silly news releases to the contrary. Once one finds themselves in a hole, it is mighty hard to climb out in today's economy.

      I'll live in that community as soon as you get it started. Save me a hut!

      Thank you my dear!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, it took me a number of years to realize that triggers were bad. :) I'm not the brightest bulb in the pack sometimes. I don't know about you, but I only need two pots to cook with. :) Just in case I want to items for dinner of course.

      Thank you my friend!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thundermama, if you feel it then you are! How's that for a confusing statement. LOL I'm glad if these hubs help; thank you so much for the kind words.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Xstatic, no kidding! I was shocked to find out that I had a choice in the matter. LOL Funny now; not so funny back then.

      Thank you Sir! Stay dry in Oregon if possible!

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      SilverGenes 5 years ago

      Excellent hub, Bill. It is definitely a state of mind but where there is no security at all, there is stress on a daily basis. I know it may not be the same in the U.S. but in Canada, many are struggling just to have a roof over their heads and food on the table. Our official middle-class income begins at about $27,000 a year but there are millions working 2 jobs that can't even come close to that. Many more are unemployed or have to leave their families and travel across the country for work. Seniors and disabled people live on less than $12,000 a year. When rent alone is 75% of your income, how do you have peace of mind? This is the piece of the puzzle that I am missing. If I ever win the lottery, the first thing I would do is create a self-sustaining community living project where all residents contributed their talent as they can, where all people are respected for their abilities equally. Ah... we can dream. Your posts always give me a little more hope :)

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, and you just got through praising me for my grammar! LOL I had to read it three times before I caught it. Thank you my friend; you always have my back.

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      Catherine Taylor 5 years ago from Canada

      Always enjoy your hubs bb, they serve as a reminder to stay the path and not get reeled back into a society that has it's priorities out of whack. Small is good, less is more. Every time I read one of your hubs on frugal living I feel like I'm on the right track.

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      Jim Higgins 5 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      Outstanding advice Bill! It is a real epiphany when you finally realize that "you have chosen to be miserable..." and every other feeling as well. Our state of mind is our own choice, positive or negative, trying to live mindfully and in the moment is the best choice.

      Amazon is my shopping hazard.

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      Paula 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Can you hear the thunder? Do you see the lightening? Pssst.....It's BEYOND shocking!! My eyes do deceive me.

      Sooo I run to my brother's rescue.....before the earth begins to quake and falls directly into H E L L............Read you Title............You're welcome. Think nothing of it!!

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      carol stanley 5 years ago from Arizona

      What interested me most in this hub among other things.. was the triggers. It is so true that you only think you need something is when you see it. Going shopping randomly is the time your Need trigger is set off. I find I am very content with what I have until I may see something that I THINK I need. All good lessons here Bill, and we really just need the basics in life to be happy. As said before buying things is just a temporary high and the real thing in life is the happiness spark. It is about feeling comfortable in our skin and enjoying what we have. After all how many different pots do you need to cook? Thanks again for a great and enlightening hub.