Money Infidelity

Money Infidelity is a problem for many marriages.

Are you keeping secrets from each other about money?

Do you have joint bank accounts?

Can you trust each other to manage a budget?

Financial fidelity gets to anyone and the problem comes with past issues or present issues of money. You vow to take care of each other through all times, but when you secretly take out a debt with the other having no clue about that.

Trust is crucial and loving your partner does go hand in hand.

Anything can change in the time given together. You tend to focus on what you need and forget the limit you have spent on those items.

Credit cards are tempting and before you realize it, you are in over your head with credit card debt. Secret loans add more to your debt and you do not see this until one day you do not have a dime.

You allow yourself to purchase what you want and forget about what you need.

Money is made to be spent, but what about saving for that rainy day?

Trust is broken in a marriage when you lose that moment doing whatever you want to make yourself feel happy.

On the other hand, you become the betrayer for spending money over a budget or do not stick to the plan as promised to each other.

Hiding bank accounts, secret loan debts, and bad spending habits are some of the top reasons for the high divorce rates I hear about and have read. Due to modern technology secret debts can be easily hidden from each other.

Banking online is private and you get to keep your own statements to yourself and without your partner knowing about it.

How do you manage money?

Gambling debts online, compulsive shopping online, borrowing money from friends, spending money on friends in spoiling each other on dates, and giving more to others than you should have or can afford to destroy trust in a marriage.

These are problems people have with money infidelity.

Does your partner spend more than you do?

Do you trust your partner after payday?

In a marriage you have separate bank accounts, is this a foreign meaning to you?

Do you spend money that you do not have?

For example, would you spend money on items you can’t afford on your budget?

No matter, who in the marriage wants to spend money on anything they want or need is a crisis if that partner doesn’t seem to fit to manage money. Husbands and wives who have joint bank accounts must keep track of where the money is being spent and who is making that withdrawal.

Trust makes a couple feel secure and marriage feels positive at the same time. Any negative issue that comes between a married couple or a relationship could make the couple feel betrayed.

It doesn’t matter who earns more than the other, what matters is how one chooses to manage their monthly budget with what they have earned together on every income.

It becomes infidelity when couples hide their spending patterns from each other.

Money infidelity is a destroyer to your marriage and a cheat to your marriage. In most marriages, this is a cheat from the beginning to the end.

A troubled marriage in money cheat ends quicker than it began. In most marriages lies about money is the first red flag.

A little lie about money turns out to damage a marriage and increases the terrible behaviours to each partner. Money cheaters are not easily avoided.

Hidden bills, hidden cash in the cookie jars, online purchases, or other small or big purchases are a secret from each other this makes a marriage fail in trust and communication.

When you marry each other everything earned becomes ‘’ours’’ most of you may not see it that way, but this is what you say in your vows.

Money becomes an issue in a marriage when two people begin to tell lies about their purchases or spending ventures.

It is never well-planned nor is it out in the open about where the money has been spent. One partner overspends and the other partner chooses to get back at their partner for doing that.

An act of revenge to blow up that marriage.

These behaviours are irresponsible and embarrassing to each other.

The truth hurts and telling the truth about their overspending holds them back to avoid fear. This is seen when your partner becomes defensive when talking about money expenditures.

Finances become a secret and your spending is more than you had planned in your budget.

The problem arises when your partner argues about money spent. In time you discover hidden bills not paid or are not up-to-date.

The spending habits become revengeful.

You begin to lose trust in your partner’s spending money daily. In any situation dealing with money, you need to discuss these issues with your partner before spending leads you into unexpected debt. Guilt, anger, lies, and lack of trust ruin any marriage.

Imagine what money, and infidelity can do to your marriage if you do not pay attention to the common red flags!

Of course, you will feel betrayed, and notice a financial setback. It would help if you felt upbeat and helpful to avoid embarrassment. You would feel cheated on with money spent without knowing about it and on unnecessary purchases.

You feel hurt by lies in cheating on your partner with another, be it physical or emotional. It is the same as in money cheating.

Something you may not see your marriage right away!

It is better to admit your wrongdoing than to blame others for it. First, stop lying and refrain from hiding bills, statements, and money in secret spots.

Be responsible and be honest about your purchases. Most importantly, both partners must agree on the discussions of money.

Money cheating is lying about money, hiding, money, being irresponsible with your money, and losing trust in each other. Also, about you being generous with money, and of your secret purchases.

At some point in your marriage, you feel you want to admit what felt was wrong to do without the knowledge of your partner. However, if you plan to do this you never come out with the hidden cash or how much you spent on shoes.

Your secret credit card and hidden debt is far from your partner finding out about it.

Does your spouse lie to you about money?

For example:

• A friend is fed up with lies in her marriage.
• Money spent and no proof of where the money has been spent.
• Her husband gambles and lies he had paid the bills.
• This issue happens with both genders, no one partner is innocent of this guilt.
• Money ruins friendships, marriages and other relations with families.
• It is difficult to come clean and admit what you have spent, especially if you know it shouldn’t have been that way.
• Money cheaters have become a common problem in many marriages.
• A problem you need to focus on and think of rationally.
• Communication is key to solving, trust issues.
• Conflict worsens the problem.
• So, if you want to shop for everything you never had in your past that doesn’t mean you must go overboard and create debt.
• Set goals for shopping and how much to spend on items you need for yourself.
• You can spoil yourself now and again but with a limit.
• Control is key to following a budget.