Anger, Complaints, Insult Then Self Control
Most of the world is driven by anger and that brings about complaints, for something done wrong or maybe just jealousy or envy towards others. I accidentally knock a person on a crowded street in the city centre and the person gets ultimately angry with me. Feeling disgusted by my act or behaviour, he begins to insult, “you fool!”, “did you even go to school!” , “you look like a dirty old cat!” , and so on.
What is funny about most of us is that we shall raise a voice back whether we are in right or wrong. Why? We have also been angered by the insults that have been thrown mercilessly to us. I couldn’t blame us because maybe we have been insulted in public and we wouldn't want to feel weak in front of others.
But let me tell you these two things;
“When I angrily reply to an insult, in other words, when I revenge on the person who has insulted me, that person feels energised that his insults are taking action and hence will continue pouring insults towards me.”
For example as I noted above about my situation in the city centre, I definitely had no fault in anyway I could see. But I could have told him, “What could you have expected on such a crowded street?” or “What in world is wrong with you? Do not call this a big deal.”
Feeling challenged, he will also answer back and the situation continues.
But on the other hand;
“When I keep quiet while ignoring all that is said to me, the insulter feels weak and embarrassed."
On his heart, I bet that he prays that I open my mouth and shower out insults in order to cover his shame, especially if he is a better person at insulting than me. Even saying, “I am sorry, please forgive me” soon becomes troublesome too as you could imagine other insults like, “Sorry! Well what can sorry recover?”. But if the atmosphere isn’t that tense, I could say it and it all ends there.
Note!
That is self control.
It is just like people say:
“Silence is the best way to revenge"
