It seems that what you are speaking of is the difference between living in the amazing republic that the clever Benjamin Franklin warned the American people they might not be able to hold on to and the democracy that too many who say they want it do not understand.
Contrary to popular opinion, a republic limits government intrusion while a democracy gives government more freedom than the people it is supposed to serve. Understanding the difference between the two is most effectively obtained by studying what the founders themselves wrote about it.
For instance, Madison wrote, "As there is a degree of depravity in mankind which requires a certain degree of circumspection and distrust: So there are other qualities in human nature which justify a certain portion of esteem and confidence. Republican government (that of a Republic) presupposes the existence of these qualities in a higher degree than any other form. Were the pictures which have been drawn by the political jealousy of some among us faithful likenesses of the human character, the inference would be that there is not sufficient virtue among men for self government; and that nothing less than the chains of despotism can restrain them from destroying and devouring one another."
Today, people rebel at such thoughts, but that does not change the truth of them. Having no manifest ability to learn from history, nor the desire to be honest about themselves individually or as a whole, nor the wish to believe that no one can have everything, we see a large group of people crying for a democracy that they do not comprehend as they reject the republic that has allowed them the freedoms they enjoy.
The issue isn't whether we need a government, the issue is whether we will rebuild our authentic republic (one that is unlike any other so-called republic) or pursue a democratic form of government that always leads to stronger divisions among people, including the ruling class as opposed to the people they decree unable to make proper decisions for themselves.
Once that concept is grasped we run into people with issues on the word proper, as if the concept of certain things being right or wrong should be dismissed and everyone should be allowed to do as they please. If we allow the realization of what that would mean to guide us back to what the founders worked through and shared with the future (us) through their writings, we have some hope of rebuilding our republic. A moral is needed.